Bringing child to work offer
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Anonymous
Not really if the approx $13/hr she is currently getting is standard for her area. Rates are not all the same everywhere. She would be making a fair rate considering that she is adding her own child to the mix. Some people try to get away with paying that rate for a nanny where I am located and our minimum wage starting in Jan 2013 will be $10.55/hr! |
Anonymous
If you think your baby's care will ever come first in a cheap home daycare situation you are deluding yourself. A mother's "second" is better than a warm body's second/third/sixth Further, not wanting her son's schedule dictated by baby does not have to equate to putting baby second. Just means as another poster said that your baby will be more like a 2nd/3rdchild vs. first while at work. I don't think a 3.50 reduction is unreasonable- but your rate seems low to begin with. Are you being paid legally? ( taxes out, OT pay for hours over 40?) |
Anonymous
Sounds like a good solution OP. We live near family also and have found it invaluable to being a two-working-parent family. Best of luck to you! |
Anonymous
| Good plan OP. It sounds like you would not be happy w/ the situation at work even if it was more money so it makes sense to go w/ the family option. |
Anonymous
She's not in DC. And she is a nanny to two school-aged kids who are actually in school all day. It sounds like she might even be being paid when they're in school (so she's being paid even when going to her doctors appointments)? Given that, it sounds like a great rate to me. And as we all know, a lot of the rate depends on whether she's being paid legally, whether she's being paid an hourly rate or salaried, how much education and experience the nanny is, how long she's been with the family, etc. OP, I know you're thinking about moving, which sounds like a good plan. But you also want to look at this from a totally financial point of view too. Try to estimate what rate you would get in a nanny share if you move back home (that is, you watching your child and another infant). Internalize that you are not going to get a typical market rate if you are bringing your own child. So this income estimation does not get to be full market rate for what you would typically get watching one infant. Estimate how your housing costs will change and what it will cost you to move out of your current place. Also estimate how much it would cost you for a daycare or other childcare that you would be comfortable with (yeah, maybe you can get childcare for $400/month, but be sure it's something you would actually leave your child in). Consider what the work would actually mean - are you really off all day but still getting paid when the boys are in school? That sounds ideal to me with an infant. You could spend that time getting paid to watch your own child. Maybe I'm misunderstanding you on this point? Consider that you know and like this family and that they have proven themselves to be respectful and giving (letting you go to the doctors, they want to keep you enough to propose you bringing your child). Consider that moving and finding a new job when you're really pregnant is going to be very difficult and a big leap of faith. Talk your husband down. This is not an emotionally-charged, disrespectful thing they have proposed. It makes total sense that you would take a cut in salary if you bring along your own child. The question is how much - they've started the negotiations. They've proposed $3/hour, maybe you come back with a $1-2 cut and see what they say. Or come up with a plan for how this will not affect their kids and that they get to keep you, their awesome nanny and pitch it to them to show them you've thought about how to make this work with minimal interruption to the kids' schedules. After you've thought through all that, maybe it still makes more sense to go back home. Then, sure, do that - it's nice to be near family. But please don't make this a knee-jerk reaction based on your husband freaking out that they are disrespecting you. |
Anonymous
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I am really surprised by both your and other posters' responses that this is an offensive offer. I think it's really generous and demonstrates how much your MB values you. There is literally NO benefit to her for you bringing your baby and the reality is, no matter how you cut it, your attention will be very divided. All MB is saying is that you don't force her children to give up their activities for your child's schedule. Seems reasonable to me since that is what she is paying you for.
Now whether or not the offer is for you is different. If its not the right choice for you, that's fine. You can decline. But it's a really good offer and despite all the nannies on this board who like to brag about how they have found jobs bringing their kids to work for a full salary (anyone else think its the same one or two nannies who just post that over and over?), the reality is those jobs are VERY hard to find and at the end of the day, I wouldn't undervalue the ability to take your child to work with you. I would do it in a heartbeat if I could (lawyer MB here)! |
Anonymous
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I am the nanny who previously posted that I was bringing my child to work. PP, I do not really appreciate what you are insinuating. I am not a liar, I do work with three families and I do bring my child with me. I am paid what I am worth and my families agree with it. I have been working with one of them for over two years and the bringing of my child has never been a problem or obstacle.
Now, I never said it was easy to find a job. In fact, I did mention in my post that it will be tougher to find a decent position, but it is possible. When I place an ad, I always mention that my child comes with me and I do get contacted by families who just love the idea. I do not force it on anyone and I do understand that it is not a situation for everyone. But, please, do not act as if you were above it all. Be open-minded and understand others may have different ideas, ways or needs than yours. |
Anonymous
| OP here. Thanks again for all the input, even to the many rude ones on here. Like I said, we have made a decision that will work best for our family. And to the rude one who said we should not be having kids, it was not planned. Sometimes things still happen, duh! But it happened and so we are trying to make the best of it and be happy. |
Anonymous
| OP again. Yes I get paid legally with taxes taken out. I get paid for 50 hours a week with no overtime. It's salaried. |
Anonymous
When are the kids in school? Or are you actually with them 50 hours a week? |
Anonymous
| And does it work out to $13 that you actually take home? Or does it work out to $13 before taxes come out? |
Anonymous
| There is a 3 hour window, 3 days per week, where both boys are in school and that is spent cleaning and doing errands for the family. So no I don't get to just sit on my ass all day. And as I said before, I would be going back to when they are out for the summer and need my attention constantly. We had been talking about moving back long before this offer came up to have the family support we need anyway. It's not a knee jerk reaction. It just makes more sense. I would have family coming to help us move back while I am on leave. |
Anonymous
| The $ |
Anonymous
| The $13.25 per hour is BEFORE taxes are taken out. |
Anonymous
| Those of you saying that this would be of NO benefit to her MB need to stop and think. Reducing her salary that much would be a HUGE benefit to the MB. She gets cheap child care for a nanny that has to promise to always put her baby's needs second to the boys. |