MB's would hire another mom?

[Anonymous]

Is it really that hard to find a nanny job if you are also a mother yourself? Seems to be a huge turnoff to so many potential employers. I would think that would make them more comfortable. I don't need to bring a child with me either. But just the fact that I am a mom seems to be the problem. And yes, I have years of experience from before I was a mom. I am trying to get back nannying though and it's near impossible it seems.

[Anonymous]

I think moms assume that you may be less reliable or available when anything with your own child comes up. I would not hire a nanny with a child for that reason. It's nothing personal, but my husband and I have very demanding jobs with long hours and I need to know we are our nannies first priority.

[Anonymous]

It probably depends on the employer's own job. My nanny has middle to high school aged kids. I chose her over a nanny with a degree because she was a mom and we really clicked. I trust her judgement and worry less about my kids because I know that she has mom instincts. She is very reliable but I also have a more flexible job.

There seem to be a good number of nannies that expect to bring their child. Even for nannies with childcare, it doesn't seem uncommon for them to expect to start bringing their children to work if they run into childcare problems. I think this spooks employers and probably ruins it for nannies who wouldn't do this.

[Anonymous]

I don't want a nanny who's a mother. I don't want you deciding that if something is good enough for your child it's good enough for mine. I don't want you to resent my child because I can afford things for her you can't afford for yours. I don't want you comparing them. I don't want to worry you'll bring colds from your child into our house. I don't want you cutting corners to rush to get home to your own child. I don't want to worry you'll need time off when your child is sick. It's just easier to hire someone who's not a parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't want a nanny who's a mother. I don't want you deciding that if something is good enough for your child it's good enough for mine. I don't want you to resent my child because I can afford things for her you can't afford for yours. I don't want you comparing them. I don't want to worry you'll bring colds from your child into our house. I don't want you cutting corners to rush to get home to your own child. I don't want to worry you'll need time off when your child is sick. It's just easier to hire someone who's not a parent.

Wow...you sound very bitter. Must've had a bad experience with a nanny mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't want a nanny who's a mother. I don't want you deciding that if something is good enough for your child it's good enough for mine. I don't want you to resent my child because I can afford things for her you can't afford for yours. I don't want you comparing them. I don't want to worry you'll bring colds from your child into our house. I don't want you cutting corners to rush to get home to your own child. I don't want to worry you'll need time off when your child is sick. It's just easier to hire someone who's not a parent.

These are all the things I'm concerned about with hiring a nanny who's a mom. That said, I've hired a nanny who has 3 children, one who is close in age to my own baby. She had wonderful references, but I am certainly still concerned about the above-mentioned issues. I'll see if it works out. If it doesnt, I'll have to move on to someone else. To add to the list above, I'm also concerned about her wanting to bring her child with her at some point. But like I said, we'll see.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't want a nanny who's a mother. I don't want you deciding that if something is good enough for your child it's good enough for mine. I don't want you to resent my child because I can afford things for her you can't afford for yours. I don't want you comparing them. I don't want to worry you'll bring colds from your child into our house. I don't want you cutting corners to rush to get home to your own child. I don't want to worry you'll need time off when your child is sick. It's just easier to hire someone who's not a parent.

These are all the things I'm concerned about with hiring a nanny who's a mom. That said, I've hired a nanny who has 3 children, one who is close in age to my own baby. She had wonderful references, but I am certainly still concerned about the above-mentioned issues. I'll see if it works out. If it doesnt, I'll have to move on to someone else. To add to the list above, I'm also concerned about her wanting to bring her child with her at some point. But like I said, we'll see.

If you are that worried, then you should give her notice and let her find a job where she can be fully accepted and not worried about. It seems that many MB's just can't handle the fact that their nannies may just have other things in their life besides their job. Too bad your corporate employers can't discriminate legally the way nanny employers can. If you have kids, you should be able to get a job you are qualified for. It's kind of ridiculous actually. You have to take time off for your kids and the same courtesy should be extended to those you employ.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't want a nanny who's a mother. I don't want you deciding that if something is good enough for your child it's good enough for mine. I don't want you to resent my child because I can afford things for her you can't afford for yours. I don't want you comparing them. I don't want to worry you'll bring colds from your child into our house. I don't want you cutting corners to rush to get home to your own child. I don't want to worry you'll need time off when your child is sick. It's just easier to hire someone who's not a parent.

Wow...you sound very bitter. Must've had a bad experience with a nanny mom.

I'm not bitter at all, and never had a bad experience with a nanny who is a mom. We've only ever had one nanny and she doesn't have children. I just don't want to deal with all I described above.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think moms assume that you may be less reliable or available when anything with your own child comes up. I would not hire a nanny with a child for that reason. It's nothing personal, but my husband and I have very demanding jobs with long hours and I need to know we are our nannies first priority.

You're not. Even if she doesn't have kids, you're not. Is she yours?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't want a nanny who's a mother. I don't want you deciding that if something is good enough for your child it's good enough for mine. I don't want you to resent my child because I can afford things for her you can't afford for yours. I don't want you comparing them. I don't want to worry you'll bring colds from your child into our house. I don't want you cutting corners to rush to get home to your own child. I don't want to worry you'll need time off when your child is sick. It's just easier to hire someone who's not a parent.

Why do you assume this? Not all nannies are poor, nor are we all jealous of your lifestyles. Some inflated egos on this thread!

[Anonymous]

It's politely known as "servitude", alive and well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think moms assume that you may be less reliable or available when anything with your own child comes up. I would not hire a nanny with a child for that reason. It's nothing personal, but my husband and I have very demanding jobs with long hours and I need to know we are our nannies first priority.

You're not. Even if she doesn't have kids, you're not. Is she yours?

Seriously, talk about entitled Nannies. Some of these MB are ridiculous. I'm not a slave, I'm providing you a service and although I LOVE your children and they ARE my first concern when I'm working, in my every day life no...your not family is NOT my first priority.

-Single, childless nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's politely known as "servitude", alive and well.

This MB behavior is illegal.

[Anonymous]

If her child is sick, she should be able to use PTO days that YOU have alloted to her in the first place. It's none of your business WHY she uses them. I wish some of these MB's bosses would tell them to put their children 2nd to their jobs. Oh wait, most of them do!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think moms assume that you may be less reliable or available when anything with your own child comes up. I would not hire a nanny with a child for that reason. It's nothing personal, but my husband and I have very demanding jobs with long hours and I need to know we are our nannies first priority.

You're not. Even if she doesn't have kids, you're not. Is she yours?

Seriously, talk about entitled Nannies. Some of these MB are ridiculous. I'm not a slave, I'm providing you a service and although I LOVE your children and they ARE my first concern when I'm working, in my every day life no...your not family is NOT my first priority.

-Single, childless nanny.

Agree!
While on the clock - my job is my #1 priority, off the clock - my life is #1.
I'm single, childless and loving it. When I'm off work - I'm not thinking about work.
I don't care if my boss has a busy life (not sounding mean sorry if it comes across rude) but my life is just as important