Nanny not allowed to kiss baby!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dear Nannies,
What is your reaction when you are told not to kiss baby at all.
No exceptions. Will you take the job or if you are working already,. Reason to quit? What's the fear behind this weird request? Definitely not on the lips.
Just feet's and head.

I don’t kiss children. I do hug, cuddle and carry them, and I’ve never had an issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find it weird you are kissing someone else's child.

You’re weird. It’s done all the time by caregivers and teachers not to mention relatives and family friends. It’s how mammals show affection and important for the baby to feel loved and safe.

No, teachers aren’t kissing their students.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And when the baby wants to kiss you, what are you supposed to do?!!

I would absolutely quit, OP, regardless of what the mother says. They clearly think it’s okay for the aunt and uncle to tell you what to do.

I’ve never run into this, because I never started kissing other people’s children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find it weird you are kissing someone else's child.

You’re weird. It’s done all the time by caregivers and teachers not to mention relatives and family friends. It’s how mammals show affection and important for the baby to feel loved and safe.

No, teachers aren’t kissing their students.

Preschool teachers did it all the time when I was teaching. And the kids kiss them. One of my sweetest students, about 3, used to kiss my hand every morning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And when the baby wants to kiss you, what are you supposed to do?!!

I would absolutely quit, OP, regardless of what the mother says. They clearly think it’s okay for the aunt and uncle to tell you what to do.

I’ve never run into this, because I never started kissing other people’s children.

Not your nieces, nephews, Godchildren, close friends kids?! That so sad, PP. Are you generally a cold person?

[Anonymous]

I kiss and hug my charges and former charges all the time and they kiss and hug me. I couldn’t work any other way. It’s human affection.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No need to kiss the baby. I adore my charges but don’t kiss them. I kiss my own children.

That is You. Don't speak for all. The rest of the nannies love our charges so much; and don't discriminate.. if is your own child or your charge. No all nannies are such a cold person like you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And when the baby wants to kiss you, what are you supposed to do?!!

I would absolutely quit, OP, regardless of what the mother says. They clearly think it’s okay for the aunt and uncle to tell you what to do.

I’ve never run into this, because I never started kissing other people’s children.

Woww. You must be just a cold person. Your personality is like that.. and I can't imagine myself working with kids without showing my love with a kiss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And when the baby wants to kiss you, what are you supposed to do?!!

I would absolutely quit, OP, regardless of what the mother says. They clearly think it’s okay for the aunt and uncle to tell you what to do.

OP here,
I had a 4:30pm appointment to speak to the mom and she cancelled last minute. I think she knows what's happening at home and looking to avoid the conversation. I will send her a formal email with my notice attached. Today was unbearable and I refused to work in a toxic household. The aunt and uncle basically are all over myself and baby. Giving out advice and following me around the whole day. For example, I was reading nap time storytime to the baby and the aunt told me, I am giving the baby too much attention. He needs to be strong and independent. Let him sooth himself to sleep without any distractions. I am truly over it. I told her please don't speak to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dear Nannies,
What is your reaction when you are told not to kiss baby at all.
No exceptions. Will you take the job or if you are working already,. Reason to quit? What's the fear behind this weird request? Definitely not on the lips.
Just feet's and head.

Terrible. Babies are kiss machines. I would not take job and if already working for someone making this rule, I would quit on the spot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And when the baby wants to kiss you, what are you supposed to do?!!

I would absolutely quit, OP, regardless of what the mother says. They clearly think it’s okay for the aunt and uncle to tell you what to do.

OP here,
I had a 4:30pm appointment to speak to the mom and she cancelled last minute. I think she knows what's happening at home and looking to avoid the conversation. I will send her a formal email with my notice attached. Today was unbearable and I refused to work in a toxic household. The aunt and uncle basically are all over myself and baby. Giving out advice and following me around the whole day. For example, I was reading nap time storytime to the baby and the aunt told me, I am giving the baby too much attention. He needs to be strong and independent. Let him sooth himself to sleep without any distractions. I am truly over it. I told her please don't speak to me.

Why the f are the aunt and uncle there and why do they think they are any right to tell you anything?

Quit now, OP. I feel so bad for that poor baby but there is nothing you can do.

[Anonymous]

I know you didn’t ask a parent’s opinion but I would never hire a nanny who wouldn’t kiss my babies! Or let the babies kiss them!

Further, why are the aunt and uncle even there. At least you can quit now and walk out knowing the nosy aunt and uncle can do backup care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know you didn’t ask a parent’s opinion but I would never hire a nanny who wouldn’t kiss my babies! Or let the babies kiss them!

Further, why are the aunt and uncle even there. At least you can quit now and walk out knowing the nosy aunt and uncle can do backup care.

OP here,

I welcome your advice. The baby is ten months old and I can tell already he is not receiving adequate attention and love. He always reaches for me doesn't want to let go. I love him already but I cannot work in this condition. Also, they will take care of him but withhold affection all day. It's truly too sad

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know you didn’t ask a parent’s opinion but I would never hire a nanny who wouldn’t kiss my babies! Or let the babies kiss them!

Further, why are the aunt and uncle even there. At least you can quit now and walk out knowing the nosy aunt and uncle can do backup care.

Well said mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And when the baby wants to kiss you, what are you supposed to do?!!

I would absolutely quit, OP, regardless of what the mother says. They clearly think it’s okay for the aunt and uncle to tell you what to do.

OP here,
I had a 4:30pm appointment to speak to the mom and she cancelled last minute. I think she knows what's happening at home and looking to avoid the conversation. I will send her a formal email with my notice attached. Today was unbearable and I refused to work in a toxic household. The aunt and uncle basically are all over myself and baby. Giving out advice and following me around the whole day. For example, I was reading nap time storytime to the baby and the aunt told me, I am giving the baby too much attention. He needs to be strong and independent. Let him sooth himself to sleep without any distractions. I am truly over it. I told her please don't speak to me.

Why the f are the aunt and uncle there and why do they think they are any right to tell you anything?

Quit now, OP. I feel so bad for that poor baby but there is nothing you can do.

They live there temporarily. The husband said it seems permanent to him. Since Baby was born ten months ago. The husband works from home but I never see him, because his office is in the basement.