Nanny lied about being late

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If this is true your both disgusting and terrifying. I love the family I work for, but I'm so happy to be finished with the nannying world when my position is over. Too many parents think they should get to put their nose where it absolutely doesn't belong

Right?!? The whole "I'll do whatever I have to for my kids" argument gets really old. "Even if it means squashing all over someone else's rights, being a horrible person, or just generally being a bitch. It's all for my kids! I wasn't an asshole before them!"

[Anonymous]

OP,

You are an absolute idiot for coming onto this forum and admitting to violating HIPPA laws. Are you nuts? What kind of person are you?

Your nanny was late because she said she had a medical problem, maybe she didn't feel comfortable telling you the truth. I hope she reads this forum and sees what kind of monster you are. Shame on you.

[Anonymous]

If this is real then you and your nanny are a perfect fit. Not enough morals between the both of you to equal a person I'd want my kid around.

But I think troll is likeliest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So she hasn't filled the prescription yet. Please fire her and tell her why. Then I hope she posts here and I will gladly refer her to a lawyer who can sue you.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So she hasn't filled the prescription yet. Please fire her and tell her why. Then I hope she posts here and I will gladly refer her to a lawyer who can sue you.

She said she did, though, so I know she's lying. When I asked her how she felt she said "Good. A lot better now because of the medicine." (This was once she was at work--my DH was the one to stay home and wait for her, so he's the one who actually saw her but I called over lunch time) To anyone who thinks I am so unethical or a horrible human being for "invading her privacy" just consider the fact that she made it my business once she lied to me about a fictitious ailment in order to come in to work late, where, once there, she takes over the responsibility of watching MY kids. Besides, what I did was technically not illegal, so unless you are a lawyer in my state or a doctor in my business/hospital, please don't assume otherwise.

No, she didn't make her personal medical information your business whether she lied or not.

It is absolutely illegal, and unethical, and if I didn't think you were a troll I'd be a lot more up in arms about it.

My DB is a doctor and he was reluctant to even ask who my PCP was (we go to the same practice) and kept assuring me I didn't have to answer any of his questions (which were things like, how long did you have to wait, what did you think of the doctor, did you meet so-and-so we did our residency together). I cannot imagine a scenario in which he would think it was appropriate to look into my medical records even if he did have access to them. Ever. At all. Even if I passed out at work and was taken away in an ambulance he wouldn't invade my privacy because 1) it's illegal and 2) it's unethical.

[Anonymous]

I'm an MB and a doctor and there is no way this could be true. First of all, I would never in 1000 years think of checking my nannies medical record. I would never violate her trust like that but besides that I don't know any ethical doctor out there who would take the chance at doing something so illegal and it IS illegal to do that. You could lose your license over something like that.

[Anonymous]

I'm hoping this is a troll post and Jeff can confirm.

[Anonymous]

I also think this is a troll post, but let's pretend for a second it's not.

It doesn't matter why she was late. She was late. If she has PTO, then you can ask that she take PTO for the time she wasn't at work. If she has no PTO, then she takes the time unpaid.

Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP, it depends on a lot of factors. First and foremost, if your doctor's office has paper medical records. If they do, the only way your boss (or anyone) could access your records would be if they worked at the same office and pulled your chart.

Otherwise, if your doctor uses electronic medical records, it becomes trickier. The hospital I work for is part of a larger network. Technically I can look up a patient that is in that network, even if it is not the hospital where I work. But, some doctor's offices are pretty strict with who has access to their records so that does not apply to all hospital networks. There are a lot of other things I can tell you, but I don't want to give THE TROLL answers to my questions. But short answer, there would have to be a lot of things in place for your bosses to be able to easily access your medical records.

Side note: There used to be a nurse who worked in our hospital whose ex SIL was treated in another dept of the hospital. The nurse accessed her medical records to give to her brother to use in the divorce/custody hearing. Her ex SIL was able to see that the nurse had accessed her medical records and filed a complaint with the hospital. Obviously, since this is illegal, it was reported. That former nurse is now in a TON of legal trouble for what she did.

Thank you!!

[Anonymous]

There's no way this is legal. Was she given a controlled substance for a UTI? If not, I don't know what kind of database you're talking about.

[Anonymous]

OP, tell her that the next time she is late due to a last-minute doctor's appointment, you will need to see a doctor's note or prescription. Let this one go since she is a great nanny and because you also behaved inappropriately by accessing her records. Even if you could, you shouldn't have.

[Anonymous]

What I'd like to know is, how did you get a hold of ALL this info which clearly concerns your Nanny NOT you so quickly.
It says a LOT about you as an employer, I think you're out of place to go digging in you Nanny's medical record, how would you feel if she did it to you.

[Anonymous]

you hired her and clearly you DON'T trust her, then I'd say you have bad judgment. Why did you feel the need to go so far, that's illegal. Even as her employer it doesn't give you the RIGHT to violate her rights. You should address the issue of her being late and how often she late and stop sticking your nose where it doesn't belong.

[Anonymous]

you hired her and clearly you DON'T trust her, then I'd say you have bad judgment. Why did you feel the need to go so far, that's illegal. Even as her employer it doesn't give you the RIGHT to violate her rights. You should address the issue of her being late and how often she late and stop sticking your nose where it doesn't belong.

[Anonymous]

You went into her medical records????!!!! I thought they were strictly confidential. You broke the law in going into them OP and you should be prosecuted for this. Shame on you for abusing your privileges as a Dr.

Ethically what you did was wrong as well and for both you and your nanny's sakes, I would let her go with a nice severance package and an excellent letter of recommendation.

I would never want to work for someone like you. One who abuses her power to break the law.