Dear Boss; How I really feel.

[Anonymous]

Dear Boss,

After working for you for 4 years I have decided it is time for me to leave this position. I would like to provide you with a full explanation of my resignation. Although I have grown to love your 3 children (while completely raising the youngest from the time you gave birth), you really have some issues. I am saddened by the fact that you have never even acknowledged my birthday when you have been well aware. I have the children make things for you for mothers day/birthdays etc. and purchase things for the children with my own money. Not only do you throw these items away, you tell me that you do this. For Christmas I get you and your family gifts (not too expensive) but don’t even receive a card from you (obviously because I didn’t do this myself for you). I would really like to know why you are always “so busy” when I take care of your kids 45 hours a week AND walk your dogs, do your grocery shopping, laundry, dishes, Christmas/birthday shopping and wrapping, make your kids Easter baskets for you, get your car maintenanced etc. You don’t work. And I don’t feel bad when you complain to me about how you booked 2 massages in one day. Boo hoo. Switching me to salary then making me work many more hours a week without paying me extra was annoying. My tipping point may have been when I broke my leg while traveling with your family. I did not ask for your help with medical bills. You did not help make arrangements for me so I had to hobble around your house without my crutches and you acted annoyed with me. The biggest shocker was 3 weeks after my injury when you said to me “You really must be hurt, I’ve been watching you to catch you faking it but you’ve just kept limping.” EFFFF YOU! You are so selfish and lazy and don’t care about anyone other than yourself. I will dearly miss your sweet children and hope you can be excited to spend time with them someday instead of acting so depressed when I ask for a day off.

Sincerely,

Me

[Anonymous]

I rely hope you send this to them. They sounds like assholes to say the least.

[Anonymous]

Don't burn bridges. Burn the letter.

[Anonymous]

Oh wow. Makes me sad and angry for you. Best of luck, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dear Boss,

After working for you for 4 years I have decided it is time for me to leave this position. I would like to provide you with a full explanation of my resignation. Although I have grown to love your 3 children (while completely raising the youngest from the time you gave birth), you really have some issues. I am saddened by the fact that you have never even acknowledged my birthday when you have been well aware. I have the children make things for you for mothers day/birthdays etc. and purchase things for the children with my own money. Not only do you throw these items away, you tell me that you do this. For Christmas I get you and your family gifts (not too expensive) but don’t even receive a card from you (obviously because I didn’t do this myself for you). I would really like to know why you are always “so busy” when I take care of your kids 45 hours a week AND walk your dogs, do your grocery shopping, laundry, dishes, Christmas/birthday shopping and wrapping, make your kids Easter baskets for you, get your car maintenanced etc. You don’t work. And I don’t feel bad when you complain to me about how you booked 2 massages in one day. Boo hoo. Switching me to salary then making me work many more hours a week without paying me extra was annoying. My tipping point may have been when I broke my leg while traveling with your family. I did not ask for your help with medical bills. You did not help make arrangements for me so I had to hobble around your house without my crutches and you acted annoyed with me. The biggest shocker was 3 weeks after my injury when you said to me “You really must be hurt, I’ve been watching you to catch you faking it but you’ve just kept limping.” EFFFF YOU! You are so selfish and lazy and don’t care about anyone other than yourself. I will dearly miss your sweet children and hope you can be excited to spend time with them someday instead of acting so depressed when I ask for a day off.

Sincerely,

Me

Who in the hell agreed to marry and breed with this horrid woman. Run far away, poor children.

[Anonymous]

I wouldnt even give notice. She doesn't have a job. She can handle it. Sounds like she would be a shitty reference anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldnt even give notice. She doesn't have a job. She can handle it. Sounds like she would be a shitty reference anyway.

I no, I wouldn't but OP has been working for four years and not showing up might make her MB automatically give OP a negative reference out of spite.. Some parents don't care about the whole picture and respect the fact that nanny cared for their children and kept them safe and happy while their fatass stay-at-home lazy "mother" layed on her butt all day.

This is why I think nannies should have parents write quarterly references. Even if they don't plan on leaving anytime soon.

[Anonymous]

she sounds awful but 4 years is a long time to not be able to give a reference for. think long term, nanny. don't burn the bridge.

[Anonymous]

Op, how much is this horrible woman paying you? I feel so sorry for you and the children. Those poor children. Surely there are parents who would treat you with the respect that you deserve, and compensate you accordingly. You should post an email in this thread so they can contact you directly.
You will have your choice of countless well-paying offers. Be selective. Think about your own needs for a change. There's a family out there who will be VERY fortunate to have you. They will treat you like the most cherished person in their lives. And they will put their money where their mouth is, and do whatever they can.

[Anonymous]

OP, nannies are hourly employees and, under Federal law, cannot be exempt, meaning you must be paid OT for all hours over 40 per week. Report her to local labor office.

[Anonymous]

And from the other side - why on earth did you stay? For heaven's sake. Just leave, before you get to this point and while you can still be professional and appropriate.

[Anonymous]

You've been with this family for 4 years, and you need this reference for future jobs if you plan to continue as a nanny. Don't do something stupid.

[Anonymous]

Get a letter of reference for a weekend or evening job. Then once you find a new job and are ready to quit let them know precisely why you are leaving. Perhaps more tactfully than you did here, but it will hold them accountable for their actions and give them the opportunity to do better in the future.

[Anonymous]

OK. Why the hell did you stay for four years if you're working for a cunt? Golden rule of nannying 101: Never work for a SAHM or get ready to be treated like crap! You're very dense OP. I don't feel sorry for you. It is silly to! One with enough dignity and common sense can figure out in a few minutes or 2 weeks if the situation will not work out long term. You stayed for 4 freaking years and now you want a pat on the back and empathy? Nope. Not going to happen. I HOPE this is a lesson learned, if not WOW.