Interview/Job Offer Stress!!!!!!!
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Anonymous
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AHHHHH!!! I just want to scream!!!!
I don't want to turn down a perfectly good job because i didn't have a the "feeling" that its a right fit! But at the same time I don't want to take a job because i didn't get the right feeling!!! I interviewed for the family but I didn't feel the connection, they didn't call my references... I haven't met the kids but the dad works shift work so he will be home up to 3 days a week at a time which I'm not super keen on... & mom works from home 1 day a week... I just don't feel it.... They are giving me the standard paid time off and blah blah blah but want me to bank hours if they don't need me (say when dad is home and wants to have a day with the kids) they also want me to claim as self employed.... But Im really scared to turn it down incase I don't get another offer at my rate...Plus its only part time... Is "the feeling" or "the connection" a stupid thing to go off? or am I being totally high school and immature! Felt good to get my feelings out 
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Anonymous
| Run. Dont bank hours. I do it and it sucks. |
Anonymous
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All I see are red flags with that family. Why do you want to work for them??
Pros: they want you they agreed to your rate (sort of) Cons: they didn't call your references you haven't met the kids you haven't met the dad who will be home up to 3 days per week the mom will work from home one day per week they want to bank your hours (that could easily turn into one day a week where you're losing pay -- think about it!) they want you to lie on your taxes it's only part time ....this is not a hard decision. at all. not even a little bit. |
Anonymous
| Don't do it OP. |
Anonymous
| Not a job I would want |
Anonymous
| Never take a job before doing an in-home visit with the kids present. You need to see how they live, and how the parents interact with their children in order to know if you are compatible. |
Anonymous
| Nannies, for the zillionith time, are hourly employees and cannot ne self employed. |
Anonymous
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I'm an MB and this job sounds rotten. The employers sound shady. Trust your gut and hold out for something better.
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Anonymous
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Thanks everyone, I did turn down the job.
Im wondering how important the feeling is to you? |
Anonymous
I don't think this was so much a gut feeling as it was just a really bad job. I'm an MB and I'm wondering why you would ever consider that job. Saying you just didn't have a feeling that it was the right fit implies it was an otherwise good job but you just didn't click with the family. This was NOT an otherwise good job, it was a terrible job. |
Anonymous
+1 this was not a good job op, do you not see that? |
Anonymous
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Yes I definitely see that.
Im not in DC and where Im from we have quite a different market and mindset. People aren't as educated. What I'm saying is had I had a good connection with the family i probably would have worked something out so everything was legal tax wise and not banking hours ect. but I didn't feel the connection with the family. If it WAS a good job would not having that connection be a good enough reason to forgo? |
Anonymous
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OP you're coming across as an idiot. No matter where you are or what the market rate is, that job was horrible.
Who the f*ck cares about a "feeling" with a family when the job is shit? You didn't even meet the kids or the dad! How could you possibly know what you'd "feel" about the family? |
Anonymous
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I did meet the father! Not sure where you got that from.
I don't think your understanding where I'm coming from but thanks for your opinion. I have been to another interview this week. Didn't met the kids but I could tell for emailing with the mom that we were on the same page and we had a good connection when we met. To me that means more than a competive paying job with a family who we don't seem to jive. Does that ankles sense or is it a total "idiot" move |
Anonymous
| Makes* |