Getting a library card-- special??

[Anonymous]

Of course you are.

[Anonymous]

I can see where you're coming from. As a nanny, I try very hard not to overstep my boundaries when it comes to "firsts" but your nanny has no way of knowing what specific "firsts" are important to your family. I once had a boss call me in tears because I planned to take my charge ice skating for her Christmas present. I had no idea the mom used to skate and had always dreamed of taking her daughter for the first time. Of course I changed our plans once I knew this. If she is a good nanny and otherwise respects your wishes, she probably would feel terrible about it if she knew how this made you feel. I know I would (though if it were me, I would just use my own library card - it is a bit weird to open an account for somebody else's child if not specifically instructed to do so). Keep the lines of communication open and let her know it hurt your feelings. But let her know there was no way she could have known without you telling her.

[Anonymous]

It's really hard to find a nanny that is a good fit for a family! Seriously, this is not that serious. It's a little sad, and you are allowed to be sad about it, but don't bring it up to the nanny accusatorily. It's not worth it!

[Anonymous]

I'm more concerned you call your one year old a 12 month old.

[Anonymous]

Are you the "Nanny took my child to ser Santa," troll? I think you are. You need to get a life!

[Anonymous]

I understand that getting a library card was something special for you, but I think that is fairly unique to you, not something the nanny should have automatically realized would upset you. The only thing that would bother me is that most libraries require that an adult sign for the kids card taking responsibility for the books checked out on it. If nanny was able to do that herself, no problem, but if she put me down as the responsible party without asking, I would not be happy.

[Anonymous]

You are acting a little crazy. Your child is 12 mos and doesn't know he has a library card. Just throw it away or deactivate it or whatever and have your "ceremony" when he is older. He won't know that it's not his first card.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are acting a little crazy. Your child is 12 mos and doesn't know he has a library card. Just throw it away or deactivate it or whatever and have your "ceremony" when he is older. He won't know that it's not his first card.

Haha ITA!!

[Anonymous]

DD needs a library card; DS has had 1 for years and just haven't had the chance. DD mentioned it the other day. So busy. Could you please send your clearly caring and thoughtful nanny over to take DD to the library to sign up? Thanks!

[Anonymous]

I would be upset too.

I don't do firsts with the kids I nanny on purpose, unless I know the family doesn't mind. I also wouldn't fathom opening ANY account in a child's name that is not my child- I think that's overstepping boundaries regardless of what it is without permission.