MB's would hire another mom?

[Anonymous]

As an MB, I look for nannies that are also moms. Then I know that they already have good experience! And, they have a lot of empathy for my situation. My best experiences have been with nannies that are also moms. Hands down. The only nanny I ever had to let go was not a mom and I just couldn't trust her (not b/c she wasn't a mom though).

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Anonymous wrote:I think moms assume that you may be less reliable or available when anything with your own child comes up. I would not hire a nanny with a child for that reason. It's nothing personal, but my husband and I have very demanding jobs with long hours and I need to know we are our nannies first priority.

You're not. Even if she doesn't have kids, you're not. Is she yours?

Seriously, talk about entitled Nannies. Some of these MB are ridiculous. I'm not a slave, I'm providing you a service and although I LOVE your children and they ARE my first concern when I'm working, in my every day life no...your not family is NOT my first priority.

-Single, childless nanny.

Agree!
While on the clock - my job is my #1 priority, off the clock - my life is #1.
I'm single, childless and loving it. When I'm off work - I'm not thinking about work.
I don't care if my boss has a busy life (not sounding mean sorry if it comes across rude) but my life is just as important

Exactly. The only advantage of having a single/childless nanny is that I'm probably more flexible. I don't ever have sick children to look after, or come to work cranky because my husband is a jerk. I can't believe how rude the PP is who mentioned that she doesn't want her nanny jealous that she can afford better things for her child. What an elitist bitch.

I don't understand this mentality that a nannies life must revolve around her charges and the family. Yes, they are important to me, I spend a majority of my time with them, but I like to sleep in and go to the movies. I've decided to wait till I have children for a reason, for freedom. I'm NOT going to spend my every waking second devoted to someone else.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't want a nanny who's a mother. I don't want you deciding that if something is good enough for your child it's good enough for mine. I don't want you to resent my child because I can afford things for her you can't afford for yours. I don't want you comparing them. I don't want to worry you'll bring colds from your child into our house. I don't want you cutting corners to rush to get home to your own child. I don't want to worry you'll need time off when your child is sick. It's just easier to hire someone who's not a parent.

These are all the things I'm concerned about with hiring a nanny who's a mom. That said, I've hired a nanny who has 3 children, one who is close in age to my own baby. She had wonderful references, but I am certainly still concerned about the above-mentioned issues. I'll see if it works out. If it doesnt, I'll have to move on to someone else. To add to the list above, I'm also concerned about her wanting to bring her child with her at some point. But like I said, we'll see.

If you are that worried, then you should give her notice and let her find a job where she can be fully accepted and not worried about. It seems that many MB's just can't handle the fact that their nannies may just have other things in their life besides their job. Too bad your corporate employers can't discriminate legally the way nanny employers can. If you have kids, you should be able to get a job you are qualified for. It's kind of ridiculous actually. You have to take time off for your kids and the same courtesy should be extended to those you employ.

+100000

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I think moms assume that you may be less reliable or available when anything with your own child comes up. I would not hire a nanny with a child for that reason. It's nothing personal, but my husband and I have very demanding jobs with long hours and I need to know we are our nannies first priority.


You're not. Even if she doesn't have kids, you're not. Is she yours?


Seriously, talk about entitled Nannies. Some of these MB are ridiculous. I'm not a slave, I'm providing you a service and although I LOVE your children and they ARE my first concern when I'm working, in my every day life no...your not family is NOT my first priority.

-Single, childless nanny.


Agree!
While on the clock - my job is my #1 priority, off the clock - my life is #1.
I'm single, childless and loving it. When I'm off work - I'm not thinking about work.
I don't care if my boss has a busy life (not sounding mean sorry if it comes across rude) but my life is just as important

I'm an MB and I completely agree with this. I'd only expect the job to be top priority when you're on the clock.

[Anonymous]

Another MB here. My nanny is a mom and I loved that about her--not only did she have experience from past employment but experience as a mom. She gets some stuff and understands my weird fears in a way that someone who never had a child of their own would.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't want a nanny who's a mother. I don't want you deciding that if something is good enough for your child it's good enough for mine. I don't want you to resent my child because I can afford things for her you can't afford for yours. I don't want you comparing them. I don't want to worry you'll bring colds from your child into our house. I don't want you cutting corners to rush to get home to your own child. I don't want to worry you'll need time off when your child is sick. It's just easier to hire someone who's not a parent.

These are all the things I'm concerned about with hiring a nanny who's a mom. That said, I've hired a nanny who has 3 children, one who is close in age to my own baby. She had wonderful references, but I am certainly still concerned about the above-mentioned issues. I'll see if it works out. If it doesnt, I'll have to move on to someone else. To add to the list above, I'm also concerned about her wanting to bring her child with her at some point. But like I said, we'll see.

If you are that worried, then you should give her notice and let her find a job where she can be fully accepted and not worried about. It seems that many MB's just can't handle the fact that their nannies may just have other things in their life besides their job. Too bad your corporate employers can't discriminate legally the way nanny employers can. If you have kids, you should be able to get a job you are qualified for. It's kind of ridiculous actually. You have to take time off for your kids and the same courtesy should be extended to those you employ.

+100000

Agree!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't want a nanny who's a mother. I don't want you deciding that if something is good enough for your child it's good enough for mine. I don't want you to resent my child because I can afford things for her you can't afford for yours. I don't want you comparing them. I don't want to worry you'll bring colds from your child into our house. I don't want you cutting corners to rush to get home to your own child. I don't want to worry you'll need time off when your child is sick. It's just easier to hire someone who's not a parent.

These are all the things I'm concerned about with hiring a nanny who's a mom. That said, I've hired a nanny who has 3 children, one who is close in age to my own baby. She had wonderful references, but I am certainly still concerned about the above-mentioned issues. I'll see if it works out. If it doesnt, I'll have to move on to someone else. To add to the list above, I'm also concerned about her wanting to bring her child with her at some point. But like I said, we'll see.

[b]I am proud mother of three and a happy nanny. If you are worried about these issues, why did you hire this nanny in the first place?. First, I am a nanny but I would never do something to your child without your consent. Second, I would not resent your child because of the things I would not be able to afford for my own child. I'm satisfied with whatever I can afford for my kids. Also, why would I compare your child to mine? There is nothing there to compare. Even parents without nannies have germs in their homes and allow kids to become sick. What if the situation was vise versa? And the germs that I brought home allowed my children to become sick. If you don't want the nanny cutting corners to rush home, why not come home earlier to address the situation? Instead of worrying about giving time off to the nannies when their child becomes sick, why can't they just use their PTO days for personal uses. I am positive that you would take off a day or two to worry about your baby or yourself having health issues. What would be the difference with nannies? Even if my MB would ask me to bring my child to work, I would not because of their demanding needs.

If you are that worried, then you should give her notice and let her find a job where she can be fully accepted and not worried about. It seems that many MB's just can't handle the fact that their nannies may just have other things in their life besides their job. Too bad your corporate employers can't discriminate legally the way nanny employers can. If you have kids, you should be able to get a job you are qualified for. It's kind of ridiculous actually. You have to take time off for your kids and the same courtesy should be extended to those you employ.

+100000

Agree!

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Anonymous wrote:It's politely known as "servitude", alive and well.

This MB behavior is illegal.

Hyperbole hardly helps move the thread forward. Refusing to hire a nanny who is a mother is hardly enslaving others.

My nanny is a mother. Occasionally, she has to cancel because of a sick child. However, that has happened only a few times in her four years of employment. And now that my kids are in school, she is able to go to midday school events for her own children. She is active in their classrooms, and it is a benefit that is easy for us to give. I know - harder to do when your kids are younger. But eventually you might feel differently about hiring another mom.