How To Handle Amazing Nanny Not Social Distancing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you know whether she did her nails herself or not?

I don't see a problem with an outdoor gathering of 8-10 people.

The nanny admitted she got her nails “done” and it wasn’t smart.

Outdoor gatherings still require face masks.

Not OP but I certainly see OP’s issues. Especially now with the virus on the rise again.

If both wore a mask, what's the problem? You can't dictate to your nanny what she does outside her work hours. You can make no socializing outside of working hours, wearing a mask all the time a condition of employment and then you can start looking for a new nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would schedule a sit-down talk with her for Monday morning. Give her the new statistics on the spread of this virus and how even a case that doesn’t require hospitalization is incredibly painful. Just tell her what you told us - that you love her and you’re scared for her and your family.

Also tell her that you know how lonely and hard this is for her.

Then ask how you can help her better socially isolate on weekends.

The nanny is a grown woman and she does not need a lecture. If I were her, I'd tell you where to go and quit on the spot.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately, you can’t control what people are doing outside of their work hours. Anyone you hire at this point is seeing family, friends, going grocery shopping, entering buildings, touching things, etc.

Either pay for her to get Covid testing occasionally or stay home with your own kids. I don’t mean to sound rude, but it just is what it is at this point. Our country has opened up and people are being social again. I have two close friends who followed every protocol and still got Covid. The way the numbers are rising it’s going to become inevitable soon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, you can’t control what people are doing outside of their work hours. Anyone you hire at this point is seeing family, friends, going grocery shopping, entering buildings, touching things, etc.

Either pay for her to get Covid testing occasionally or stay home with your own kids. I don’t mean to sound rude, but it just is what it is at this point. Our country has opened up and people are being social again. I have two close friends who followed every protocol and still got Covid. The way the numbers are rising it’s going to become inevitable soon.

No, everyone isn’t.

I have been to the grocery store twice since covid started. I’ve ordered groceries and supplies through Sam’s club, Amazon and our local grocery store; all packaging comes off before anything comes inside, the clothes I wore to do it get closed into a bag in the garage until I can wash them, and I shower immediately.

I have enough saved to be able to take off several months while looking for a family who is as serious as I am about quarantining when required, extreme social distancing when not. Some nannies are serious about containing covid, others aren’t. Please speak only for yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, you can’t control what people are doing outside of their work hours. Anyone you hire at this point is seeing family, friends, going grocery shopping, entering buildings, touching things, etc.

Either pay for her to get Covid testing occasionally or stay home with your own kids. I don’t mean to sound rude, but it just is what it is at this point. Our country has opened up and people are being social again. I have two close friends who followed every protocol and still got Covid. The way the numbers are rising it’s going to become inevitable soon.

Are you insane? I haven’t gone ANYWHERE except work, since mid March. I care deeply about the little ones in my care so that means making sacrifices to keep their family safe. I haven’t seen friends, gone to the grocery store, gone to the salon, the gym or seen friends. Don’t speak for all nannies because clearly you are in the selfish category of people being reckless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny is amazing. Both of our children love her, and she has been with our family since my 2.5 year old was 7 weeks old. She has continued coming to our home daily throughout the pandemic because we trust her and knew she was taking the pandemic seriously. None of us ever got sick throughout all this (we never required her to wear a mask inside our house), so I 100% believe she has been. However, as things reopen that may not be the case anymore. First, she got her nails done. I complimented them on Monday, and she awkwardly said thanks as if she knew it was not a smart decision. Then, I came across her Facebook (we are not Facebook friends; don’t judge me), and unfortunately I saw a photo from last weekend of her at what looked like an outdoor gathering. In the background I saw at least eight people, none wearing masks. She herself was also not wearing a mask in the photo. While I get she’s a single woman in her 20s and deserves human interaction especially after working throughout this entire pandemic and being indoors, I am not comfortable with her going to large gatherings. My children are very small, and we have also started seeing grandparents again who are older and higher risk.

1. How do I appropriately address this without crossing boundaries? I have no right to tell her what to do when she is not caring for my children, but now with COVID her decisions outside of work directly affect my family.

2. Should I mention the Facebook post despite not being friends? It’s a public post, but I think it may come off as if I was snooping.

Again, we love her and she’s awesome so we would really love to get this sorted out in a reasonable way without crossing boundaries. Thank you

You can’t have it both ways. If you’re expanding your bubble, you can’t tell your nanny to stay home. My boss is doing this with trips to the salon and visits with friends, while expecting me to stay home. Unlike your nanny, I don’t make my social media visible so my boss has no idea what I’m doing so she can choose to believe she controls me (she doesn’t). I cut my hair and told her I did it myself. I was totally fine staying home isolating until my bosses started having a life and going to the beach. You risk my health, I risk yours. I’m not staying home for you, if you don’t stay home for me. Maybe you shouldn’t have opened your bubble.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you know whether she did her nails herself or not?

I don't see a problem with an outdoor gathering of 8-10 people.

The nanny admitted she got her nails “done” and it wasn’t smart.

Outdoor gatherings still require face masks.

Not OP but I certainly see OP’s issues. Especially now with the virus on the rise again.

What? No they don't!

I hope you aren’t a nanny. You aren’t smart enough to have children in your care!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny is amazing. Both of our children love her, and she has been with our family since my 2.5 year old was 7 weeks old. She has continued coming to our home daily throughout the pandemic because we trust her and knew she was taking the pandemic seriously. None of us ever got sick throughout all this (we never required her to wear a mask inside our house), so I 100% believe she has been. However, as things reopen that may not be the case anymore. First, she got her nails done. I complimented them on Monday, and she awkwardly said thanks as if she knew it was not a smart decision. Then, I came across her Facebook (we are not Facebook friends; don’t judge me), and unfortunately I saw a photo from last weekend of her at what looked like an outdoor gathering. In the background I saw at least eight people, none wearing masks. She herself was also not wearing a mask in the photo. While I get she’s a single woman in her 20s and deserves human interaction especially after working throughout this entire pandemic and being indoors, I am not comfortable with her going to large gatherings. My children are very small, and we have also started seeing grandparents again who are older and higher risk.

1. How do I appropriately address this without crossing boundaries? I have no right to tell her what to do when she is not caring for my children, but now with COVID her decisions outside of work directly affect my family.

2. Should I mention the Facebook post despite not being friends? It’s a public post, but I think it may come off as if I was snooping.

Again, we love her and she’s awesome so we would really love to get this sorted out in a reasonable way without crossing boundaries. Thank you

You had me on your side until that part. If you are expanding your bubble, you can't judge her for doing the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, you can’t control what people are doing outside of their work hours. Anyone you hire at this point is seeing family, friends, going grocery shopping, entering buildings, touching things, etc.

Either pay for her to get Covid testing occasionally or stay home with your own kids. I don’t mean to sound rude, but it just is what it is at this point. Our country has opened up and people are being social again. I have two close friends who followed every protocol and still got Covid. The way the numbers are rising it’s going to become inevitable soon.

This is all the more reason to stay home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you know whether she did her nails herself or not?

I don't see a problem with an outdoor gathering of 8-10 people.

The nanny admitted she got her nails “done” and it wasn’t smart.

Outdoor gatherings still require face masks.

Not OP but I certainly see OP’s issues. Especially now with the virus on the rise again.

What? No they don't!

I hope you aren’t a nanny. You aren’t smart enough to have children in your care!

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, you can’t control what people are doing outside of their work hours. Anyone you hire at this point is seeing family, friends, going grocery shopping, entering buildings, touching things, etc.

Either pay for her to get Covid testing occasionally or stay home with your own kids. I don’t mean to sound rude, but it just is what it is at this point. Our country has opened up and people are being social again. I have two close friends who followed every protocol and still got Covid. The way the numbers are rising it’s going to become inevitable soon.

No, everyone isn’t.

I have been to the grocery store twice since covid started. I’ve ordered groceries and supplies through Sam’s club, Amazon and our local grocery store; all packaging comes off before anything comes inside, the clothes I wore to do it get closed into a bag in the garage until I can wash them, and I shower immediately.

I have enough saved to be able to take off several months while looking for a family who is as serious as I am about quarantining when required, extreme social distancing when not. Some nannies are serious about containing covid, others aren’t. Please speak only for yourself.

None of this is necessary and makes you seem out of touch with current protocol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, you can’t control what people are doing outside of their work hours. Anyone you hire at this point is seeing family, friends, going grocery shopping, entering buildings, touching things, etc.

Either pay for her to get Covid testing occasionally or stay home with your own kids. I don’t mean to sound rude, but it just is what it is at this point. Our country has opened up and people are being social again. I have two close friends who followed every protocol and still got Covid. The way the numbers are rising it’s going to become inevitable soon.

No, everyone isn’t.

I have been to the grocery store twice since covid started. I’ve ordered groceries and supplies through Sam’s club, Amazon and our local grocery store; all packaging comes off before anything comes inside, the clothes I wore to do it get closed into a bag in the garage until I can wash them, and I shower immediately.

I have enough saved to be able to take off several months while looking for a family who is as serious as I am about quarantining when required, extreme social distancing when not. Some nannies are serious about containing covid, others aren’t. Please speak only for yourself.

None of this is necessary and makes you seem out of touch with current protocol.

I have asthma, and less than 80% lung capacity. I’ll evaluate my own risk, thanks. My best friend is a double cancer survivor and is doing the same. We may be paranoid, but hopefully we’ll be alive.