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Anonymous wrote:PP, as I said I was simply curious. I don't need any answers, I just wanted them.

Very good. But again, I would caution you against thinking that bringing a friend along to your job is "common" based on the handful of answers on this thread.

Don't worry yourself over the things I think, I've got a handle on it.

Here's what you said: "I was surprised that she was so comfortable with it and was wondering if it was common - I got my answer (it is!)...".

I'm not actually worried about YOU thinking that bringing along your friend to your job is common, I'm worried about all the nannies reading this that will then accuse their MBs of being on their "high horse" and of not trusting that their nannies aren't bringing along a "child molesting drug dealer" when really, they just want their nanny to do the job they are paying them for and use leave if they have personal things to do.

Ok, but then you'll be the MB on here complaining that your nanny is abusing her sick leave or taking days off to hang out with her friends. We really can't win with MBs like you.

No, I seriously won't. That's why employers offer leave time. Our nanny has the standard two weeks of leave, unlimited sick time, and all Federal holidays off. She can do whatever she wants with her leave. She doesn't even have to tell me what she's doing. Now if she's used up all her leave, and repeatedly asks me for more leave to hang out with her friends, yes, then we'll have an issue.

Listen, I said I'd be ok with my nanny bringing along a friend if we'd talked about expectations and if I met the friend and if it was a nanny I really liked and trusted. I'm not saying it's a definite no. But you may have an MB who wants her nanny to be focused totally on her job and who would really rather not allow a person she doesn't know to be hanging out with her kids all day when she's paying for a service, and that's her perogative. I don't think you get to be irritated because your boss would rather you not bring along a friend to your job.

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B - maybe in rare circumstances but for the most part no unless it was beneficial to the both of us. For example, the friend has a child the same age as mine and they could do playdates for a few days.

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Anonymous wrote:PP, as I said I was simply curious. I don't need any answers, I just wanted them.

Very good. But again, I would caution you against thinking that bringing a friend along to your job is "common" based on the handful of answers on this thread.

Don't worry yourself over the things I think, I've got a handle on it.

Here's what you said: "I was surprised that she was so comfortable with it and was wondering if it was common - I got my answer (it is!)...".

I'm not actually worried about YOU thinking that bringing along your friend to your job is common, I'm worried about all the nannies reading this that will then accuse their MBs of being on their "high horse" and of not trusting that their nannies aren't bringing along a "child molesting drug dealer" when really, they just want their nanny to do the job they are paying them for and use leave if they have personal things to do.

I'm the OP (the other reply to this post wasn't from me) and that's completely fair. I went with a friend to her nanny job once when I was visiting from out of state and remember being surprised that her boss allowed it - and even more surprised when my boss suggested it yesterday, but I don't know if I'd ever feel it was appropriate to ask and certainly would never feel like I was entitled to do so. I think with a great nanny who you know will be focused on the kids, having her friend along could mean nothing more than the kids having an extra playmate for the day (my friend has been loving on the baby all day today and they're both thrilled about that), but it would make perfect sense to me if an MB wasn't comfortable with it.

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It is no more unprofessional than "bring your brats to work" days in an office.

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Anonymous wrote:To the PP MB, please get over yourself. If you trust your nanny enough to care for your children, you should trust that the friend she is bringing isn't a child molesting drug dealer. Seriously, get off your high horse.

Exactly.
The only thing that makes me wonder if OP is 16, is the question of being "allowed" to do anything. Can you envision your mb talking about what she's "allowed" to do at her job? If she's a grownup, she likely understands what's kosher and what isn't, but being "allowed" is really just for children, not for intelligent adults. Whenever something new comes up, you discuss the issue and arrive at an agreeable solution. That's usually how adults interact in a mutually respectful way.

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Anonymous wrote:It is no more unprofessional than "bring your brats to work" days in an office.

That's not a good comparison since that is an annual recognized event with a stated purpose during which the organizations that encourage it generally have activities planned for the kids on that one particular day. Completely different from not wanting to use a PTO day to bring your friend along to work. But while you're on the topic, unless your organization truly encourages it, I think most people thing take your kid to walk day is pretty unprofessional too...

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Anonymous wrote:To the PP MB, please get over yourself. If you trust your nanny enough to care for your children, you should trust that the friend she is bringing isn't a child molesting drug dealer. Seriously, get off your high horse.

Exactly.
The only thing that makes me wonder if OP is 16, is the question of being "allowed" to do anything. Can you envision your mb talking about what she's "allowed" to do at her job? If she's a grownup, she likely understands what's kosher and what isn't, but being "allowed" is really just for children, not for intelligent adults. Whenever something new comes up, you discuss the issue and arrive at an agreeable solution. That's usually how adults interact in a mutually respectful way.

Huh? There's tons of things I'm not "allowed" to do at my job. I'm not allowed to bring friends along for one. I'm not allowed to be using the Internet or be on my phone for personal things. I'm not allowed to wear jeans. I'm not allowed to be late. Etc. etc. just because I WANT to do something doesn't mean my employer is required to discuss it with me and come to an agreeable solution.

I can't even begin to imagine the look I would get if I said to my boss "hey my friend is in town - is it ok if she just tags along with me for my work day? She's great with reports and data analysis actually, so I think it will actually be good for all of us. I'd rather not take a leave dsy or leave her by herself for 8 hours."

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Anonymous wrote:To the PP MB, please get over yourself. If you trust your nanny enough to care for your children, you should trust that the friend she is bringing isn't a child molesting drug dealer. Seriously, get off your high horse.

Exactly.
The only thing that makes me wonder if OP is 16, is the question of being "allowed" to do anything. Can you envision your mb talking about what she's "allowed" to do at her job? If she's a grownup, she likely understands what's kosher and what isn't, but being "allowed" is really just for children, not for intelligent adults. Whenever something new comes up, you discuss the issue and arrive at an agreeable solution. That's usually how adults interact in a mutually respectful way.

Huh? There's tons of things I'm not "allowed" to do at my job. I'm not allowed to bring friends along for one. I'm not allowed to be using the Internet or be on my phone for personal things. I'm not allowed to wear jeans. I'm not allowed to be late. Etc. etc. just because I WANT to do something doesn't mean my employer is required to discuss it with me and come to an agreeable solution.

I can't even begin to imagine the look I would get if I said to my boss "hey my friend is in town - is it ok if she just tags along with me for my work day? She's great with reports and data analysis actually, so I think it will actually be good for all of us. I'd rather not take a leave dsy or leave her by herself for 8 hours."

As an adult, don't you know that it wouldn't be kosher to bring your friends to your office? Or is it really just a matter of your not being "allowed" to, and therefore you don't? If your office boss did "allow" you to (just for one day), where would you put them all day, in the lunch room? See how silly you're being?

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Anonymous wrote:A, as long as they were prepared to stick pretty close to DD's usual schedule and activities.

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It's definitely not professional, but I don't think nannies are professionals in the traditional sense. If I trusted the nanny, I'd probably be fine with it.

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Anonymous wrote:To the PP MB, please get over yourself. If you trust your nanny enough to care for your children, you should trust that the friend she is bringing isn't a child molesting drug dealer. Seriously, get off your high horse.

Exactly.
The only thing that makes me wonder if OP is 16, is the question of being "allowed" to do anything. Can you envision your mb talking about what she's "allowed" to do at her job? If she's a grownup, she likely understands what's kosher and what isn't, but being "allowed" is really just for children, not for intelligent adults. Whenever something new comes up, you discuss the issue and arrive at an agreeable solution. That's usually how adults interact in a mutually respectful way.

OP here and you're insufferably dumb. You're not allowed to speed in your car, drink liquor in a movie theater, or blast music from your office computer. Everyone of every age has rules they follow PP. In this particular case, bringing a friend to work would not be considered kosher (in your words) but an MB might make an exception and allow it under certain circumstances.

If you think you get to set the rules at your place of employment you've never been employed and I don't care how much you protest. Companies pass out handbooks covering what employees are and are not allowed to do - gasp even when their staff are in their 40s and 50s!

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Exactly.
The only thing that makes me wonder if OP is 16, is the question of being "allowed" to do anything. Can you envision your mb talking about what she's "allowed" to do at her job? If she's a grownup, she likely understands what's kosher and what isn't, but being "allowed" is really just for children, not for intelligent adults. Whenever something new comes up, you discuss the issue and arrive at an agreeable solution. That's usually how adults interact in a mutually respectful way.

OP here and you're insufferably dumb. You're not allowed to speed in your car, drink liquor in a movie theater, or blast music from your office computer. Everyone of every age has rules they follow PP. In this particular case, bringing a friend to work would not be considered kosher (in your words) but an MB might make an exception and allow it under certain circumstances.

If you think you get to set the rules at your place of employment you've never been employed and I don't care how much you protest. Companies pass out handbooks covering what employees are and are not allowed to do - gasp even when their staff are in their 40s and 50s!

+10000 I am very sick of the idiot nanny who constantly posts that she should get to do anything and any rules means that she isn't trusted. BS. Childish attitude.

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As a MB, I wouldn't see a problem with it at all. I DO trust my nanny and her judgement. I trust that she wouldn't expose my children to anyone or anything that wasn't safe. Having my children around new people is a good thing! One of the main reasons I have a nanny who takes the kids out to the park, on play dates, to lunch in restaurants, etc instead of a daycare.

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Exactly.
The only thing that makes me wonder if OP is 16, is the question of being "allowed" to do anything. Can you envision your mb talking about what she's "allowed" to do at her job? If she's a grownup, she likely understands what's kosher and what isn't, but being "allowed" is really just for children, not for intelligent adults. Whenever something new comes up, you discuss the issue and arrive at an agreeable solution. That's usually how adults interact in a mutually respectful way.

OP here and you're insufferably dumb. You're not allowed to speed in your car, drink liquor in a movie theater, or blast music from your office computer. Everyone of every age has rules they follow PP. In this particular case, bringing a friend to work would not be considered kosher (in your words) but an MB might make an exception and allow it under certain circumstances.

If you think you get to set the rules at your place of employment you've never been employed and I don't care how much you protest. Companies pass out handbooks covering what employees are and are not allowed to do - gasp even when their staff are in their 40s and 50s!

+10000 I am very sick of the idiot nanny who constantly posts that she should get to do anything and any rules means that she isn't trusted. BS. Childish attitude.

I'm a MB, not a nanny, and I couldn't disagree with you more. A nanny is not an office job. I have a very professional nanny however nannying is a different kind of professional. I do trust my nanny and all of her judgements. I would be completely fine with her having a friend tag along for a couple days. No, as my nanny, I do not tell her what she is allowed or not allowed to do. I don't have "rules". I hired her because I trusted her judgement to run my household in my absence and make any decision I would make while I am not home with my children. My children are my world and I would never hire a nanny that I didn't trust 100% to make decisions that weren't in their best interest. I have friends around some days and my friends love my kids! A long as the friend she had around was happy to be around my kids, have fun! My kids love meeting new people!

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I agree with other posters that pointed out how it will make you look less professional. There is no reason to bring a friend to work. Its just silly and immature.

I probably wouldn't mind but it would definitely make you look more like a young teenage sitter type than a professional nanny who takes pride in her work in my eyes. So its true that your MB might not mind but it doesn't help your reputation.