Nanny wanting to bring her child

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you have the financial means to afford it OP, I would select a Nanny who does not need to bring along another child to work everyday.

Reason being is that your child will not receive 100% attention from their caregiver.
Also consider all the extra wear + tear on your home as well as the extra germs that will exist.

In times of a pandemic, this is a very serious thing to consider as your entire family could be affected.

An nanny who brings her young child is likely to have less exposure than a nanny with kids/teens who don’t come with her. And since most nannies won’t tell you if they have kids unless they want to bring them...

I can easily understand wanting to have an option to bring a teen along, especially during a pandemic.
1. Mom does play with kids, but it’s actually work. So yes, mom is tired after a long day and doesn’t want to deal with a snotty teen. Allowing the teen to see her work, even for a short while, ca also be beneficial to their own nurturing and work ethic.
2. Many states have rules about old kids can be to stay home for certain lengths of time. 13-15 is frequently a few hours, not all day everyday.
3. Keeping a teen with their parent during the pandemic keeps them from making immature choices that expose themself, their family and their parent’s employer to more danger.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm the nanny. I was with my nanny family full time for 3 years before I got pregnant. When I had my daughter, I took 6 weeks off and came back with my daughter in tow for 2 more years til the kids went to school full time. I kept a pack n play, diapers, wipes, and some toys in their guest room during the week. On Fridays I would fold up the pnp and tuck everything under the guest bed. Once my daughter was a toddler I brought her food from home (and I always brought my own).

I would say the pros for them were flexibility on my end. I didn't have to pick my daughter up from daycare so I could stay late when needed. We redid the contract and agreed if nanny kids were sick I'd still care for them. If my daughter was sick, she was still welcome to come or my husband would take the day off or my MIL would watch my daughter.

FWIW I never took a single day off work during my entire pregnancy and time I brought my daughter. My daughters needs always came last while at work. I always went above and beyond and was insanely loyal to them.

I wonder what that does to a toddler's psyche - to know they're less important to their mother during the bulk of their waking hours than the children she is paid to take care of.

Her psyche is just fine thanks for your concern. I meant it in a sense of if we were out and about, I nursed my daughter in the Tula. Her nap times were scheduled around nanny kids activities, etc. It was an absolute joy caring for my beloved nannykids while having the blessing of my daughter with me all day. It was a time in my life I will always treasure and to this day my daighter always asks to see "her girls".

[Anonymous]

Honestly, if you haven't been in this type of arrangement then you shouldn't comment— this whole 'nanny will favor her kid' is so untrue. It's actually the opposite. We don't want anything to jeopardize our job and it's viewed as a privilege that can be taken away at any given moment. I am a mother and a nanny who brings her own child to work. While I am experienced enough to care and interact with multiple children, simultaneously, if it's ever a time where I cannot, my charge will be taken care of first-- that's just how it is, and for many nannies.

Op, in my arrangement, the family already had an extra pack-n-play and I contributed to a double stroller. All things child related I cover for my own child and I bring his food, diapers, clothes, etc., and I have a bin at their home— they also arranged a drawer for him. It works for everyone; I get to bring my child and both kids have a playmate. You can always offer a trial period as well but not sure how you feel doing so with COVID-19.

* to the pp who stated toddlers don't play together, clearly you aren't a caregiver and I question if you're even a mom and just someone trying to stir the pot. Toddlers will interact with others, they will also play alongside each other or chose to venture off and do their own thing and that's with any age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be concerned about the teenager because they really don’t need parenting during the day so this tells me that the teen just needs supervision which would make me wonder: why?

For the toddler, there are all the cons you think of: your kid has to share, you have to have a place to sleep, maybe a double stroller, more wear and tear, your kid’s nap schedule may have to adjust to accommodate everyone napping and getting outings each day, etc. But the big pro is that nannies who find a position like this are incredibly loyal. So if you really want someone to stick with you until your kids go off to school often a nanny who brings her child will be that person. And you can sometimes pay less but some nannies seem to expect their normal rate too.

I was that nanny. Because I was able to bring my child with me to work I went above and beyond for my family. During nap time I would clean and make dinner everyday. I made sure that my charge had the best care. I was on top of everything. I can only speak for myself but a nanny being able to bring her child is a nanny you'll have for life.

[Anonymous]

I would definitely say no . I agree with previous posters - no way your child would get the attention they deserve . Also during covid times who wants the extra exposure ? Find someone else

[Anonymous]

I would expect to pay 1/2 if your child was coming with you and taking up 1/2 or more of the attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would definitely say no . I agree with previous posters - no way your child would get the attention they deserve . Also during covid times who wants the extra exposure ? Find someone else

How is it extra exposure if the nanny's child is only at MB's home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would expect to pay 1/2 if your child was coming with you and taking up 1/2 or more of the attention.

It's not a nanny share; nanny can't make her own schedule, take off whenever, etc. if that's the case then I expect the nanny to only care and interact with the child; no cooking, no washing child's dishes, no laundry etc.

[Anonymous]

Is this only due to covid and daycare centers are closed? Therefore a temporary situation?

I would not trust someone -- lack of responsibility -- who decides to have a baby but has no plans for daycare if she (mom) plans to work full-time.

I am a teacher. Should I decide to have a baby with no daycare plan and just bring my kid to school all day? Or what if I am a retail worker at Macy's and do the same?? A Fed Ex driver? Keep the baby in the truck?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would expect to pay 1/2 if your child was coming with you and taking up 1/2 or more of the attention.

It's not a nanny share; nanny can't make her own schedule, take off whenever, etc. if that's the case then I expect the nanny to only care and interact with the child; no cooking, no washing child's dishes, no laundry etc.

It is basically a nanny share. " Professionals" don't bring their kids to work. Someone who does shouldn't expect the family to pay the same rate as attention is shared. If your nanny is taking 20 minutes to breastfeed each time, possibly 3 times a day that is an hour devoted to the one child. I would expect a nanny to keep the common areas she uses clean, cook for the child, clean up after the child and do the child's laundry and maintain their bedroom.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would expect to pay 1/2 if your child was coming with you and taking up 1/2 or more of the attention.

It's not a nanny share; nanny can't make her own schedule, take off whenever, etc. if that's the case then I expect the nanny to only care and interact with the child; no cooking, no washing child's dishes, no laundry etc.

It is basically a nanny share. " Professionals" don't bring their kids to work. Someone who does shouldn't expect the family to pay the same rate as attention is shared. If your nanny is taking 20 minutes to breastfeed each time, possibly 3 times a day that is an hour devoted to the one child. I would expect a nanny to keep the common areas she uses clean, cook for the child, clean up after the child and do the child's laundry and maintain their bedroom.

You know, it's actually better for children if their caregiver (be it parent or nanny) isn't on top of them at all times. Parents today have the odd notion that their children should be constantly entertained. A little boredom is good, it allows them to think their own thoughts and experiment with stuff on their own. They don't always need a song and dance from the adults.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would expect to pay 1/2 if your child was coming with you and taking up 1/2 or more of the attention.

It's not a nanny share; nanny can't make her own schedule, take off whenever, etc. if that's the case then I expect the nanny to only care and interact with the child; no cooking, no washing child's dishes, no laundry etc.

It is basically a nanny share. " Professionals" don't bring their kids to work. Someone who does shouldn't expect the family to pay the same rate as attention is shared. If your nanny is taking 20 minutes to breastfeed each time, possibly 3 times a day that is an hour devoted to the one child. I would expect a nanny to keep the common areas she uses clean, cook for the child, clean up after the child and do the child's laundry and maintain their bedroom.

You know, it's actually better for children if their caregiver (be it parent or nanny) isn't on top of them at all times. Parents today have the odd notion that their children should be constantly entertained. A little boredom is good, it allows them to think their own thoughts and experiment with stuff on their own. They don't always need a song and dance from the adults.

I'm sure the child gets plenty of boredom when he's with his parents. The parents don't need to pay top dollar for their kid to be bored.

[Anonymous]

There should be a significantly reduced rate then, because it's effectively a nanny share. I wouldn't be open to paying even close to the same rate.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would expect to pay 1/2 if your child was coming with you and taking up 1/2 or more of the attention.

It's not a nanny share; nanny can't make her own schedule, take off whenever, etc. if that's the case then I expect the nanny to only care and interact with the child; no cooking, no washing child's dishes, no laundry etc.

It is basically a nanny share. " Professionals" don't bring their kids to work. Someone who does shouldn't expect the family to pay the same rate as attention is shared. If your nanny is taking 20 minutes to breastfeed each time, possibly 3 times a day that is an hour devoted to the one child. I would expect a nanny to keep the common areas she uses clean, cook for the child, clean up after the child and do the child's laundry and maintain their bedroom.

You know, it's actually better for children if their caregiver (be it parent or nanny) isn't on top of them at all times. Parents today have the odd notion that their children should be constantly entertained. A little boredom is good, it allows them to think their own thoughts and experiment with stuff on their own. They don't always need a song and dance from the adults.

The caregiver job is to give the attention to them as that is what they are paid to do. If a nanny is breastfeeding in your home an hour a day, that is not attending to your child and just a warm body.

[Anonymous]

I had a few candidates ask this and felt that at the rate we were paying, I wanted all the focus to be on my own children. Regardless of how professional the nanny was...it was still an extra child. I would keep searching, OP. I would feel differently if our existing nanny were to get pregnant and want to bring her child. My kids are approaching school age and they have a very strong existing bond after being with us for several years. I wouldn't hire a new nanny needing to bring her child.