So Incredibly Conflicted

[Anonymous]

Mom said they have a strong preference in her words for "outward ooey gooey lovey approach". All if not most of my references describe me as loving but firm. I called one of my references (current employer) for advice about the situation and she said mom spent about 20 mins asking questions related to that.

Prior to the trial mom emailed me and wanted to confirm my interest in the position because she was going to stop looking for other candidates. I suspect I wasn't hired based in part on what my references had to say about me (although glowing they won't lie and say I'm the kissy face type) and my trial day with the mother where I wasn't openly affectionate to a child I had just met.

I'm a little perturb about not being offered the job based on how well I love children because I really really love the children I've cared for in the past. I don't open mouth kiss children and slobber all over them in the presence of what is the most important person in their lives but I do know that they feel loved by me.

Just wasn't the right fit. Imagine how difficult the next nanny will have it based on the sociopath they will be firing.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like the nanny was trying to give you advice about how to be fake and over affectionate with the child. Maybe she was trying to help. That apparently was needed for the job. Op sounds like its a good thing you didn't get the job.

[Anonymous]

Well it all happened very quick. Mom sent me an email oddly enough telling me I wasn't being offered the position. I thanked her and shared that I think she needs to install the nanny cameras again and then she called. We just got off the phone and she sounded shell shocked. I've been doing this for 10+ years and I've never had this happen to me.

Getting it off my chest felt good but this mom is devastated. She spoke so highly of her nanny. I'm still digesting what I witnessed and what the inaction actually says about me as a caretaker so I can't imagine how she is feeling. Just sucks.

So you want us to believe that in the one hour (on a Saturday) between your initial post and this followup, you managed to convince the MB to reinstall nanny cams and she did and immediately saw so many wrong things that she called you back and told you she was devastated? All in one hour?

This just screams troll post.

[Anonymous]

I usually do not say things like this, but it is so obvious that this posting is 120% made up.

None of it makes any sense at all.

Nice try.

[Anonymous]

Other then smoking around the child nothing the nanny did sounds that bad. How have the parents not smelled smoke on her or their child though. The child was never in harms way. This nanny sounds like a bad egg but she never hurt the child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Well it all happened very quick. Mom sent me an email oddly enough telling me I wasn't being offered the position. I thanked her and shared that I think she needs to install the nanny cameras again and then she called. We just got off the phone and she sounded shell shocked. I've been doing this for 10+ years and I've never had this happen to me.

Getting it off my chest felt good but this mom is devastated. She spoke so highly of her nanny. I'm still digesting what I witnessed and what the inaction actually says about me as a caretaker so I can't imagine how she is feeling. Just sucks.

So you want us to believe that in the one hour (on a Saturday) between your initial post and this followup, you managed to convince the MB to reinstall nanny cams and she did and immediately saw so many wrong things that she called you back and told you she was devastated? All in one hour?

This just screams troll post.

NP here. Clearly you are one of those people who flunks the reading comprehension portion of standardized tests.Let me help you understand what you read. 1. OP shadowed nanny and saw appalling behavior. 2. Nanny posts on here detailing what she saw. 3. Mom emailed to tell her she's not getting hired. 4. OP replied to email saying MB needs to consider cameras. 5. MB called OP presumably to get more info on why OP thinks she needs to install cameras. 6. OP told MB why she needs cameras. 7. MB is devastated 8. OP posts update on phone call here.

Not that difficult to understand and does not scream troll. Get a life.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Mom didnt install cameras. Nowhere in my post did I say that because of my phone conversation the mother installed a camera and confirmed "my story".

Facts:

The nanny sucks

I feel like shit because I observed this and did nothing.

Mom emailed me to thank me for my time and tell me I didn't get the position.

I thanked her for the opportunity and said she should consider putting the nanny cameras she previously used back in the home.

She called.

I shared what I saw, heard and observed.

She listened, asked questions and from what I could hear sounded devastated. She thanked me for being honest.

Since my last posting she has emailed me several times and I'm assuming plans to confront the nanny on Monday.


I don't know why people are so quick to assume I'm a troll. This post wasn't meant to get a rile out of anyone. It was my experience and I wanted to vent and possibly get some advice from other nannies.

I'm not a regular board member and only visit this site to seek employment or ask child-related questions. I had no idea that the majority of the responses would be accusations.

[Anonymous]

It's easy. I called you a troll because it sounds unbelievable that all that could occur in the one hour between when you posted about your alleged problem and your complete solution.

As I said in my other post, it is unbelievable that a mother who already decided NOT to hire you would then believe every word you said that quickly when you claim she thinks her nanny "hung the moon".

If you aren't a troll, then wow, great that your story had such a quick and satisfying end.

Why do you care that a few people on a message board think your post is fake?

Actually, don't answer that. I'm not interested in talking to you anymore. Maybe one of the other people who called you out might be, but I'm definitely not.