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Anonymous wrote:This is hilarious. Are you 16 years old? You want to bring your friend along to work. You're scared that your employer will see this as unprofessional (BTW- it is unprofessional) so you post your poll for nannies to all come in and say they bring their friends to work. Your next plan is to print this out and show your MB with the tried and true teenage approach 'look everyone else is doing it, its not fair if I can't!'. You are of course forgetting the other tried and true approach where your MB will talk to other MBs and find out that their professional nannies do not bring their BFFs along to work with them.

How is it unprofessional to have an extra set of hands at an outing with 3 children under the age of 6. One position I had, my MB encouraged my sister come along and help out if I asked. Not only did the kids love spending time with a new babysitter/friend but my bosses became comfortable enough to use my sister as a backup sitter when I was unavailable.

Would I invite my best friend to come to work with me for no reason? No. Just like I don't want to go sit in her office all day and watch her stare at a computer screen.

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LOL at the poster saying it is unprofessional. I moved to a different state for this job and my best friend came to visit. She tagged along w/ my charge and I for two days during the week that she was here. My MB was fine w/ it. Who cares? My charge is still my top priority and I am not going to abuse sick leave. We did the same things we would do every day except my best friend joined us. That's it.

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Yeah I know you didn't want commentary, but let's face it, this is DCUM

I'm an MB and I can't answer either way on this definitively. My first instinct is that if my nanny asked, I would be pretty surprised. First of all, I don't really get why it would be necessary. Couldn't you just take a day off or plan to meet your friend after work? It seems weird to me to ask to bring a friend along to your job.

I also would be concerned because I don't know this friend, I don't know their child care skills, and it always concerns me to have more than one person "in charge" of the kids - what if one person thinks the other has the kid and vice versa and then no one has the kid?

But I guess if I had a nanny that I'd had for a while and that I really trusted and that her friend was in town just a short while, I would be ok with it. I'd wonder why she didn't just take leave though. It might even be fun for the kids. But I would definitely want to meet the friend first and I would definitely be having a discussion with my nanny to make sure my expectations for the day were clear.

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Anonymous wrote:LOL at the poster saying it is unprofessional. I moved to a different state for this job and my best friend came to visit. She tagged along w/ my charge and I for two days during the week that she was here. My MB was fine w/ it. Who cares? My charge is still my top priority and I am not going to abuse sick leave. We did the same things we would do every day except my best friend joined us. That's it.

Sorry, PP. I'm glad it worked out for you, but that doesn't mean that all MBs are going to be fine with it.

Professional - "characterized by or conforming to the technical or ethical standards of a profession (2) : exhibiting a courteous, conscientious, and generally businesslike manner in the workplace" - asking if your friend can tag along may be fine with your MB, but it doesn't really qualify as "professional." Professional doesn't mean "I did it at my job and it turned out fine."

I would also caution any nannies considering things like this that if you want to be treated by your employers as a qualified professional, that asking if your buddy can tag along for the day is probably going to hurt your MB's perception of you. If this is just a job to you and you don't care about being seen as professional, then by all means ask and your MB might be totally fine with it.

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C on two occasions but one was my brother and the other was my sister. So that may be different

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah I know you didn't want commentary, but let's face it, this is DCUM

I'm an MB and I can't answer either way on this definitively. My first instinct is that if my nanny asked, I would be pretty surprised. First of all, I don't really get why it would be necessary. Couldn't you just take a day off or plan to meet your friend after work? It seems weird to me to ask to bring a friend along to your job.

I also would be concerned because I don't know this friend, I don't know their child care skills, and it always concerns me to have more than one person "in charge" of the kids - what if one person thinks the other has the kid and vice versa and then no one has the kid?

But I guess if I had a nanny that I'd had for a while and that I really trusted and that her friend was in town just a short while, I would be ok with it. I'd wonder why she didn't just take leave though. It might even be fun for the kids. But I would definitely want to meet the friend first and I would definitely be having a discussion with my nanny to make sure my expectations for the day were clear.

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For those commenting, I suppose go ahead if you like I'm OP and my employers invited my friend to join us for a day (they don't have backup childcare so if I'm off for a day MB misses a day of work) wheh I mentioned she was coming to town and I was surprised that she was so comfortable with it and was wondering if it was common - I got my answer (it is!) so I'm satisfied. This was purely curiosity on my part so I'm not going to engage in any debate, but I suppose if you guys want to, go ahead

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Anonymous wrote:For those commenting, I suppose go ahead if you like I'm OP and my employers invited my friend to join us for a day (they don't have backup childcare so if I'm off for a day MB misses a day of work) wheh I mentioned she was coming to town and I was surprised that she was so comfortable with it and was wondering if it was common - I got my answer (it is!) so I'm satisfied. This was purely curiosity on my part so I'm not going to engage in any debate, but I suppose if you guys want to, go ahead

If your employer invited you, then I don't really get why you were even asking - obviously she's fine with it and that's what matters. Also, the fact that 6 or 7 posters said their MB had allowed it doesn't mean that it's "common" especially since you asked people not to even weigh in if it had never come up. What that means is that out of the population of people that happened to be looking at DCUM during the time period in which you were seeking responses and who happened to read your post and deem it worthy of a response and who went ahead and answered that this exact scenario had happened to them (or decided to answer anyway), that a handful of posters said that yes it had. I don't really think you can take a lot of information out of that.

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PP, as I said I was simply curious. I don't need any answers, I just wanted them.

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Anonymous wrote:PP, as I said I was simply curious. I don't need any answers, I just wanted them.

Very good. But again, I would caution you against thinking that bringing a friend along to your job is "common" based on the handful of answers on this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:PP, as I said I was simply curious. I don't need any answers, I just wanted them.

Very good. But again, I would caution you against thinking that bringing a friend along to your job is "common" based on the handful of answers on this thread.

Don't worry yourself over the things I think, I've got a handle on it.

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To the PP MB, please get over yourself. If you trust your nanny enough to care for your children, you should trust that the friend she is bringing isn't a child molesting drug dealer. Seriously, get off your high horse.

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Anonymous wrote:PP, as I said I was simply curious. I don't need any answers, I just wanted them.

Very good. But again, I would caution you against thinking that bringing a friend along to your job is "common" based on the handful of answers on this thread.

Don't worry yourself over the things I think, I've got a handle on it.

Here's what you said: "I was surprised that she was so comfortable with it and was wondering if it was common - I got my answer (it is!)...".

I'm not actually worried about YOU thinking that bringing along your friend to your job is common, I'm worried about all the nannies reading this that will then accuse their MBs of being on their "high horse" and of not trusting that their nannies aren't bringing along a "child molesting drug dealer" when really, they just want their nanny to do the job they are paying them for and use leave if they have personal things to do.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP, as I said I was simply curious. I don't need any answers, I just wanted them.

Very good. But again, I would caution you against thinking that bringing a friend along to your job is "common" based on the handful of answers on this thread.

Don't worry yourself over the things I think, I've got a handle on it.

Here's what you said: "I was surprised that she was so comfortable with it and was wondering if it was common - I got my answer (it is!)...".

I'm not actually worried about YOU thinking that bringing along your friend to your job is common, I'm worried about all the nannies reading this that will then accuse their MBs of being on their "high horse" and of not trusting that their nannies aren't bringing along a "child molesting drug dealer" when really, they just want their nanny to do the job they are paying them for and use leave if they have personal things to do.

Ok, but then you'll be the MB on here complaining that your nanny is abusing her sick leave or taking days off to hang out with her friends. We really can't win with MBs like you.