So Incredibly Conflicted

[Anonymous]

I shadowed a nanny and was essentially interviewed by her at the request of the parents. During the 8 hour day that I shadowed her I was floored by her behavior! In an 8 hour span she:

She flashed the doorman while pushing the stroller
Smoked some sort of Nicotine Cig incessantly
Used my credit card to purchase her lunch without my permission
Instructed me on how to fool the mother into believing I "loved" the child. Said her affections for the child was all an "illusion"
Allowed the child to cry so violently she projectile vomited and then hide all the evidence instructing me not to tell the parents
Used the term "dirty effing Jews"
Placed the stroller with the baby in a bathroom and allowed her to CIO against the parents wishes and then sat against the front door of the apartment (again smoking her E-cigs) "just in case the parents walked in"


I could go on and on! I feel like I should share this with the mother but she has already shared with me how guilt ridden she feels about making a bad judgement call about a previous nanny. She thinks her nanny hung the moon! The mom said she actually cried when she told the nanny they would be letting the nanny go due to a move.

I won't accept the job if it was offered to me because that would mean another week of shadowing this nanny but I'm conflicted about telling the mom what I witnessed. I just needed to get this off of my chest.

[Anonymous]

Wouldn't you want to be told if it were your child? I would agree to the job but not to shadowing.

[Anonymous]

And if that poor baby ends up on the news for something even worse happening to her by this horrific person - that you would be ok with OP?

[Anonymous]

What's wrong with these parents?

[Anonymous]

Seriously? Tell the fucking parents.

[Anonymous]

Well it all happened very quick. Mom sent me an email oddly enough telling me I wasn't being offered the position. I thanked her and shared that I think she needs to install the nanny cameras again and then she called. We just got off the phone and she sounded shell shocked. I've been doing this for 10+ years and I've never had this happen to me.

Getting it off my chest felt good but this mom is devastated. She spoke so highly of her nanny. I'm still digesting what I witnessed and what the inaction actually says about me as a caretaker so I can't imagine how she is feeling. Just sucks.

[Anonymous]

Jesus Christ ! And how can you trust your nanny..

[Anonymous]

The family had nanny cameras before and an App called NannyConnect. They did their due diligence but this nanny is manipulative and without a moral compass. Everything she shared with me painting her in a negative light and she just talked and talked and talked.

[Anonymous]

So is this nanny leaving ? Are you getting the job? I would say something after you get the job or after they tell you they are not interested. This is crazy behavior.

[Anonymous]

Troll

[Anonymous]

There's no app called nanny connect. Get a life loser

[Anonymous]

This doesn't make sense. If the family is moving why are they interviewing you ? Are you going to move with them ? How did the nanny get your credit card ?

[Anonymous]

The family is moving to my area and current nanny doesn't want to accompany them. She ordered lunch while I was bathing the baby (after she vomited) I thought she was either being nice and treating me to lunch or the parents left her money. When I came down she said she had used my card to pay for my lunch. I thought nothing of it. When I was on the train home and trying to use my card it was declined. Either using it in a different state or two debits for small amount coming in at the same time cause them to fraud alert my account. My lunch was 10.00 and hers was 18.00. She called my order in and used Grubhub to purchase her food. When I texted her she said it was a mistake and offered to mail me a check. I declined. Mom asked if I was okay with nanny cams and checking in using an app. I thought she called it NannyConnect. I could be wrong but this isnt a troll post. I really just wanted advice and to vent. I've cleared my conscience and will continue looking for another job. Thanks for those who provided constructive advice

[Anonymous]

There is an app called baby connect so that is probably what she said.

[Anonymous]

What was the reason you weren't offered the position?