Got fired over a text message....

[Anonymous]

You just proved my point OP. It seems like you have an inability to see other people's point of views.

Yes, you didn't really get fired via text message because you were the brought it up first and asked for an explanation. Maybe she felt she owed you the explanation right then and there instead of dragging it out. It sucks. I agree with that and I can empathize. I don't really know what you want me to say, you want me to agree with you and bash on your MB? I'm not going to do that because I don't even know the woman. Put on your big girl pants and move on like an adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're right, OP. Firing you via text message probably wasn't the best mode to go about letting you go. Getting fired stings. But hey - you weren't a good match for her and she probably saved you both a lot of agony in the long run because now you can find a position that's better suited for you.

Maybe she didn't like the constant reminders about her daughter. Who knows. And it's silly to expect everybody to adhere to your code of conduct. But the reality is that she has moved on, so why don't you? Or do you want to stamp your feet and shake your fists about it a bit more on DCUM? Perhaps it would be prudent to spend your time looking for a new job.

OP here: Stamp my feet and shake my fists? Really? Please move on if you have nothing helpful to say. This just happened at 11am today....I will be looking for a new job but please don't talk out of your ass.

Also, if you had actually read what I wrote prior, you would have seen that I said that SHE was the one who asked about her daughter EVERY DAY when she met me to relieve me. I did not bring it up on my own everyday. She was the one who wanted to know what had happened that day with her.

Not the PP.......

OP, I think when the mother asked about any "issues" she wasn't talking about typical 11-year-old issues. I mean, did you really need to tell MB that she snuck a snack? I'm sure you handled it. She hired you to handle typical antics. When she asked if there was any issues she was probably talking about siblings physically fighting, hitting you, etc. Not a rundown on every little thing her daughter did. That's a headace.

That aside, you did the right thing. You contacted her right away when you seen the ad. When you weren't satisfied with her response you let her (politely) know. Getting your feelings out is good and sometimes people just aren't matches. It has less to do with you as a person. She's still saying nice things to you which makes me think that she just doesn't think you mesh well with her families personality.

[Anonymous]

00:23 - agree with point #1. Disagree that it is ever acceptable to fire someone via message. "Jany, we need to talk, please call me as soon as you are able."

Also, it is terrible to not pay someone 2 week's severance if you are letting them go w/o any notice. Only situation where that is OK is if it is still clearly a "trial period" and both sides are aware that it is such.

- an MB boggled at how OP's MB handled this.

[Anonymous]

It is really astounding how poorly the help is so often treated.
And here we are in 2013 America.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're right, OP. Firing you via text message probably wasn't the best mode to go about letting you go. Getting fired stings. But hey - you weren't a good match for her and she probably saved you both a lot of agony in the long run because now you can find a position that's better suited for you.

Maybe she didn't like the constant reminders about her daughter. Who knows. And it's silly to expect everybody to adhere to your code of conduct. But the reality is that she has moved on, so why don't you? Or do you want to stamp your feet and shake your fists about it a bit more on DCUM? Perhaps it would be prudent to spend your time looking for a new job.

OP here: Stamp my feet and shake my fists? Really? Please move on if you have nothing helpful to say. This just happened at 11am today....I will be looking for a new job but please don't talk out of your ass.

Also, if you had actually read what I wrote prior, you would have seen that I said that SHE was the one who asked about her daughter EVERY DAY when she met me to relieve me. I did not bring it up on my own everyday. She was the one who wanted to know what had happened that day with her.

Not the PP.......

OP, I think when the mother asked about any "issues" she wasn't talking about typical 11-year-old issues. I mean, did you really need to tell MB that she snuck a snack? I'm sure you handled it. She hired you to handle typical antics. When she asked if there was any issues she was probably talking about siblings physically fighting, hitting you, etc. Not a rundown on every little thing her daughter did. That's a headace.

That aside, you did the right thing. You contacted her right away when you seen the ad. When you weren't satisfied with her response you let her (politely) know. Getting your feelings out is good and sometimes people just aren't matches. It has less to do with you as a person. She's still saying nice things to you which makes me think that she just doesn't think you mesh well with her families personality.

OP here: she did want to know all of these things. She was having issues in school with listening and lying about her work to the teacher so the mom wanted to know about this every day. She wasn't asking about sibling fights, etc. As for the snack thing, the family was VERY stern about snacks and the kids had a list of snacks they were allowed to eat so when everyday she was trying to hide food in her clothes, that was an issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You just proved my point OP. It seems like you have an inability to see other people's point of views.

Yes, you didn't really get fired via text message because you were the brought it up first and asked for an explanation. Maybe she felt she owed you the explanation right then and there instead of dragging it out. It sucks. I agree with that and I can empathize. I don't really know what you want me to say, you want me to agree with you and bash on your MB? I'm not going to do that because I don't even know the woman. Put on your big girl pants and move on like an adult.

You sound likE a broken record at this point.

[Anonymous]

Ditto.

[Anonymous]

OP, every subsequent post you write solidifies my original opinion that you are someone who sounds like she thinks she knows how ALL situations should be handled (i.e. your way) and if not, you throw a hissy fit. That IS precisely what you are doing here, regardless of whether it happened as recent as 11 am today, because whenever anyone tried to gently point out another pov to you (perhaps that of your 'evil' MB), you argued against each piece of advice, pointing out all the ways you were correct and that poster was not.

Again, like I said, someone who can never be wrong=you, OP.

This +100. The MB got rid of someone who was a PITA. Good for her. You need to get over yourself. For goodness sake, you're only a part time babysitter who was there for a few months. You weren't a long term employee. MB shouldn't waste any energy debating with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

OP, every subsequent post you write solidifies my original opinion that you are someone who sounds like she thinks she knows how ALL situations should be handled (i.e. your way) and if not, you throw a hissy fit. That IS precisely what you are doing here, regardless of whether it happened as recent as 11 am today, because whenever anyone tried to gently point out another pov to you (perhaps that of your 'evil' MB), you argued against each piece of advice, pointing out all the ways you were correct and that poster was not.

Again, like I said, someone who can never be wrong=you, OP.

This +100. The MB got rid of someone who was a PITA. Good for her. You need to get over yourself. For goodness sake, you're only a part time babysitter who was there for a few months. You weren't a long term employee. MB shouldn't waste any energy debating with you.

You very clearly did not read any previous posts. I did EXACTLY what she asked me to do...which was tell her what was going on with her daughter. When her teacher is making the same complaints, there is clearly an issue with the child.

Please don't post if you are just going to make crazy assumptions. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Request your ref letter, and see what they have to say, in writing. Next have someone call them for a ref on you to see if it agrees with whatever they wrote about you.

OP here: she emailed me a letter to print today and it said all nice things. Pretty much "she is very reliable, always on time, great with homework help, etc.".

[Anonymous]

Next have someone call her to see if she's consistent.

[Anonymous]

PP here. I agree with 00:17, you come across as angry (with some justification) and relentlessly argumentative. It sounds like the MB responded graciously, and gave you some severance. Given that you were part time and had only worked for them 3 months I think you are lucky to get anything.

Give it up now and try to be a little more flexible w/ future bosses. I would not hire you if I detected this hard line stance and argumentativeness at all in interviews or the first couple of months of employment. I bet the MB could have articulated very clearly what her concerns were but she didn't see the need to be hurtful. You could benefit from a little more self-awareness. And clearly if you don't want candid feedback (and aren't able to take some flaming) you shouldn't be asking for advice on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, OP. I wouldn't take this one personally, but I agree with the other posters that maybe MB took your emails regarding behavior as you not being able to handle it - which isn't true, you're just trying to communicate with the family. That's her issue, not yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP here. I agree with 00:17, you come across as angry (with some justification) and relentlessly argumentative. It sounds like the MB responded graciously, and gave you some severance. Given that you were part time and had only worked for them 3 months I think you are lucky to get anything.

Give it up now and try to be a little more flexible w/ future bosses. I would not hire you if I detected this hard line stance and argumentativeness at all in interviews or the first couple of months of employment. I bet the MB could have articulated very clearly what her concerns were but she didn't see the need to be hurtful. You could benefit from a little more self-awareness. And clearly if you don't want candid feedback (and aren't able to take some flaming) you shouldn't be asking for advice on DCUM.

OP here: so me clarifying things people say on here is me being argumentive and angry? All I've done is correct things people are saying when they aren't true. And what do you mean by be more flexible? I did everything they asked and more. I have never been fired or had a bad reference from a family so this was very new to me. However, I've moved on. I got a nice reference letter and severance so I'm fine.

[Anonymous]

Haha, OP. Good luck in your future endeavors. Clearly you will need it.... **OP comes in and proceeds to point out all the ways in which she WONT need luck in the future. Because she is always right, dontcha know??**