Nannies want to bring their kid to work

[Anonymous]

One is asking for $15/hour the other is asking for $17.

Both of them have a child the same age as my oldest so it will be 3 kids in my house.

Obviously this is ridiculous but I'm wondering if I should let them know they're asking too much. Would you offer lesser money to them or just move on?

[Anonymous]

Move on. IMO if you already have two kids, you don't need a nanny to bring hers. It's the singleton child who needs a good nanny with child.

[Anonymous]

I would not want one nanny in charge of my two kids along with hers, but if you are okay with that, by all means make a counteroffer of about $12 per hour (since you will have two kids in the share and she will have one).

You'll find that some nannies are a little out of touch with reality when it comes to bringing their kids to work. They've actually convinced themselves that it benefits you and in no way alters the amount of attention they can give your kids.

[Anonymous]

You'll find that some nannies are a little out of touch with reality when it comes to bringing their kids to work. They've actually convinced themselves that it benefits you and in no way alters the amount of attention they can give your kids.

Agreed.

I allow my nanny to occasionally bring children she sits for along for the day. Mine gets a little more kid interaction than otherwise would occur, she gets to double dip occasionally. But no question mine doesn't get as much attention. I would not allow it on a regular basis and definitely not if it were the nanny a own kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One is asking for $15/hour the other is asking for $17.

Both of them have a child the same age as my oldest so it will be 3 kids in my house.

Obviously this is ridiculous but I'm wondering if I should let them know they're asking too much. Would you offer lesser money to them or just move on?

These rates may not be ridiculous for these nannies, even if they aren't going to work for you. Typically a NWOC offers a percentage decrease in what they'd otherwise be eligible to make, so if Nanny B normally makes $20-22/hr for 2 kids, dropping her rate to $17 is the level of savings you'd expect to see in a nanny bringing her own child. You can by all means say that this is more than you're comfortable paying for someone who's bringing their own child along, but please don't attempt to offer an objective analysis because you can't do that (and neither can we).

And FWIW, many of the parents I've known who hired nannies with their own children said that although the cost savings was not great (as it would be in a nanny share), these were the only nannies they felt comfortable hiring from the pool of applicants they interviewed. In a case like that, a great nanny with her own child really could command $15-17/hr.

[Anonymous]

Sorry PP but someone who is willing to pay in the $15-$20 range is not going to consider a nanny bringing her child. The only people who will consider this are ones who were thinking about a nanny share. A regular nanny share is cheaper with each family equally paying $7.50-$9 an hour, the kids get equal attention from the nanny, there is no issue of the nanny using her own parent philosophy because its her kid, you don't have to pay for the nanny's kid to go to activities. and you don't have the extra liability from an employee bringing their kid to work. At this point, you are just left with employers who want to pay share prices but can't find another family to share.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry PP but someone who is willing to pay in the $15-$20 range is not going to consider a nanny bringing her child. The only people who will consider this are ones who were thinking about a nanny share. A regular nanny share is cheaper with each family equally paying $7.50-$9 an hour, the kids get equal attention from the nanny, there is no issue of the nanny using her own parent philosophy because its her kid, you don't have to pay for the nanny's kid to go to activities. and you don't have the extra liability from an employee bringing their kid to work. At this point, you are just left with employers who want to pay share prices but can't find another family to share.

That's completely fine that you feel that way. I do know a couple who pay their nanny $20 and she brings her daughter with her to work, so clearly this isn't a universal approach. As I said before, the people I know who've happily employed NWOC did so because she was the only candidate they trusted or wanted to hire. Clearly if all other factors were equal, most parents would prefer to hire the nanny without a child, but things aren't always textbook simple.

[Anonymous]

I do know a couple who pay their nanny $20 and she brings her daughter with her to work, so clearly this isn't a universal approach.

Right..I know a family who recently invested 100K in buying the Brooklyn Bridge. Really, its true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I do know a couple who pay their nanny $20 and she brings her daughter with her to work, so clearly this isn't a universal approach.

Right..I know a family who recently invested 100K in buying the Brooklyn Bridge. Really, its true.

What in the hell makes you representative of ALL parents?
You may speak for yourself, mbb* and that's it.
*mbbitch

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I do know a couple who pay their nanny $20 and she brings her daughter with her to work, so clearly this isn't a universal approach.

Right..I know a family who recently invested 100K in buying the Brooklyn Bridge. Really, its true.

They're in SF where rates are higher, but I'm not sure that qualifies it as untrue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One is asking for $15/hour the other is asking for $17.

Both of them have a child the same age as my oldest so it will be 3 kids in my house.

Obviously this is ridiculous but I'm wondering if I should let them know they're asking too much. Would you offer lesser money to them or just move on?

These rates may not be ridiculous for these nannies, even if they aren't going to work for you. Typically a NWOC offers a percentage decrease in what they'd otherwise be eligible to make, so if Nanny B normally makes $20-22/hr for 2 kids, dropping her rate to $17 is the level of savings you'd expect to see in a nanny bringing her own child. You can by all means say that this is more than you're comfortable paying for someone who's bringing their own child along, but please don't attempt to offer an objective analysis because you can't do that (and neither can we).

And FWIW, many of the parents I've known who hired nannies with their own children said that although the cost savings was not great (as it would be in a nanny share), these were the only nannies they felt comfortable hiring from the pool of applicants they interviewed. In a case like that, a great nanny with her own child really could command $15-17/hr.

It would be very unusual to find a family willing to pay $15-17 for a nanny who brings her own child to work. Not saying it has never happened, but outside of this board, I've never heard of anyone being willing to pay more than share rates ($9-10 per hour) for a nanny who wants to bring her own child to work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One is asking for $15/hour the other is asking for $17.

Both of them have a child the same age as my oldest so it will be 3 kids in my house.

Obviously this is ridiculous but I'm wondering if I should let them know they're asking too much. Would you offer lesser money to them or just move on?

These rates may not be ridiculous for these nannies, even if they aren't going to work for you. Typically a NWOC offers a percentage decrease in what they'd otherwise be eligible to make, so if Nanny B normally makes $20-22/hr for 2 kids, dropping her rate to $17 is the level of savings you'd expect to see in a nanny bringing her own child. You can by all means say that this is more than you're comfortable paying for someone who's bringing their own child along, but please don't attempt to offer an objective analysis because you can't do that (and neither can we).

And FWIW, many of the parents I've known who hired nannies with their own children said that although the cost savings was not great (as it would be in a nanny share), these were the only nannies they felt comfortable hiring from the pool of applicants they interviewed. In a case like that, a great nanny with her own child really could command $15-17/hr.

It would be very unusual to find a family willing to pay $15-17 for a nanny who brings her own child to work. Not saying it has never happened, but outside of this board, I've never heard of anyone being willing to pay more than share rates ($9-10 per hour) for a nanny who wants to bring her own child to work.

And I'd say it's very unusual to find a family who thinks having a NWOC is the same as being part of a nanny share. But that's just my experience.

[Anonymous]

It would be very unusual to find a family willing to pay $15-17 for a nanny who brings her own child to work. Not saying it has never happened, but outside of this board, I've never heard of anyone being willing to pay more than share rates ($9-10 per hour) for a nanny who wants to bring her own child to work.

This. Also, OP, do a search on these forums. Several parents and many nannies have been very articulate of what you need to consider before embarking on such an arrangement. Many think it's a very bad idea to have a nanny bring her own child, although there is one persistent nanny on one of the threads who thinks it's great. I suppose it isn't surprising to have a nanny happy about free childcare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

It would be very unusual to find a family willing to pay $15-17 for a nanny who brings her own child to work. Not saying it has never happened, but outside of this board, I've never heard of anyone being willing to pay more than share rates ($9-10 per hour) for a nanny who wants to bring her own child to work.

This. Also, OP, do a search on these forums. Several parents and many nannies have been very articulate of what you need to consider before embarking on such an arrangement. Many think it's a very bad idea to have a nanny bring her own child, although there is one persistent nanny on one of the threads who thinks it's great. I suppose it isn't surprising to have a nanny happy about free childcare.

What IS surprising (at least to 13:55), is that a pediatric psychiatrist MB would choose an expensive nanny who brought her child to work. Every family should clearly determine their own values and choose accordingly. Not every parent wants a spoiled child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
What IS surprising (at least to 13:55), is that a pediatric psychiatrist MB would choose an expensive nanny who brought her child to work.

I was wondering when you were going to bring this story up. I was worried that we were going to go a whole week without hearing it!