OP you sound like a bored SAHM. Get a hobby, read a book, take a class, something... |
OP here - lol I assure you I am not lonely. I have enough friends and people to talk to. When my twins were little, many people came up to talk to me about their twins. I thought it was sweet. I don't think you understand it because you are not a mother of twins. I only stopped her the other day because she was walking by my house the same time I was coming home. I just said hi and looked in on the babies since I hadn't seen them in a while. I was not trying to befriend her. |
OP here - thank you! Just because I see things doesn't mean that I am bored or whatever. I am human and have a brain. I appreciate everyone's comments (even the negative ones). And those of you who do have nannies - I do hope that someone would look out for your kids as well. |
I do have a nanny and do appreciate when neighbors run into me at the store and mention they saw the baby out with the nanny and how happy they were. Maybe these twin babies sleep better when they're moving. Taking a two hour nap twice a day is fine. Fresh air is FINE. You are making something where there's nothing. |
OP - I think you can casually mention something to the mom, but try to do so in a very non-judgmental manner b/c honestly, there are a whole slew of good reasons for what you are witnessing that don't fall into the category of the nanny ignoring the kids.
As a MB, yes - I'd want to know about this and I also would want to foster a good relationship with my neighbor SAHM friends, because I value their opinion and kind of want them watching out for my kiddos. BUT...and this is a big but...you really need to just make a casual observation about this in order to not come across as, well, a noisy b*itch. |
It's not the MBs getting hysterical here. Simmer down. |
All the negative posters are nannies who don't like to be told what to do or interfered with in anyway. Their biggest fear is a neighbor reporting on them when they are doing something potentially reckless. This isn't stalking. It's not like OP is driving around looking for them.
Tell the parents then leave it alone. I'm nonconfrontational so i would put it in an envelope. However, if you're up for it then mention it to the mom. |
Two hour trips twice a day sounds like a nice way to get 8 month olds to take two nice long naps, perhaps?
As an MB I wouldn't mind if you said you noticed it, and if I knew about it I'd clarify. I would mind if you registered concern about them being strapped down, though. That would come off as "I know more about raising kids than you." If you do say something, it's a question or information only. |
Why does it matter that they're twins? I fail to see what this had to do with the story. |
Stories have details. |
Make a photocopy of this thread. Put it in a sealed envelope in their mailbox. |
That would most definitely blow her cover, why not just tell her face to face? As long as you say it in a non-demeaning way, such as "I noticed how much time your nanny spends out with the kiddos, do they sleep better in the strollers?" And then add in a little something like *mine were the same way at that age* doesn't seem bad at all. I can't see how a mom would be offended by this and if she didn't know that the kids are out so often with nanny and she disapproves then she can bring it up with the nanny. |
Are the babies screaming and crying on these naps? If not get a fucking life op. Go read 50 shades of grey, you sound really uptight and probably need to get laid. |
Always amazed at the MYOB replies. No this is not normal and of course it is not good for the babies to be in the stroller that long. Please tell the parents and then they can decide what to do. |
TELL HER....in an anonymous letter if you're worried about looking crazy, but I'd want to know. I can only hope that another mother would do the same for me. |