Nanny has too high expectations
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Anonymous
| She forces the kids to say "please" and "thank you". If they ask for something she will say, "and what do you say?" And wait till they say "please". Same song and dance for "thank you". I think that she is putting too much stress on them as we don't push formality in our home. She also says things like "adjust your attitude then ask me". Heard her saying this today. My son was saying "turn on the tv". Should I talk to her about her behavior towards the kids? They are only 6 and 8. |
Anonymous
| I don't know... Do you want your kids to have manners or not? My charge just turned two in may and has been saying pleas and thank you since she was 18 months... |
Anonymous
| You should be kissing your nanny's feet, OP, and learn something valuable from her. |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
| While I do not agree with saying, "adjust your attitude", there is nothing wrong with teaching children manners. Everyone will thank your nanny for doing so. People don't want to be around children with no manners. |
Anonymous
| Yes you should definitely speak to her....to say thank you! She expects your children to say please and thank you, and to make requests politely. This is not formality, this is basic good manners. If you don't teach it at home where do you expect them to learn it? |
Anonymous
| It's sad that your kids are 6 and 8 and don't say please or thank you. I commend your nanny for teaching them manners and respect. If she is giving them an attitude and being rude, I could understand you being upset but otherwise you should thank her for instilling good manners and behavior in them. |
Anonymous
| Op here. She calmly says things like "talk to me nicely" or "do you have something to say?" I just feel like it is to pushy. |
Anonymous
| OP, it's not pushy. She's trying to teach them manners and basic life skills that they should already know by elementary school age. Be thankful she cares enough to guide them into becoming well-mannered children. |
Anonymous
| She sounds like a great nanny. I do that with my kids and expect others to do it to. |
Anonymous
| You come across as a huge horse's patoot, OP, and thank heavens your children have a nanny for a positive influence. |
Anonymous
| OP, what do you do when your son tells you, "turn on the tv"? |
Anonymous
| Sorry op, you're way out of line here. As a nanny I do not feel it is my job to bend over backwards catering to my charge's every whim while they are rude and unappreciative. If they would like something from me, they can ask me nicely and show their appreciation, just like I expect of every other human being. |
Anonymous
| I don't see what the issue is. Your nanny is trying to instill manners and respectful interactions into your children's lives. I do the same with my charges. My response to a rude tone of voice or request is, "Try again please." It's said very calmly and the kids understand what they need to do. Most times all I need to do is raise an eyebrow to elicit a proper tone, response, or request. |
Anonymous
| She does not sound pushy. She sounds like she's teaching your children the things you should have taught them when they were 2. They sound like brats (they may not actually be brats -- but if anyone were to hear them talk, they sound like it, and I bet they are, or will grow to be) and you definitely sound selfish and entitled ("My kids and I don't have to say please and thank you in consideration of others who are giving us things or doing things for us because it is too much work for us to add the extra word and makes us feel "formal." We'd rather take people for granted.") |