Nanny lied about being late

[Anonymous]

Huge ethical breach. Wow.

[Anonymous]

I reported this to Jeff.

I wonder if when someone admits to illegal behavior, if he can track them down and turn them into the police. Well, let's see.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi, I was hoping for advice on what to say to my nanny of 9 months who was late this morning due to having to go to the dr for a bladder infection/uti, or so she says. I am a doctor myself and was able to access her medical/prescription records, and turns out she did not receive the medication she said she did. There was no prescription filled from today. I had a gut feeling that she was fibbing, and now I pretty much know she was. So my question is, what do I do now?? My family does really love her, she's a wonderful nanny, but I don't know how big of a deal I should make of this. I haven't told my husband yet...

Any advice/opinions appreciated! TIA!

You had no right going into her records. If you are not treating her, then there is no reason and I would think that it is illegal for you to do so (if not, then it should be).

[Anonymous]

Will you people shut up. LOL, damn!

OP if you're not planning on firing her (which I assume you aren't), then I wouldn't bring it up that you went threw her files.. MANY people fib, although her pretending to have gotten a UTI is kind've weird, LOL.. I just don't think the awkwardness and tension is worth it, and besides she will feel put on the spot and make up yet another lie..

I'd ask her to provide a doctor's note from now on if I were you..

[Anonymous]

Let's says you're not a troll. How often is she late? If this is a regular occurrence I can see why you would be concerned that she's lying but if you ever told me you knew I was lying about being at the doctor because you looked through my medical records or prescription I would quit on the spot. It really sounds illegal and unethical as many have said.
Unfortunately i used to lie to two employers about going to the doctors when they were very inflexible and I needed to get one or two errands done during the week that couldn't be done on weekends. This would only happen once every couple of months. What some parents don't realize sometimes is that nannies do have lives and errands to deal with too. Many of us have obligations and our own families too, we also sacrifice a lot of time to be flexible for the job. So every once in a while we will need time off to run errands, or go to the doctor.
I now have an understanding boss that i don't lie to her when I need to attend to something. If what I need to do conflicts with her schedule we try to find an alternative day for me to get things done too! And I have no problem accommodating her when she needs me to because she does the same for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I reported this to Jeff.

I wonder if when someone admits to illegal behavior, if he can track them down and turn them into the police. Well, let's see.

+1.

[Anonymous]

OP, here's a real legitimate answer for you:

It does not matter WHY she was late. You have to make your decision on how often she's late, how often she calls in sick and how she is with your kids. That's it. Maybe the doctor gave her samples to take. maybe it was another ailment she was embarrassed telling you about so she said UTI instead. Regardless - you as an employer, don't get to decide if her reason for her absence was worthy enough. She gets to use her sick leave the way she sees fit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Will you people shut up. LOL, damn!

OP if you're not planning on firing her (which I assume you aren't), then I wouldn't bring it up that you went threw her files.. MANY people fib, although her pretending to have gotten a UTI is kind've weird, LOL.. I just don't think the awkwardness and tension is worth it, and besides she will feel put on the spot and make up yet another lie..

I'd ask her to provide a doctor's note from now on if I were you..

Your condescension would be much easier to take if you were able to spell correctly.

[Anonymous]

No way this is real. No doctor would risk their reputation or medical license for something so silly.

[Anonymous]

Obviously OP is a troll but....I was recently talking to my insurance agent about taking out a life insurance policy and she did say they access some records department that records all of your prescriptions. I doubt some random doctor would have access to it or that she would get the information all in one morning.

[Anonymous]

0654 that's the MIB I don't know if that's the same place the OP mentions

[Anonymous]

I had a nanny call yesterday to say that she wasn't coming in because her husband was sick. To that I rolled my eyes, but, hey, she's a great nanny and I wouldn't fire her over that. As for UTI fibbing, hey, does your nanny have a contract that specifies how many sick days she gets, whether she gets paid for them, and so on.

Let me tell you, THAT is what you need. Not a spy.

Get your contractual act together. That way, when she has X sick days available to her, she can take them without any explanation whatsoever, and you don't have to feel like you should check up on her. Headache, flue, stubbed toe? No matter.

Just don't be a sneaky, conniving employer. That's really bad. It makes for seriously bad mojo, not to mention the legal crap folks have already brought up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I reported this to Jeff.

I wonder if when someone admits to illegal behavior, if he can track them down and turn them into the police. Well, let's see.

+1.

Do you seriously think that Jeff has time to do that? He doesn't even know if the story is true.

[Anonymous]

You could face serious repercussions if this was discovered and reported to the board/legal authorities. Very illegal.

[Anonymous]

Once you give anyone your SS number, they can get anything on you. Illegal? Sure. Since when do doctors care much about that?