Nannies want to bring their kid to work

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
What IS surprising (at least to 13:55), is that a pediatric psychiatrist MB would choose an expensive nanny who brought her child to work.

I was wondering when you were going to bring this story up. I was worried that we were going to go a whole week without hearing it!

Actually it was 13:55 who brought it up. I provided the details of the successful experience. It was a beautiful example of win-win-win, for mb, nanny and most importantly for both children. That mb wrote me one of my favorite reference letters.

[Anonymous]

What IS surprising (at least to 13:55), is that a pediatric psychiatrist MB would choose an expensive nanny who brought her child to work.



I was wondering when you were going to bring this story up. I was worried that we were going to go a whole week without hearing it!

I was hoping we wouldn't have to hear from her again this week. Yes, OP, according to this one anonymous nanny who allegedly worked for pediatric psychiatrist for a short time, it was massively successful to allow her free child care because she is so exceptional.

But, in the real world, according to many nannies and parents on this board and others, it is not a good arrangement for families and many threads on this forum can tell you why.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

What IS surprising (at least to 13:55), is that a pediatric psychiatrist MB would choose an expensive nanny who brought her child to work.



I was wondering when you were going to bring this story up. I was worried that we were going to go a whole week without hearing it!

I was hoping we wouldn't have to hear from her again this week. Yes, OP, according to this one anonymous nanny who allegedly worked for pediatric psychiatrist for a short time, it was massively successful to allow her free child care because she is so exceptional.

But, in the real world, according to many nannies and parents on this board and others, it is not a good arrangement for families and many threads on this forum can tell you why.

The physician parents employed me for two years until they moved to Europe. Why is it that you find this successful experience to be so disturbing to you?
You are certainly entitled to your personal opinion, just as everyone else is entitled to their opinion. You appear foolish everytime you attempt to shut down differing opinions and experiences. In fact I don't believe you have ever even had a nanny bring her own child, have you? If you personally don't want to, that's perfectly fine. But you need to stop insisting that your opinion (based on nothing) is the only opinion that should be shared.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

What IS surprising (at least to 13:55), is that a pediatric psychiatrist MB would choose an expensive nanny who brought her child to work.



I was wondering when you were going to bring this story up. I was worried that we were going to go a whole week without hearing it!

I was hoping we wouldn't have to hear from her again this week. Yes, OP, according to this one anonymous nanny who allegedly worked for pediatric psychiatrist for a short time, it was massively successful to allow her free child care because she is so exceptional.

But, in the real world, according to many nannies and parents on this board and others, it is not a good arrangement for families and many threads on this forum can tell you why.

The physician parents employed me for two years until they moved to Europe. Why is it that you find this successful experience to be so disturbing to you?
You are certainly entitled to your personal opinion, just as everyone else is entitled to their opinion. You appear foolish everytime you attempt to shut down differing opinions and experiences. In fact I don't believe you have ever even had a nanny bring her own child, have you? If you personally don't want to, that's perfectly fine. But you need to stop insisting that your opinion (based on nothing) is the only opinion that should be shared.

And you need to stop insinuating that allowing a nanny to bring her child to work is the only way to avoid raising an only child who is spoiled.

[Anonymous]

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It would be very unusual to find a family willing to pay $15-17 for a nanny who brings her own child to work. Not saying it has never happened, but outside of this board, I've never heard of anyone being willing to pay more than share rates ($9-10 per hour) for a nanny who wants to bring her own child to work.

This. Also, OP, do a search on these forums. Several parents and many nannies have been very articulate of what you need to consider before embarking on such an arrangement. Many think it's a very bad idea to have a nanny bring her own child, although there is one persistent nanny on one of the threads who thinks it's great. I suppose it isn't surprising to have a nanny happy about free childcare.

What IS surprising (at least to 13:55), is that a pediatric psychiatrist MB would choose an expensive nanny who brought her child to work. Every family should clearly determine their own values and choose accordingly. Not every parent wants a spoiled child.

There are many ways not to raise a spoiled child, and most of them have nothing to do with nanny's children. You and your child don't have a super special secret to prevent spoiled behavior in children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
What IS surprising (at least to 13:55), is that a pediatric psychiatrist MB would choose an expensive nanny who brought her child to work.

I was wondering when you were going to bring this story up. I was worried that we were going to go a whole week without hearing it!

Actually it was 13:55 who brought it up. I provided the details of the successful experience. It was a beautiful example of win-win-win, for mb, nanny and most importantly for both children. That mb wrote me one of my favorite reference letters.

Actually, I think you are being quite dishonest when you don't point out that the most significant win for YOU was a hefty childcare bill that you got to avoid by bringing your child to work with you. A cursory review of your thoughts on that experience shows that you prefer to focus on saving your MB's child from turning into a selfish, spoiled brat. Nowhere do you say, "also, I got to save over a thousand bucks a month on childcare."

[Anonymous]

You two really just need to agree to disagree - different people are open to differing arrangements, and find different arrangements to be positive. It is as simple as that. Fit, fit, fit.

I would expect to pay a nanny slightly less who was bringing her own child and dividing her attentions. However, for the right nanny... and if I were not so strapped ... I am not so sure. It would depend, honestly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
What IS surprising (at least to 13:55), is that a pediatric psychiatrist MB would choose an expensive nanny who brought her child to work.

I was wondering when you were going to bring this story up. I was worried that we were going to go a whole week without hearing it!

Actually it was 13:55 who brought it up. I provided the details of the successful experience. It was a beautiful example of win-win-win, for mb, nanny and most importantly for both children. That mb wrote me one of my favorite reference letters.

Actually, I think you are being quite dishonest when you don't point out that the most significant win for YOU was a hefty childcare bill that you got to avoid by bringing your child to work with you. A cursory review of your thoughts on that experience shows that you prefer to focus on saving your MB's child from turning into a selfish, spoiled brat. Nowhere do you say, "also, I got to save over a thousand bucks a month on childcare."

Your ignorant assumptions continue to astound me. I was in a most fortunate position that financially I didn't have to earn a paycheck. I accepted an attractive job offer because I love my work AND I didn't want MY child to become an over indulged selfish person.

Btw, again I support each family's choice to do what they want as long as it doesn't cause their child to suffer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
What IS surprising (at least to 13:55), is that a pediatric psychiatrist MB would choose an expensive nanny who brought her child to work.

I was wondering when you were going to bring this story up. I was worried that we were going to go a whole week without hearing it!

Actually it was 13:55 who brought it up. I provided the details of the successful experience. It was a beautiful example of win-win-win, for mb, nanny and most importantly for both children. That mb wrote me one of my favorite reference letters.

Actually, I think you are being quite dishonest when you don't point out that the most significant win for YOU was a hefty childcare bill that you got to avoid by bringing your child to work with you. A cursory review of your thoughts on that experience shows that you prefer to focus on saving your MB's child from turning into a selfish, spoiled brat. Nowhere do you say, "also, I got to save over a thousand bucks a month on childcare."

Your ignorant assumptions continue to astound me. I was in a most fortunate position that financially I didn't have to earn a paycheck. I accepted an attractive job offer because I love my work AND I didn't want MY child to become an over indulged selfish person.

Btw, again I support each family's choice to do what they want as long as it doesn't cause their child to suffer.

Do you deny that you avoided paying for childcare because you brought your child with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous



You two really just need to agree to disagree - different people are open to differing arrangements, and find different arrangements to be positive. It is as simple as that. Fit, fit, fit.

I would expect to pay a nanny slightly less who was bringing her own child and dividing her attentions. However, for the right nanny... and if I were not so strapped ... I am not so sure. It would depend, honestly.

It's important to note there is more than one person disagreeing with the win-win nanny. Many posters, on both threads, disagree with her. She can think it was good for her to bring her kid to work, and that's fine, but few other people agree with her. That's fine, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
What IS surprising (at least to 13:55), is that a pediatric psychiatrist MB would choose an expensive nanny who brought her child to work.

I was wondering when you were going to bring this story up. I was worried that we were going to go a whole week without hearing it!

Actually it was 13:55 who brought it up. I provided the details of the successful experience. It was a beautiful example of win-win-win, for mb, nanny and most importantly for both children. That mb wrote me one of my favorite reference letters.

Actually, I think you are being quite dishonest when you don't point out that the most significant win for YOU was a hefty childcare bill that you got to avoid by bringing your child to work with you. A cursory review of your thoughts on that experience shows that you prefer to focus on saving your MB's child from turning into a selfish, spoiled brat. Nowhere do you say, "also, I got to save over a thousand bucks a month on childcare."

Your ignorant assumptions continue to astound me. I was in a most fortunate position that financially I didn't have to earn a paycheck. I accepted an attractive job offer because I love my work AND I didn't want MY child to become an over indulged selfish person.

Btw, again I support each family's choice to do what they want as long as it doesn't cause their child to suffer.

Do you deny that you avoided paying for childcare because you brought your child with you?

Are you a lawyer? Lol. You talk like one.

No, I didn't "avoid" paying for childcare because my child came to work with me. As I already told you, I didn't need a paycheck. Remember? If I haven't received such a great offer by parents I really liked, I would not had taken the job. Why would I farm out my own child? I love my established career, and thank God my career did not force me to make a choice between it and my child.

Is that what you are really so angry about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
What IS surprising (at least to 13:55), is that a pediatric psychiatrist MB would choose an expensive nanny who brought her child to work.

I was wondering when you were going to bring this story up. I was worried that we were going to go a whole week without hearing it!

Actually it was 13:55 who brought it up. I provided the details of the successful experience. It was a beautiful example of win-win-win, for mb, nanny and most importantly for both children. That mb wrote me one of my favorite reference letters.

Actually, I think you are being quite dishonest when you don't point out that the most significant win for YOU was a hefty childcare bill that you got to avoid by bringing your child to work with you. A cursory review of your thoughts on that experience shows that you prefer to focus on saving your MB's child from turning into a selfish, spoiled brat. Nowhere do you say, "also, I got to save over a thousand bucks a month on childcare."

Your ignorant assumptions continue to astound me. I was in a most fortunate position that financially I didn't have to earn a paycheck. I accepted an attractive job offer because I love my work AND I didn't want MY child to become an over indulged selfish person.

Btw, again I support each family's choice to do what they want as long as it doesn't cause their child to suffer.

Do you deny that you avoided paying for childcare because you brought your child with you?

Are you a lawyer? Lol. You talk like one.

No, I didn't "avoid" paying for childcare because my child came to work with me. As I already told you, I didn't need a paycheck. Remember? If I haven't received such a great offer by parents I really liked, I would not had taken the job. Why would I farm out my own child? I love my established career, and thank God my career did not force me to make a choice between it and my child.

Is that what you are really so angry about?

*hadn't

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
What IS surprising (at least to 13:55), is that a pediatric psychiatrist MB would choose an expensive nanny who brought her child to work.

I was wondering when you were going to bring this story up. I was worried that we were going to go a whole week without hearing it!

Actually it was 13:55 who brought it up. I provided the details of the successful experience. It was a beautiful example of win-win-win, for mb, nanny and most importantly for both children. That mb wrote me one of my favorite reference letters.

Actually, I think you are being quite dishonest when you don't point out that the most significant win for YOU was a hefty childcare bill that you got to avoid by bringing your child to work with you. A cursory review of your thoughts on that experience shows that you prefer to focus on saving your MB's child from turning into a selfish, spoiled brat. Nowhere do you say, "also, I got to save over a thousand bucks a month on childcare."

Your ignorant assumptions continue to astound me. I was in a most fortunate position that financially I didn't have to earn a paycheck. I accepted an attractive job offer because I love my work AND I didn't want MY child to become an over indulged selfish person.

Btw, again I support each family's choice to do what they want as long as it doesn't cause their child to suffer.

Do you deny that you avoided paying for childcare because you brought your child with you?

Are you a lawyer? Lol. You talk like one.

No, I didn't "avoid" paying for childcare because my child came to work with me. As I already told you, I didn't need a paycheck. Remember? If I haven't received such a great offer by parents I really liked, I would not had taken the job. Why would I farm out my own child? I love my established career, and thank God my career did not force me to make a choice between it and my child.

Is that what you are really so angry about?

I'm not an attorney; thanks anyway.

Yes, you did avoid paying for childcare. Your child came to work with you, therefore you did not have to pay for childcare. Of course the offer was great - it included a childcare freebie for you - something you never mention, preferring instead of focus on the joys of pretend siblings. What made the offer great for you, among other things, is that: you got to save on childcare. You may not have needed a paycheck, but you took the job, yes? For any other job, you'd have to pay for childcare. You got to save on that significant cost because your employer (not your career) allowed you to bring your child with you.

And farm out? Is that what you think of your employers? Did you ever ask your much-degreed MB, "MB, are you happy you FARMED OUT your own child to me?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
What IS surprising (at least to 13:55), is that a pediatric psychiatrist MB would choose an expensive nanny who brought her child to work.

I was wondering when you were going to bring this story up. I was worried that we were going to go a whole week without hearing it!

Actually it was 13:55 who brought it up. I provided the details of the successful experience. It was a beautiful example of win-win-win, for mb, nanny and most importantly for both children. That mb wrote me one of my favorite reference letters.

Actually, I think you are being quite dishonest when you don't point out that the most significant win for YOU was a hefty childcare bill that you got to avoid by bringing your child to work with you. A cursory review of your thoughts on that experience shows that you prefer to focus on saving your MB's child from turning into a selfish, spoiled brat. Nowhere do you say, "also, I got to save over a thousand bucks a month on childcare."

Your ignorant assumptions continue to astound me. I was in a most fortunate position that financially I didn't have to earn a paycheck. I accepted an attractive job offer because I love my work AND I didn't want MY child to become an over indulged selfish person.

Btw, again I support each family's choice to do what they want as long as it doesn't cause their child to suffer.

Do you deny that you avoided paying for childcare because you brought your child with you?

Are you a lawyer? Lol. You talk like one.

No, I didn't "avoid" paying for childcare because my child came to work with me. As I already told you, I didn't need a paycheck. Remember? If I haven't received such a great offer by parents I really liked, I would not had taken the job. Why would I farm out my own child? I love my established career, and thank God my career did not force me to make a choice between it and my child.

Is that what you are really so angry about?

I'm not an attorney; thanks anyway.

Yes, you did avoid paying for childcare. Your child came to work with you, therefore you did not have to pay for childcare. Of course the offer was great - it included a childcare freebie for you - something you never mention, preferring instead of focus on the joys of pretend siblings. What made the offer great for you, among other things, is that: you got to save on childcare. You may not have needed a paycheck, but you took the job, yes? For any other job, you'd have to pay for childcare. You got to save on that significant cost because your employer (not your career) allowed you to bring your child with you.

And farm out? Is that what you think of your employers? Did you ever ask your much-degreed MB, "MB, are you happy you FARMED OUT your own child to me?"

You have a chip on your shoulder if I ever saw one. You are either an only child or you have one. Don't feel pressured to admit it because no one expects you to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
What IS surprising (at least to 13:55), is that a pediatric psychiatrist MB would choose an expensive nanny who brought her child to work.

I was wondering when you were going to bring this story up. I was worried that we were going to go a whole week without hearing it!

Actually it was 13:55 who brought it up. I provided the details of the successful experience. It was a beautiful example of win-win-win, for mb, nanny and most importantly for both children. That mb wrote me one of my favorite reference letters.

Actually, I think you are being quite dishonest when you don't point out that the most significant win for YOU was a hefty childcare bill that you got to avoid by bringing your child to work with you. A cursory review of your thoughts on that experience shows that you prefer to focus on saving your MB's child from turning into a selfish, spoiled brat. Nowhere do you say, "also, I got to save over a thousand bucks a month on childcare."

Your ignorant assumptions continue to astound me. I was in a most fortunate position that financially I didn't have to earn a paycheck. I accepted an attractive job offer because I love my work AND I didn't want MY child to become an over indulged selfish person.

Btw, again I support each family's choice to do what they want as long as it doesn't cause their child to suffer.

Do you deny that you avoided paying for childcare because you brought your child with you?

Are you a lawyer? Lol. You talk like one.

No, I didn't "avoid" paying for childcare because my child came to work with me. As I already told you, I didn't need a paycheck. Remember? If I haven't received such a great offer by parents I really liked, I would not had taken the job. Why would I farm out my own child? I love my established career, and thank God my career did not force me to make a choice between it and my child.

Is that what you are really so angry about?

I'm not an attorney; thanks anyway.

Yes, you did avoid paying for childcare. Your child came to work with you, therefore you did not have to pay for childcare. Of course the offer was great - it included a childcare freebie for you - something you never mention, preferring instead of focus on the joys of pretend siblings. What made the offer great for you, among other things, is that: you got to save on childcare. You may not have needed a paycheck, but you took the job, yes? For any other job, you'd have to pay for childcare. You got to save on that significant cost because your employer (not your career) allowed you to bring your child with you.

And farm out? Is that what you think of your employers? Did you ever ask your much-degreed MB, "MB, are you happy you FARMED OUT your own child to me?"

You have a chip on your shoulder if I ever saw one. You are either an only child or you have one. Don't feel pressured to admit it because no one expects you to.

I feel no pressure to admit it because it isn't true.

And I note you avoided commenting on the substance of my post. Not surprising.