Foreign blonde nanny at chesnut hills playground w 4 yr old boy and blk 1-2 yr old girl....warning

[Anonymous]

I'm exceedingly busy but decided I must post this bc the nanny? was verbally abusive to the little girl. I live in pentagon city but was I'm n arlington for a swim class. Afterwards at the playground I saw a well dressed blonde nanny wearing a blazer and her hair well kept. She had under her care a young white boy who looked about 4. She also had a younger black or biracial girl who was much younger in her care. I wouldn't post this if this was the typical talking on the phone, ignoring kid, losing kid for a second, etc... But this was really bad and if she did this in public, I can't imagine what she must do in private. In order to document it, I actually took pictures and tried to record it.

She spoke awful to the little girl. Completely ignored her when she tried to communicate saying ka, perhaps car or go. Then the girl just tried to touch her to get her attention and she said dont hit me, with a disdainful voice and face. Then she actually said, "hit yourself." " go hit yourself, not me." Then she repeated this many times, telling the girl to hit herself. I pretended like I didnt care and pretended to busy w my son but I was appalled. Then she said "why can't you be normal like other children?" Then she said " you are staying home next time" nit like the girl could understand completely but she must have felt the disdain and almost hatred this nanny? Was expressing. Then she put the girl on the bench and held her arm very tight so she couldn't move. It wasn't a time out. I have a picture of her squeezing her arm and the girl crying. Nanny then said the girl could not play with cars, couldn't have a car. Made her sit there for a few minutes w the girl crying and the many just only held on to one arm, so they were kind of twisting. It was very unusual.

Although she did not play with either child or barely seal to them for the time I saw them, she did rub the boys hair affectionatly like a caress. And she was never mean t the boy. I don't know why. Maybe she likes the boy more, maybe bc he's older, maybe it was a race issue, maybe she is related to the boy. I don't know.

When it was time to leave, she carries the older boy and had the baby toddler trail. I took pictures of the little black girl wandering around the reddish sedan while she tended to the boy. The street was buzzing w cars and she didnt even look after the girl at all while on the busy street.

Lastly, the little black girl had a runny nose. Wasn't wiped for a hour. It became very crush and just more snot came on top of it and she began to lick it.

I'm currently a sahm and I employed nannies even when I stayed at home and I became close to a couple a them. But this case just made me feel glad I never left him w one on a regular basis. Please, if u know someone who has a nanny share in arlington or close to this park and fits this description. Please warn the mom. I have many pictures. Picture of the nose, arm, girl crying, girl wandering around car while she holds boy, et ...

[Anonymous]

Soooo instead of calling the police to report this or actually using your voice and speaking up to the 'nanny' (maybe she was the mom????) you just stood there like a pathetic coward taking pictures. Don't be so smug lady, you just sat back and watched a child being abused and didn't say a word.

[Anonymous]

Smug? I purposely moved my son closer to this woman just so I could hear better and listen. I pretended to take pics of my son so I could take pics of the girl. I preferred to not be involved. It was my only free time for the whole day since I'm a sahm w out any help.

I'm staying up late dealing w this when I could have ignored the whole thin like another person there.

I think calling the police would be overkill and kind of crazy. In fact, I witnessed an farina n lady smack her kid at a chuck e cheese in Alexandria (never going there again,) and my friend mentioned there's not much u can do about it. It's nt illegal to hit your children, although its not what I practice.

I can't imagine telling a police person that a nanny forced a girl to sit on a bench by squeezing her arm, didnt blot her nose, or was mean to her. Although I believe it's verbal abuse, I health don't believe any laws were broken.

Also, I can't tell another person how to care for their children- whether that's a nanny, au pair, or mother. I can't say, hey, you can hold her differently or I don't think that's nice to say "hit yourself."

I also considered the woman could be the mother. I discussed this on the other board. My reasoning why I didnt think so was that the children did not seem to be siblings based on looks or behavior. Neither children referred to the woman as mom/mommy. Children were dressed different. Children may have only been a year or less apart. It's hard to tell. I only have an older 2 year old myself and children grow at different rates.

The woman looked young and was Eastern European. Tight teal top w cleavage, royal blue cardigan/blazer, dark wash jeans, very thin. Thinner than me and I'm 128 and 5'8.

I could be wrong and perhaps she is the mother. In that case I feel even worse for this poor girl. Bc she has no hope then, she will live like this her entire childhood. Bc legally, a mother can do that unfortunately. But if it was a nanny or au pair, then the mom can step in and get rid of her.

Btw, my best guy friend married an au paid form Lithuania and its my understanding they prefer to date and marry within their own race. The little girl was quite dark. She could be full african American. My close friend married a man from Kenya and their child is much fairer. My sister as well married an african americna man and both their children are fairer.

Neither child seemed to resemble the woman in facial features, skull shape/size, or coloring,

Lastly, if she is a single mom of 2, she likely needs to to work and wouldn't be a sahm doing the park thing at 1pm. But maybe she can manage pt. I don't know. No wedding ring.

Ok, I've done all I can. I stayed up until very late and I need to get up early. I will check back in a week to see if anyone thinks this may be their au pair or nanny. Feel awful for this poor girl. Life is just not fair.

[Anonymous]

You are right OP - that is terrible but the police could not really do anything about it. Also agree that the problem is not stopping this instance so much as trying to get this poor child out of the woman's care if she is not the mom so trying to stop in the moment instead of take pics would do little.

Not in Arlington though so unfortunately do not know. Keep bumping this for a bit and also post it on the I Saw Your Nanny site.

[Anonymous]

The last time I witnessed something like this, it was on a DC metro train. I told the mom she had to STOP it. You are a coward for not doing the same. The only acceptable excuse you might have, is if you felt your safety would be in danger. Then you call 911.

You are a first class coward. Shame on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
The last time I witnessed something like this, it was on a DC metro train. I told the mom she had to STOP it. You are a coward for not doing the same. The only acceptable excuse you might have, is if you felt your safety would be in danger. Then you call 911.

You are a first class coward. Shame on you.

NP here. You are Anonymous and call her a coward. Hypocrite. OP is trying to do the right thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
The last time I witnessed something like this, it was on a DC metro train. I told the mom she had to STOP it. You are a coward for not doing the same. The only acceptable excuse you might have, is if you felt your safety would be in danger. Then you call 911.

You are a first class coward. Shame on you.

NP here. You are Anonymous and call her a coward. Hypocrite. OP is trying to do the right thing.

[phone] huge hypocrite. OP, thank you for trying to get the word out on this. As a FTWM, I greatly appreciate the efforts you are going to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
The last time I witnessed something like this, it was on a DC metro train. I told the mom she had to STOP it. You are a coward for not doing the same. The only acceptable excuse you might have, is if you felt your safety would be in danger. Then you call 911.

You are a first class coward. Shame on you.

NP here. You are Anonymous and call her a coward. Hypocrite. OP is trying to do the right thing.

OP lost her opportunity when she walked away, having done nothing.

Yes, doing the right thing often demands that we step out of our comfort zone. Do you think I wanted deal with the mom on the metro train? No. But I knew I had to. I didn't get stabbed or shot. I was ok. After I spoke up, other people on the train, said, "Yeah, I was thinking the same thing".

Hopefully, next time we will all do the right thing.

[Anonymous]

"I told the mom she had to STOP it. "

yes but the big difference there is that it was the MOM doing it. In op's case it is likely not it sounds like. So unless OP can somehow get word to the mom about it, why would it be likely the nanny would stop doing it just because some random person in the park told her that was not nice? The nanny has no underlying incentive to be nice to the child if she's not a decent enough person to do it on her own (unlike a mom). So OP did the right thing in gathering evidence and trying to share it in hopes of finding the mom of the kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
The last time I witnessed something like this, it was on a DC metro train. I told the mom she had to STOP it. You are a coward for not doing the same. The only acceptable excuse you might have, is if you felt your safety would be in danger. Then you call 911.

You are a first class coward. Shame on you.

NP here. You are Anonymous and call her a coward. Hypocrite. OP is trying to do the right thing.

OP lost her opportunity when she walked away, having done nothing.

Yes, doing the right thing often demands that we step out of our comfort zone. Do you think I wanted deal with the mom on the metro train? No. But I knew I had to. I didn't get stabbed or shot. I was ok. After I spoke up, other people on the train, said, "Yeah, I was thinking the same thing".

Hopefully, next time we will all do the right thing.

Ok, you were perfect. Does your self-righteous scolding help the current situation that OP is trying to address by posting this on a widely- read forum? No, it just makes her feel bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
The last time I witnessed something like this, it was on a DC metro train. I told the mom she had to STOP it. You are a coward for not doing the same. The only acceptable excuse you might have, is if you felt your safety would be in danger. Then you call 911.

You are a first class coward. Shame on you.

NP here. You are Anonymous and call her a coward. Hypocrite. OP is trying to do the right thing.

OP lost her opportunity when she walked away, having done nothing.

Yes, doing the right thing often demands that we step out of our comfort zone. Do you think I wanted deal with the mom on the metro train? No. But I knew I had to. I didn't get stabbed or shot. I was ok. After I spoke up, other people on the train, said, "Yeah, I was thinking the same thing".

Hopefully, next time we will all do the right thing.

Ok, you were perfect. Does your self-righteous scolding help the current situation that OP is trying to address by posting this on a widely- read forum? No, it just makes her feel bad.

+10000 And for all of you who call her a coward etc, did you not read the post from the person that said confronting an abuser often makes it worse?!?! It's easy for you to sit there and anonymously blame this lady but maybe you should think about it first. It might make you feel like a big person doing the "right thing" and confronting someone but what if that just made her take it out on the girl when they were in private? Someone who is truly abusive isn't going to suddenly stop because a random stranger stops them in the park and tell them to stop. Maybe those of you criticizing someone for trying to do the right thing need to use your brains and think about the consequences of what you are suggesting. Or maybe you just don't have anything better to do and want to stir up drama.

OP - thank you for posting this. Ignore the ignorant people on here looking for a fight. As an MB I'd want you to do exactly what you did to try to alert the parents and not risk making a situation worse by confronting the woman.

[Anonymous]

She should feel bad. Posting something on an internet forum is nowhere near the same thing as taking action. If OP was truly so appalled at the supposed Nanny's actions, and truly feared for the well being of this child, she should have ABSOLUTELY spoken up. I have done it several times, in one way or another, and I am not alone. Posting here, however "widely-read" this forum is, is likely to do nothing. Her opportunity to make a difference was in the moment...and now it has passed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She should feel bad. Posting something on an internet forum is nowhere near the same thing as taking action. If OP was truly so appalled at the supposed Nanny's actions, and truly feared for the well being of this child, she should have ABSOLUTELY spoken up. I have done it several times, in one way or another, and I am not alone. Posting here, however "widely-read" this forum is, is likely to do nothing. Her opportunity to make a difference was in the moment...and now it has passed.

Speaking up may not have been the smart thing to do. See PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She should feel bad. Posting something on an internet forum is nowhere near the same thing as taking action. If OP was truly so appalled at the supposed Nanny's actions, and truly feared for the well being of this child, she should have ABSOLUTELY spoken up. I have done it several times, in one way or another, and I am not alone. Posting here, however "widely-read" this forum is, is likely to do nothing. Her opportunity to make a difference was in the moment...and now it has passed.

Please tell me you are not a parent. Good grief, you are insufferable.

[Anonymous]

The lesson here is, the next time you see a child being abused, speak up. If you don't feel safe enough to do so, call 911.
Of course, be tactful.

"See something, say something."