Being Jerked Around
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Anonymous
| I have been with my current family for almost 3 years. The parents had to decide if they wanted to send their youngest to kindergarten this August. I knew that if they decided on sending him that they would need someone part time and that I would need to find another part time job and do part time after school hours for them or find another full time position. The parents told me back in March that they decided they were going to do pre-k instead and they didn't feel he was ready for kindergarten just yet. Then they told me the end of May that they changed their minds and will be sending him to kindergarten. I figured ok well I guess I won't have another year with them and I will need to speed up my job search. I was a little upset that they changed their minds but only because it puts me back into looking for a job again. I do respect the fact that they have the right to change their minds and it is a big decision to make. I definitely understand why they changed their minds and thought well I still have til mid-August of full time employment so I have time to find something. Then the parents come to me again this past Wednesday night saying that they just realized they don't need me for all of July and explained why. They said that I am welcome to come back in August to do a week or 2 of full time hours and then do the after school hours part time if I would like to and said they would need to know asap what my decision was going to be so they have as much time as possible to find someone knew. Even thought I supposedly have guaranteed pay and up until this point that has been the case they said they don't want to pay me for all of July because they don't need me and would pay me for 1 or 2 weeks and they would discuss it with each other and get back to me on what they can do. So I essentially have until the end of this month to find a new job. I don't have a ton of savings so I don't have a long time to find another job. I'm shocked that they would wait til this late in the month to tell me that plans changed. My husband is unemployed right now as well and they know this so their change of plans really hurts us a lot right now. I feel like they have been jerking me around. They say they just now realized that they wouldn't need me for all of July. I really doubt that that is true. I feel like they waited to tell me this at the last minute because they knew there was a possibility I would line up another job and leave before they were ready for me to leave. I originally had planned to try and find a part time job in the mornings so I could keep the after school hours with them but after they did this I am really thinking that I will just find another full time job and do the occasional babysitting job for them. I really love the kids and it hurts to have to say goodbye but I'm starting to think it's for the best. I really just needed to get this off my chest because it's really been bothering me. |
Anonymous
| They sound really inconsiderate, they have not given you much notice. I'd find a new full time job asap. They sound like the family I work for, unorganized and always changing their minds without considering me as an employee. You have your own family to worry about so do what's best for you! Good luck! |
Anonymous
| Try using paragraphs if you want your post read. |
Anonymous
| PP you may be right about using paragraphs but at the moment of typing my post out I was feeling very upset and not thinking about paragraphs. I do not think not using paragraphs makes my post unreadable though. |
Anonymous
| I say to hell with them and find a job that starts as soon as possible. They'll probably be on here bitching that "their nanny left with no notice and we have no idea why!?!?" |
Anonymous
Not the PP but yeah it does. I stopped reading about half way through. |
Anonymous
| Time for both you and your husband to find new jobs. |
Anonymous
Yeah, I'm sorry but another new poster echoing this. I just started skimming. Sounds like you need another job sooner than you thought, employers are trying to cover themselves which isn't the best scenario for you, and you may only have a few more weeks paid - right? On quick skim they don't sound really awful, and it sounds like you have almost a month to find something else - which isn't as good as having until August, but isn't like they're throwing you out today. I think they're generally trying to be decent, while also manage their own realities. So that's all I grasped and can offer from a quick skim. A more visually friendly post does make it easier for readers to fully grasp all you were trying to convey. Good luck w/ the job search. |
Anonymous
| Yes, what they did sucks, but now is the time to put on your big girl panties and start looking. |
Anonymous
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I hope all you paragraph gripers suffocate under the weight of your inflated self-worth.
OP, that sucks. I'd be so mad. They deliberately screwed you over. Don't go back after July, don't to PT hours for them, don't babysit for them. You can do so much better. At the very least they should be offering you severance pay! I'm sure you will find a great new job, soon. Good luck! |
Anonymous
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I always wonder about the reading comprehension skills of people who complain about paragraphs or punctuation or spelling. Sure, it's not ideal, but there's never been a DCUM post so incoherent I wasn't able to understand it. Paragraphs or not, I had no issues understanding what OP was saying...
It's kind of like complaining that a book is too poorly written to read, when really you're just too stupid to understand it 
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Anonymous
| Tell them you are coming back in August, but find a new job and right before you are supposed to go back tell the you've changed your mind. |
Anonymous
No, dont do this. Karma will bite you back if you do. +1 on the paragraphs. Couldnt read your post |
Anonymous
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Lol, I say do what 12:52 said, while maybe in mature, these employers do it all the time..they know what they want, just want to use you until they figure it out!
They all say they want a nanny to be like a part of the family, would you do this to family????? |
Anonymous
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I don't really see the problem. They don't need you anymore and are giving notice. They are a little wishy washy (come back in August for a week or so) but that is likely just a nice thing to do for you.
Start your job search. |