Getting a library card-- special??

[Anonymous]

I came home this week and noticed there were some library books on the table.

Then I found out my nanny opened a library card for my 12 month old son. It says "My First Library Card" on it.

We are a very academic family and getting a library card would've been a big deal, a coming of age event. I wanted to take him when he was older and knew what getting a library card meant.

If she wanted library books, she could've taken my library card.

Up until this point, it was understood she could go to visit and do story time but because my son put everything in his mouth, we would not want library books for him to chew on.

My nanny did not seem to understand why I don't want her opening accounts under my son's name.

Am I overreacting to be upset?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I came home this week and noticed there were some library books on the table.

Then I found out my nanny opened a library card for my 12 month old son. It says "My First Library Card" on it.

We are a very academic family and getting a library card would've been a big deal, a coming of age event. I wanted to take him when he was older and knew what getting a library card meant.

If she wanted library books, she could've taken my library card.

Up until this point, it was understood she could go to visit and do story time but because my son put everything in his mouth, we would not want library books for him to chew on.

My nanny did not seem to understand why I don't want her opening accounts under my son's name.

Am I overreacting to be upset?

Did you tell her not to use the library card before hand. She can't read your mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I came home this week and noticed there were some library books on the table.

Then I found out my nanny opened a library card for my 12 month old son. It says "My First Library Card" on it.

We are a very academic family and getting a library card would've been a big deal, a coming of age event. I wanted to take him when he was older and knew what getting a library card meant.

If she wanted library books, she could've taken my library card.

Up until this point, it was understood she could go to visit and do story time but because my son put everything in his mouth, we would not want library books for him to chew on.

My nanny did not seem to understand why I don't want her opening accounts under my son's name.

Am I overreacting to be upset?

Yes, you are overreacting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I came home this week and noticed there were some library books on the table.

Then I found out my nanny opened a library card for my 12 month old son. It says "My First Library Card" on it.

We are a very academic family and getting a library card would've been a big deal, a coming of age event. I wanted to take him when he was older and knew what getting a library card meant.

If she wanted library books, she could've taken my library card.

Up until this point, it was understood she could go to visit and do story time but because my son put everything in his mouth, we would not want library books for him to chew on.

My nanny did not seem to understand why I don't want her opening accounts under my son's name.

Am I overreacting to be upset?

I can understand you being upset. I remember getting my own first library card fondly. However it's not something that I'd mention to my nanny. I'd mourn it a bit with my husband and move on. You can always close the account and re-open his "real" first card later, after all. You can tell your nanny that you don't want to keep track of an extra card for him since it means two lists of checked out books,e tc. at this time.

If you still don't want library books for him, reiterate that to your nanny.

[Anonymous]

I am sorry but I think you are over reacting. I opened a library card for my 2 year old charge and the parent's didn't mind at all.

[Anonymous]

Overreacting!

[Anonymous]

OP, I have NEVER heard of anyone upset because they weren't the ones to go and get their child's library card. I've seen other parents post similar threads and I think it boils down to you, somewhat, envying your nannies position. You have to work and pay your nanny for doing the job YOU want to do, and you feel guilty that you can't. You dislike the fact that she's doing your job so when she takes a little initiative and brings your child on an outing to get books to read, you're upset.

This is normal feelings. Although some parents don't feel this way, some (like yourself) do. Just realize that this is you feeling somewhat guilty that you're not available to do these things all the time, and don't take it out on your nanny because she only had your child's best interests at heart.

Look at it this way, would you rather have a nanny who plops your kid in front of the TV all day, or a nanny who takes your kid on an outing to the library to get books to read.?

[Anonymous]

She got the library books to read to your son. Not to let him sit and chew on it. Your babies hands are more dirty then a baby book at the library because those hands crawl and touch EVERYTHING.

[Anonymous]

Overreacting. I love the library and would want to do that with my child when they're older too, but wouldn't be angry if the nanny did it. Just tell the nanny to come talk with you first if they're thinking of opening ANY accounts in your DC's name.

[Anonymous]

Cool. You don't want your nanny reading library books to your child. So...tv's good, then?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I have NEVER heard of anyone upset because they weren't the ones to go and get their child's library card. I've seen other parents post similar threads and I think it boils down to you, somewhat, envying your nannies position. You have to work and pay your nanny for doing the job YOU want to do, and you feel guilty that you can't. You dislike the fact that she's doing your job so when she takes a little initiative and brings your child on an outing to get books to read, you're upset.

This is normal feelings. Although some parents don't feel this way, some (like yourself) do. Just realize that this is you feeling somewhat guilty that you're not available to do these things all the time, and don't take it out on your nanny because she only had your child's best interests at heart.

Look at it this way, would you rather have a nanny who plops your kid in front of the TV all day, or a nanny who takes your kid on an outing to the library to get books to read.?

+1

[Anonymous]

OP here. She is a part time nanny working 2 days a week.

It does not have to be "get my son his own library card or TV" people. That kind of argument is just ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She is a part time nanny working 2 days a week.

It does not have to be "get my son his own library card or TV" people. That kind of argument is just ridiculous.

Ok, you never answered my question.

Did you tell her not to open a library account in his name? If not, than you have no reason to be upset. She cannot read your mind, she was doing something nice for your son.

[Anonymous]

My nanny did this too. I did not like it but I did not say anything. I think the problem is the libraries who allow kids to get cards without parental concent. Neither the kid nor the nanny is going to pay the fine for lost and late books. Parental signature should be required.

[Anonymous]

I'm a nanny. Really don't think this is a big deal.....but...I would never open any accounts in DC's name without checking with MB first. And I'm very comfortable with my family. I just wouldn't without asking. So I can understand being a little irked but it really is no big deal and I think the nanny was just trying to do something nice. Just move on.