An accident prone charge... How to explain why I am quitting
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Although I am fairly new to my family there have been a couple issues that are scaring the holy hell out of me. First, I arrive in the early morning to a very unhappy, crying child and am told DC is just having a bad morning. DC cried off and on very hard all day, really ear piercing cries. I texted MB throughout the day giving her updates. She called and spoke to the GM during an hour I spent rocking DC to settle. After I left for the day I get a call that DC's arm is injured and DC needs to go to a hospital. It turns out DC's elbow was dislocated the entire day. I spent so many hours holding and rocking him that I didn't have a chance to really see him nursing the arm. GM did not pick up on it either. GM was co-watching with me the whole day, we took turns holding and rocking, so there is no chance that I did anything to injure DC. However, GM swears the crying intensified after I bathed him right before I left, the only 30 minutes the entire day that I was alone. More, MB had x-rays done even though the doctor told her it was not a fracture, it would upset him further, and mean staying at the hospital for hours until they could get in to be x-rayed. In the end the arm was reset in less then five seconds. DC starting running around playing afterward. It was a stressful night all around. Still, the next day MB told me not to worry, everything was fine, DC was happy . I accepted her assurances.
Then one recent day, DC stood up under a hard surface and bumped his head. GM, who is still spending every day with me, rushes over and yells "what did she do to you?! Did she hurt you again?" Her distress worked DC up even more and DC went from crying to wailing and begging for mom. MB walked in the room having no idea what was happening just that her baby was very upset so she immediately started checking DC for a major head injury. Understandable given the context. DC stopped crying within a couple minutes. When I left the house DC was volleying a beach ball back and forth with sister. I have not been ok. The first incident I was home crying for hours with worry. The second incident put me over the edge. As soon as I heard the way GM framed the question I decided this is not a family I want to work for. It is fine if MB and GM want to wage WWIII every time DC bumps himself, this is a big ole free world we live in after all. But I am not the woman for the job. They will have to find someone else because there is a liability issue waiting in the wings and I don't want any part of it. My mind is made up. My only concern is how to word my letter of notice? |
Anonymous
| I don't do good with kids that hurt themselves. I end up breaking out in laughter and I usually can't stop because they start getting more upset at me laughing and they start screaming which just cracks me up more. It's a curse. |
Anonymous
We are not kindred spirits. I don't find it amusing to see a child hurt and I don't want readers thinking your cruelty is somehow related to what I am experiencing. |
Anonymous
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To the OP: you don't tell the the reason. You found something that is closer, better pay, better fit, whatever. Don't even bring up the real issue.
To 19:55: You sound completely insane. |
Anonymous
Yea why help them change. Just let the next nanny fall into the same miserable trap. Grow up and tell them the problem, especially the part about Grandma since there is no way they can know that. Hope they change their ways or talk to Grandma. And then move on. |
Anonymous
You can't honestly say it's not funny to see a kid smack into a door. |
Anonymous
NP, but no it isn't. Not if they are hurt/scared/crying. You don't sound like someone who should be anywhere near children. |
Anonymous
You are COOKOO. |
Anonymous
| OP I think you need to tell them why. The way Grandma reacts to things puts you in a bad position, and you won't work like that. |
Anonymous
| Why are you their nanny when grandmas there all day? Why do they have grandma 'watching' you all day?! I'm sorry you're dealing with op, I would give notice and leave. I wouldn't even explain why, as they may say they will change and won't. |
Anonymous
Never, never tell the truth to these people. |
Anonymous
| How about "I am uncomfortable with the way these two issues were handled. I take my role as a safe, loving nanny seriously. Your/GM's response was misleading and unacceptable because of the following reasons... It is important that I work for a family for whom I am a good fit. With this critical piece missing in our relationship it is necessary to bring our arrangement to a close." |
Anonymous
How has that worked for you? |
Anonymous
| Just get out and do not look back. |
Anonymous
This. Don't explain anything, just QUIT. These people are an enormous liability to you. |