Potentially sad outcome with nanny
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Anonymous
Did something happen over the weekend? Perhaps a friend/family member of hers catch the virus? I'd talk with her about if something in particular happened to trigger the extra anxiety. |
Anonymous
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You’re teaching your children to ignore medical data and ignore someone else’s reasonable fears so that they can attend fun outings. Got it.
I’m sorry, but your post really strikes me wrong. She’s worked all through the pandemic. Now, when we’re close to the end of the extra unemployment, now is when you feel parting ways might happen. Your children are old enough to FaceTime with friends. They’re old enough to understand why staying home with a nanny is safer than going to camp. They’re old enough to understand that the pool will be open next summer. And they’re old enough to understand that you work with someone who helped you when you needed it. |
Anonymous
| Totally agree with pp YOU are the unreasonable one . Do you watch the news ? Just because things are opening for economic reasons doesn’t mean you need to send your kids to activities that puts their health and safety at risk . And yes it DOES put your nanny at risk . So she is right here . She should maybe move on to a smarter MB. |
Anonymous
If your nanny ends up needing a new job, send her my way! Got a teeny baby and are in search of someone as obsessive about social distancing as we are. 
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Anonymous
| I’m a nanny in LA and my boss is selfish like you. Just because you can go out and about doesn’t mean you should. Things opened because of the economy and because parents don’t want to deal with their own kids, not because it’s safe. I’m a former teacher so I have my pick of the jobs right now. My boss has no idea that I’m interviewing and will be in a tough spot once I leave. She can’t deal with or homeschool 4 kids. Maybe she should have listened when I politely told her I wasn’t comfortable with how she was expanding my bubble. |
Anonymous
| Where are you located? If you’re in Wyoming then your nanny needs to relax. If you’re in LA or Austin or Miami etc then you are a moron, op. |
Anonymous
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The nanny can quit if she’s uncomfortable in the job. OP can decide whether to replace her or not, or to try to accommodate the nanny’s concerns.
No one has to be awful, or selfish, or wrong for this to turn out to be a bad fit in these crazy times. |
Anonymous
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Her anxiety is warranted. Her anxiety may have increased recently due to the major spikes happening all across the country. Two different doctors have told me they are still projecting spikes in fall, in both DC and MD. I would not be comfortable working with someone who is sending kids to camp and going out that frequently. I'd be fine with socially distanced activities outdoors, but kids won't socially distance.
Ultimately, it sounds like you and her have different comfort levels about reopening. There are many families looking for someone to socially distance with there family, who want someone who is being very cautious. I would let her her know you understand if she would prefer to put feelers out and see if she can find such a family. In the meantime, I would stay in touch with her because there is a very real possibility that a spike in the fall could result in additional closures/restrictions or changes in your comfort level about going out. No one knows what is going to happen so keep the door open. |
Anonymous
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I was feeling better a few weeks ago. Things looked better. Numbers were down. I felt like we could start doing thing s again. But then cases started spiking across the country. Some cities are reporting almost capacity for ICU beds and more stories like rise in number of daycare kids in Texas getting it or Clemson team gets it. Now it makes me want to isolate again. I am thinking I might pull younger from daycare. She had not been since March but I thought about going back. Not anymore.
The timing of her anxiety seems reasonable given the news |
Anonymous
Good for you. Some people have to learn the hard way. |
Anonymous
| It’s only “potentially sad” if you let it be sad. If you treat her as a human being and ensure her work environment stays safe and secure (which every employee has the right to expect) it will be fine. If you insist that your pleasure is more important than treating her well, then yes it will be sad and it will make you an asshole. It won’t really impact you negatively since you don’t need a nanny anymore, but it doesn’t make you any less of an asshole. |
Anonymous
| ^ To add: if you don’t require a nanny anymore, then just tell her that and give her 1-month notice during which time you continue to limit exposure. Don’t do this wishy-washy crap to make her quit. Are you trying to avoid an unemployment claim? |
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| Please send her my way if you decide to part ways. 201-952-8613 Thanks! |
Anonymous
| As a nanny who was doing everything right to stay healthy and am in bed with Covid now I say you need to respect other people when they are scared of getting Covid. I would prefer you respect others who want to be hygienic. You will be much more inconvenienced if she gets Covid. Im telling you I'm in bed writing this and it is no joke. |
Anonymous
| And you are the employer who needs to provide a safe work environment. You are acting privileged because you personally have not had this yet. You should provide a safe work place and you are not doing that |