Really?? Dirty diapers?? Nanny Vent :)

[Anonymous]

Nanny vent time! Walked in to the nursery this morning to yesterday's clothes, wet spit up cloths, dirty blankets, and a poopy diaper (not even wrapped up!) sitting on and around the changing table! I LOVE my job, but really?? You couldn't throw the dirty diaper in the diaper pail TWO FEET AWAY and left it all for me instead?? Nursery is sparkling clean now, we'll see how it looks again Monday morning!

Happy Friday Nannies!!

[Anonymous]

I am actually a nanny and have a 6 month review coming up and was kind of wondering what to expect... I look forward to seeing any responses...

[Anonymous]

OP here, What??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, What??

Ha! I was looking at another post right before this about reviews in the employers section, then switched over and ended up commenting on the wrong one! TGIF! Oy! Sorry!

[Anonymous]

I feel for you OP. I had that happen one time. I walked in at 11am to discover a nursery that reeked, a blow-out diaper still on the changing table which was also covered in poop, and pjs soaking in the bathroom sink...complete with a large chunk of poop still in it. The baby had woken up at 5:30am so everything had been sitting there waiting for me for 5 1/2 hours. Lovely. The housekeeper discovered it first at 8am and rightfully refused to touch it. She closed the door and moved on.

After I cleaned everything up I confronted MB in the hallway (just happened to run into her there on my way to locate her) to express my displeasure and thoughts on how disrespectful she had been with that situation. I let her know that if it ever happened again that would be the last time she ever saw me. It never happened again.

[Anonymous]

I hear ya OP.

Some families are so inconsiderate!! They live with the attitude that the nanny will "take care of it," and they get lazy it seems.

Enjoy your weekend.
You sound like you deserve a nice long rest!!

[Anonymous]

Haha! Thanks guys!! Needed a little vent this morning Love my MB&DB but DB can be a little messy when it's his turn in the nursery!! I kindly mentioned to him that leaving dirty stuff on the changing table for when I get there isn't really cool!
Baby is down for a nap, house is picked up, baby laundry is done and put away, and I have a whole 15 minutes of ipad and lunch time for me before waking the baby to feed her and and picking up her 3,5,and6 year old sisters at school! Yep, 4 girls! I really do love being a nanny, I have an awesome job!
Happy Friday!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Haha! Thanks guys!! Needed a little vent this morning Love my MB&DB but DB can be a little messy when it's his turn in the nursery!! I kindly mentioned to him that leaving dirty stuff on the changing table for when I get there isn't really cool!
Baby is down for a nap, house is picked up, baby laundry is done and put away, and I have a whole 15 minutes of ipad and lunch time for me before waking the baby to feed her and and picking up her 3,5,and6 year old sisters at school! Yep, 4 girls! I really do love being a nanny, I have an awesome job!
Happy Friday!!

Funny you mention DB's turn in the nursery! My first thought upon reading your original post is that the baby woke Dad up from a deep sleep and he got flustered by the crying. My DH, who is highly competent and accomplished in every other aspect of his life, has left similar messes at our house--including on weekends when the mess sits for me rather than the nanny. Yes, it drives me nuts. Yes, he hears about it from me. But bottom line, nannies, is that you should try not to be so quick to conclude that you are being disrespected. This is about the male inability to multitask in the face of a screaming baby FAR MORE SO than it is about the parents' attitude toward the nanny. Don't be so quick to offend!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Haha! Thanks guys!! Needed a little vent this morning Love my MB&DB but DB can be a little messy when it's his turn in the nursery!! I kindly mentioned to him that leaving dirty stuff on the changing table for when I get there isn't really cool!
Baby is down for a nap, house is picked up, baby laundry is done and put away, and I have a whole 15 minutes of ipad and lunch time for me before waking the baby to feed her and and picking up her 3,5,and6 year old sisters at school! Yep, 4 girls! I really do love being a nanny, I have an awesome job!
Happy Friday!!

Funny you mention DB's turn in the nursery! My first thought upon reading your original post is that the baby woke Dad up from a deep sleep and he got flustered by the crying. My DH, who is highly competent and accomplished in every other aspect of his life, has left similar messes at our house--including on weekends when the mess sits for me rather than the nanny. Yes, it drives me nuts. Yes, he hears about it from me. But bottom line, nannies, is that you should try not to be so quick to conclude that you are being disrespected. This is about the male inability to multitask in the face of a screaming baby FAR MORE SO than it is about the parents' attitude toward the nanny. Don't be so quick to offend!

No worries, I really wasn't offended! My DB is great, and yes, baby woke up at 4:45am with hurting new teeth. Im sure he was not quite awake and he was giving mom a break and letting her sleep I totally agree with the male's inability to multitask with a screaming baby! haha!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Haha! Thanks guys!! Needed a little vent this morning Love my MB&DB but DB can be a little messy when it's his turn in the nursery!! I kindly mentioned to him that leaving dirty stuff on the changing table for when I get there isn't really cool!
Baby is down for a nap, house is picked up, baby laundry is done and put away, and I have a whole 15 minutes of ipad and lunch time for me before waking the baby to feed her and and picking up her 3,5,and6 year old sisters at school! Yep, 4 girls! I really do love being a nanny, I have an awesome job!
Happy Friday!!

Funny you mention DB's turn in the nursery! My first thought upon reading your original post is that the baby woke Dad up from a deep sleep and he got flustered by the crying. My DH, who is highly competent and accomplished in every other aspect of his life, has left similar messes at our house--including on weekends when the mess sits for me rather than the nanny. Yes, it drives me nuts. Yes, he hears about it from me. But bottom line, nannies, is that you should try not to be so quick to conclude that you are being disrespected. This is about the male inability to multitask in the face of a screaming baby FAR MORE SO than it is about the parents' attitude toward the nanny. Don't be so quick to offend!

15:13 here. If it had been DB in my situation I would have laughed it off at the picture of him trying to deal with a blow-out diaper at 5:30am. Then I would have been impressed that he actually tried to soak the pjs in the sink. DB, while easily flustered with any baby-related duties, was a great guy who was actually very clean and never left a mess for anyone. MB on the other hand was a disaster. She regularly/daily left messes for others to clean up. She'd make herself lunch and leave all the ingredients and dishes out for someone else to take care of...not in my job description according to our work agreement, or take half the baby's toys out and strew them all over the house while they hopped from room to room playing and later that day ask me where one specific toy was b/c she couldn't be bothered to pick up anything so that it could easily be found again. The list could go on and on. One day I brought up some of my concerns and she had the audacity to tell me that she was under the impression this was a teamwork situation. I let her know we must have different definitions of teamwork b/c mine didn't include one person making the mess and a completely different person being expected to clean up the mess. So there are times we can be quick to conclude we are being disrespected when it's a pattern of behavior. One crazy situation is not cause for concern or rush to judgment, but daily incidences tell a different story.

[Anonymous]

Shit happens. Sorry, couldn't resist.

[Anonymous]

What a bitch. Have you thought mom FORGOT the stuff there? As a former nanny and now mom to an extremely refluxy 6mo old I often go back to things I left behind and DD t even remember they were there. Forgetting a dirty diaper when you're running around trying to pacify a child in pain is nothing. Your job is to make her life EASIER by taking care of the baby AND picking up her slack. What kind of "professional" doesn't have sympathy for a sleep deprived boss????

Don't you dare to say anything. When you see such things instead of bitching under your breath remember she probably spent all night awake with the baby cryin in pain. say out loud that you're there to help and DO YOUR JOB!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a bitch. Have you thought mom FORGOT the stuff there? As a former nanny and now mom to an extremely refluxy 6mo old I often go back to things I left behind and DD t even remember they were there. Forgetting a dirty diaper when you're running around trying to pacify a child in pain is nothing. Your job is to make her life EASIER by taking care of the baby AND picking up her slack. What kind of "professional" doesn't have sympathy for a sleep deprived boss????

Don't you dare to say anything. When you see such things instead of bitching under your breath remember she probably spent all night awake with the baby cryin in pain. say out loud that you're there to help and DO YOUR JOB!

Wow! What the hell?? It was a totally nanny vent, nannies get it! And no my job is NOT to pick up after my boss, never has been, never will be. Try again! I pick up after myself and the kiddos when I have them and MB&DB do the same. You are nuts and I am grateful I am not your nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a bitch. Have you thought mom FORGOT the stuff there? As a former nanny and now mom to an extremely refluxy 6mo old I often go back to things I left behind and DD t even remember they were there. Forgetting a dirty diaper when you're running around trying to pacify a child in pain is nothing. Your job is to make her life EASIER by taking care of the baby AND picking up her slack. What kind of "professional" doesn't have sympathy for a sleep deprived boss????

Don't you dare to say anything. When you see such things instead of bitching under your breath remember she probably spent all night awake with the baby cryin in pain. say out loud that you're there to help and DO YOUR JOB!

You sound like a total peach. Just because you rolled over and took whatever was handed your way when you worked as a nanny it doesn't mean that every self-respecting nanny will do the same.

No one is saying they don't have sympathy for a sleep-deprived boss. Making life easier for an employer doesn't mean constantly picking up after them (they are adults after all who need to figure out how to function) and silently putting up with whatever is thrown their way. You can have sympathy and still put boundaries in place.

BTW, it kind of sounds like you're due for a nap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What a bitch. Have you thought mom FORGOT the stuff there? As a former nanny and now mom to an extremely refluxy 6mo old I often go back to things I left behind and DD t even remember they were there. Forgetting a dirty diaper when you're running around trying to pacify a child in pain is nothing. Your job is to make her life EASIER by taking care of the baby AND picking up her slack. What kind of "professional" doesn't have sympathy for a sleep deprived boss????

Don't you dare to say anything. When you see such things instead of bitching under your breath remember she probably spent all night awake with the baby cryin in pain. say out loud that you're there to help and DO YOUR JOB!

You sound like a total peach. Just because you rolled over and took whatever was handed your way when you worked as a nanny it doesn't mean that every self-respecting nanny will do the same.

No one is saying they don't have sympathy for a sleep-deprived boss. Making life easier for an employer doesn't mean constantly picking up after them (they are adults after all who need to figure out how to function) and silently putting up with whatever is thrown their way. You can have sympathy and still put boundaries in place.

BTW, it kind of sounds like you're due for a nap.

You're due for a reading comprehension course.

I never said nannies should pick up after the boss' messes. I said they are there to CONTRIBUTE to the family's routine and pick up the boss' slack. When you're sleep deprived you'll make mistakes and you will only hope the people you hire to make your life EASIER will do their job - do their work so your life is easier.

What stupid nanny complains about throwing a dirty diaper in a pail 2 feet away? If it's so easy for the boss why should it be so outrageous for the nanny to do it?