Got fired over a text message....

[Anonymous]

It doesn't matter if the way she fired you was professional. It's not like she has to give you notice, right? Maybe she talked to her DD and there is something about you that she doesn't like that isn't something you can change. Don't you live in an "at will" state?

Let go of the fact that you were fired via text. She CALLED you, and you didn't answer, so she left you a voicemail. If she'd hauled you out of your house, made you pay for gas to get to hers, only to say "You've been great, but this hasn't been a good match so I'm letting you go. Thanks for everything," would you TRULY have been happy? No. You're just butthurt because you got fired.

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Anonymous wrote:Haha, OP. Good luck in your future endeavors. Clearly you will need it.... **OP comes in and proceeds to point out all the ways in which she WONT need luck in the future. Because she is always right, dontcha know??**

Wow aren't you just so professional? Stop sock puppeting and get a life.

[Anonymous]

OP Here: so just an update...I got a phone call from the mom about an hour ago telling me that she feels really bad about how this happened and wanted to talk. She told me that she understood that I was working with "K" on all the issues she was having and really appreciated me staying open with her but that with the issues "K" was having in school and it continuing on to after school, they thought that someone with teacher experience would be best. The majority of my experience is with infants and toddlers so I definitely get where she is coming from. She apologized for how it happened and had planned on telling me Monday and seeing if I'd stay on until they found someone new, but I saw the ad she posted and asked her about it so it changed things. She asked if I'd still babysit on weekends because "k" was upset about this and apparently "promised to be better", but its definitely better this way.

[Anonymous]

Good to hear the update. Hope it all works out for you and the children.

[Anonymous]

13:06, I was the PP you quoted (not sure how to highlight PP's in my post, as you did) and.....huh? What do you mean "sock puppeting"?? I know what THAT actually means, but what led you to believe that I was doing that? Weird.

I just didn't agree, nor like the attitude of and responses from, the OP. Excuse me for my opinion....you keep on posting yours (which apparently you're entitled to but others are not) and I'll go "get a life," as you say. Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:13:06, I was the PP you quoted (not sure how to highlight PP's in my post, as you did) and.....huh? What do you mean "sock puppeting"?? I know what THAT actually means, but what led you to believe that I was doing that? Weird.

I just didn't agree, nor like the attitude of and responses from, the OP. Excuse me for my opinion....you keep on posting yours (which apparently you're entitled to but others are not) and I'll go "get a life," as you say. Lol

OP here: I posted an update and the mom validated that I wasn't fired because "K" "didn't like me" or because of any other reason you gave. Please stop coming on here and trying to stir up drama now. THanks.

[Anonymous]

OP, you think that the MB was unprofessional but so were you. You called the MB out over voicemail! That is completely unprofessional. You should have called her and asked to meet and talk. What is the difference between her firing you by voicemail since you basically left a voicemail asking her to clarify your work status?

She sounds lovely (severance, multiple follow ups) and you sound like an argumentative unprofessional overly entitled bitch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you think that the MB was unprofessional but so were you. You called the MB out over voicemail! That is completely unprofessional. You should have called her and asked to meet and talk. What is the difference between her firing you by voicemail since you basically left a voicemail asking her to clarify your work status?

She sounds lovely (severance, multiple follow ups) and you sound like an argumentative unprofessional overly entitled bitch.

OP here: Not sure where you are getting that from but I did NOT call her out over voice mail. Please read back and get your story straight. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you think that the MB was unprofessional but so were you. You called the MB out over voicemail! That is completely unprofessional. You should have called her and asked to meet and talk. What is the difference between her firing you by voicemail since you basically left a voicemail asking her to clarify your work status?

She sounds lovely (severance, multiple follow ups) and you sound like an argumentative unprofessional overly entitled bitch.

Omg. I can't believe nastiness here. Goodness gracious!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am guessing that she misunderstood your telling her often of K's behavior/discipline problems as being that you don't know how to handle them or didn't like having the issues. Especially if she kept apologizing for them and saying it won't happen again. From a parent's perspective, when our kid was in preschool and had a tough time adjusting (for a long time, like 5 months), we got sick and tired of hearing about what he did wrong when we picked him up. We kept apologizing but pulled him out as soon as we could and found another school because we felt like if it was a big enough deal, then call us when it happens to deal with it, but if you dealt with it, why tell us over and over and over again. There was nothing we could do about it after the fact - so it just made us feel awful.

I'm not saying you did anything wrong, but if the mom kept apologizing, she may be feeling what we felt. That she just wants someone that could handle the usual normal bahavior problems without making it a conversation each day and only report to her the big deal stuff.

This is what I thought as well. Also, maybe it was the parents thinking you were not bonding well with the 11 yr old and that their daughter really just needed someone else that she could bond with to work with her. So maybe it was more about their daughter than you specifically, you just weren't a good match for the child?

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Anonymous wrote:You're right, OP. Firing you via text message probably wasn't the best mode to go about letting you go. Getting fired stings. But hey - you weren't a good match for her and she probably saved you both a lot of agony in the long run because now you can find a position that's better suited for you.

Maybe she didn't like the constant reminders about her daughter. Who knows. And it's silly to expect everybody to adhere to your code of conduct. But the reality is that she has moved on, so why don't you? Or do you want to stamp your feet and shake your fists about it a bit more on DCUM? Perhaps it would be prudent to spend your time looking for a new job.

OP here: Stamp my feet and shake my fists? Really? Please move on if you have nothing helpful to say. This just happened at 11am today....I will be looking for a new job but please don't talk out of your ass.

Also, if you had actually read what I wrote prior, you would have seen that I said that SHE was the one who asked about her daughter EVERY DAY when she met me to relieve me. I did not bring it up on my own everyday. She was the one who wanted to know what had happened that day with her.

Maybe she was asking everyday to see if things were changing with how the 2 of you reacted together daily? If things were slowly starting to get better and you were developing a bond or not? It apparently wasn't really happening, she could change her behavior some but she was not bonding with you. If it doesn't start to happen after several months, then it probably just wasn't going to happen. It was crappy how she fired you, but you cannot fault her decision for doing so. It WASN'T a good fit.

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Anonymous wrote:00:23 - agree with point #1. Disagree that it is ever acceptable to fire someone via message. "Jany, we need to talk, please call me as soon as you are able."

Also, it is terrible to not pay someone 2 week's severance if you are letting them go w/o any notice. Only situation where that is OK is if it is still clearly a "trial period" and both sides are aware that it is such.

- an MB boggled at how OP's MB handled this.

It was a PT position that she had for only a few months, not a FT job that she had for a year or more. No severance is needed if it was not a good fit and not working out. Also, maybe there WOULD have been more notice but the OP forced MB's hand with asking about the ad online. Which caused her MB to let her know about her decision when she might not have had a chance to figure out an end date at that point and definitely didn't have a chance to GIVE her employee notice. If I was going to take a day to figure out that sort of stuff and my employee left a message for me like OP did, I probably would think twice about having her come back to work for another week or 2 and just end it then. The MB also ended up giving the OP a week's pay for severance, which was more than fair for how long she had been working for.