Nanny asking for loans...
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Anonymous
| I love my nanny. I pay her well. I bonus her well. I pay for extras when she needs them, like prescriptions, or lawyer fees or other "things" that come up. She has now asked me for a 3rd loan. Thousands of dollars. I have loaned her money in the past and took a small amount out of her paycheck each week (unless she asked me not to) but it would take a really long time to pay back. I just wonder if anyone else is in this position and what I should do about it. My husband is started to become really annoyed by it and I'm starting to see why. |
Anonymous
| OP, obviously this is inappropriate. She needs to go. |
Anonymous
| I would say no, the amount is too great, and suggest she speak to a credit union about a personal loan. |
Anonymous
| This doesn't make sense. Why are you paying for her prescriptions and lawyer fees? Is she getting paid enough money to survive without needing your family to give her loans? I would NEVER ask my employer for a loan, no matter how big or small. It's totally inappropriate for her to think of your family as a bank who will just loan her money anytime she needs it. What does she now need a loan for that costs thousands of dollars? I don't blame your husband for getting annoyed. Just curious, how many hours does she work and how much is she paid a week? I'm a nanny and I'm sure many other nannies on here will agree that this is wrong. I think it's great that you love your nanny but giving her loans is probably the dumbest thing you could do. Sorry you are in this predicament- you will have to learn how to say no to her. |
Anonymous
She works full time 1000 a week. Plus I pay for a lot of "extras" that come up. I appreciate your feedback. She is really wonderful and I'm sure that money is tight for her family, but I'm starting to feel taken advantage of. I hate feeling like saying "no" to her makes me feel cheap or that it will upset her and then have her care for my kids. |
Anonymous
Your story sounds more like a tale, OP. What do you mean by "full time"? 40 hours a week? |
Anonymous
40 hours, 1000 a week, 25 an hour. 2 kids. |
Anonymous
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She's earning $4300 per month! If money is tight she can get a nighttime gig - 40 hours a week is not a lot.
You never EVER should have loaned her any money in the first place. Absolutely don't do it again. She should be so ashamed that she ever asked you - it is wildly inappropriate. |
Anonymous
| Okay, thanks everyone. Particularly the poster who said they suspected this was a "tale". I think that tells me everything I need to know. I really thought other employers were getting the same kind of requests from their employees... |
Anonymous
NP here. Definitely not trying to be rude if it's a true story, but it sounded fake to me as well. I would never ever ever in a million years expect my employers to pay for ANYTHING beyond my paycheck and childcare expenses (like when I pick up some milk or we visit the zoo) and I would not even THINK about asking them for a loan, no matter how desperately I needed money - that's what family, friends, and banks are for. Absolutely say no, she's being very well compensated as it is. And keep an eye on here because it's very bizarre behavior and I wouldn't want to see you taken advantage of in other ways. |
Anonymous
| How did you find her? |
Anonymous
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OP- I'm 11:32 and don't think this is a troll post, and if it is, shame on me for believing there are good people out there.
If she's making $1000 a week - there is no way in hell you should be paying for anything except her paycheck and whatever you agreed upon in her contract. I take home way less than $25 an hour and still can pay all my bills and save money at the same time. How long has she been with your family? |
Anonymous
| Why does she have lawyer bills? Maybe she's getting ripped off by the lawyer. |
Anonymous
| Thanks for the feedback. She has been with our family for 3 years. She cares for and supports sick family members on her own and her lawyer bills were associated with her work permit and immigration status. She WAS getting ripped off by a lawyer until I found and paid for a new one for her. I believe in helping people when they really need it, so when the first cry for help came, I thought it was the right thing to do to help her. But now I think it has moved beyond that. I'm sure she thinks we are "rich" and can afford to loan her money, but we have plenty of expenses of our own....one of the biggest being her salary. |
Anonymous
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If you've known and trusted her for three years, I would say no, and be done with the issue.
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