New job offer

[Anonymous]

I never said she "keeps asking." Before she started, she presented me with information about story time at the local library and said she'd be happy to take the baby. She also said to let her know if I need grocery shopping done. I declined both offers, and she hasn't asked again. I do think in the future, as we get to know her more, and cold and flu season is behind us, we'd love for her to take our baby out sometimes. Just not yet.

A lot of parents decide on nannies over day care, in part, because children tend to be healthier because they are not out and about with other children as much. It's not delusional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never said she "keeps asking." Before she started, she presented me with information about story time at the local library and said she'd be happy to take the baby. She also said to let her know if I need grocery shopping done. I declined both offers, and she hasn't asked again. I do think in the future, as we get to know her more, and cold and flu season is behind us, we'd love for her to take our baby out sometimes. Just not yet.

A lot of parents decide on nannies over day care, in part, because children tend to be healthier because they are not out and about with other children as much. It's not delusional.

No, it’s delusional and thoughts of a first time mom. Good luck believing you are shielding your child from germs and colds. Also, you are going to love what happens when your child gets introduced to the world and other kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB here. Hmm. I have a nine month old and the nanny we hired, who is fabulous, volunteered to take her to library story time and to do some grocery shopping for us. I said I would prefer she keeps the baby home. One of the primary reasons we decided to hire a nanny instead of using day care is to try and keep our baby away from germs during the winter months. We're okay with going for walks to the park (and she's been doing that, but I doubt for much longer as we have very brutal winters where we are), but not with the nanny driving our baby anywhere. Just because I feel like our baby is safest at home, and I trust that our nanny will find ways to have fun with her there.

I don't feel your job offer is unreasonable.

PP, you are doing your baby a huge disservice. He should be out and about seeing other babies, doggies, fire trucks, etc. Library story times are amazing is teaching shared focus and love of books. After the baby’s six month vaccines, it’s good to take her out.


Your child will be behind those her age if you keep this up.

[Anonymous]

Me again. Not a first time mom. First time using a nanny though, for my third baby. And she is a lot less sick than my first two were. By this age I'd already made a couple of late night ER runs with a scary sounding croup cough with my first two kids; both of them got ear tubes for recurring ear infections by age one. New baby hasn't had an ear infection yet! I'm relieved to keep our baby healthy while she is so little. I never really bought into that "They'll get sick now or get sick later" thing that people say when they're trying to make you feel better about using day care. I used day care for both my first two children and they got sick a ton, and then got just as sick as everyone else once they began elementary school. Day care was overall a positive experience, but having a nanny now has reduced my stress level immensely as I balance working full time and being a mom of three.

Anyway, not trying to be nasty or unreasonable. OP asked for thoughts, and my thoughts are that the request of the family making the job offer is reasonable. Reading all these comments makes me feel thankful for the lovely nanny we have; that she takes such great care of our baby and doesn't seem to resent to being able to drive her around and take her places.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here. Hmm. I have a nine month old and the nanny we hired, who is fabulous, volunteered to take her to library story time and to do some grocery shopping for us. I said I would prefer she keeps the baby home. One of the primary reasons we decided to hire a nanny instead of using day care is to try and keep our baby away from germs during the winter months. We're okay with going for walks to the park (and she's been doing that, but I doubt for much longer as we have very brutal winters where we are), but not with the nanny driving our baby anywhere. Just because I feel like our baby is safest at home, and I trust that our nanny will find ways to have fun with her there.

I don't feel your job offer is unreasonable.

PP, you are doing your baby a huge disservice. He should be out and about seeing other babies, doggies, fire trucks, etc. Library story times are amazing is teaching shared focus and love of books. After the baby’s six month vaccines, it’s good to take her out.


Your child will be behind those her age if you keep this up.

I really don't agree. She has two older siblings who adore her and engage her - and yes, I'm aware they can get her sick, and indeed they have. I'm not trying to have her live in a bubble. She gets taken along to their weekend and evening activities...to soccer games, dance rehearsals, even school events. We've got two dogs so she gets to "see doggies." She's read to every day.

I decided to hire a nanny for three main reasons: keep baby healthy, get her one on one attention, and lower my stress level. The day care grind with the packing up, transporting, and dealing with illness, is really tough. I expect our nanny to engage our baby in various ways and she somehow, miraculously apparently, is able to do this within the walls of my house (and out and about in the stroller and at our neighborhood playground when weather permits). I just can't believe it's so highly unusual for a parent to prefer a caregiver not transport a child in a car if it's not necessary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Me again. Not a first time mom. First time using a nanny though, for my third baby. And she is a lot less sick than my first two were. By this age I'd already made a couple of late night ER runs with a scary sounding croup cough with my first two kids; both of them got ear tubes for recurring ear infections by age one. New baby hasn't had an ear infection yet! I'm relieved to keep our baby healthy while she is so little. I never really bought into that "They'll get sick now or get sick later" thing that people say when they're trying to make you feel better about using day care. I used day care for both my first two children and they got sick a ton, and then got just as sick as everyone else once they began elementary school. Day care was overall a positive experience, but having a nanny now has reduced my stress level immensely as I balance working full time and being a mom of three.

Anyway, not trying to be nasty or unreasonable. OP asked for thoughts, and my thoughts are that the request of the family making the job offer is reasonable. Reading all these comments makes me feel thankful for the lovely nanny we have; that she takes such great care of our baby and doesn't seem to resent to being able to drive her around and take her places.

Reading your comments makes me thankful for the normal families I have worked with. You sound like a micromanager with difficult demands. No thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here. Hmm. I have a nine month old and the nanny we hired, who is fabulous, volunteered to take her to library story time and to do some grocery shopping for us. I said I would prefer she keeps the baby home. One of the primary reasons we decided to hire a nanny instead of using day care is to try and keep our baby away from germs during the winter months. We're okay with going for walks to the park (and she's been doing that, but I doubt for much longer as we have very brutal winters where we are), but not with the nanny driving our baby anywhere. Just because I feel like our baby is safest at home, and I trust that our nanny will find ways to have fun with her there.

I don't feel your job offer is unreasonable.

PP, you are doing your baby a huge disservice. He should be out and about seeing other babies, doggies, fire trucks, etc. Library story times are amazing is teaching shared focus and love of books. After the baby’s six month vaccines, it’s good to take her out.


Your child will be behind those her age if you keep this up.

I really don't agree. She has two older siblings who adore her and engage her - and yes, I'm aware they can get her sick, and indeed they have. I'm not trying to have her live in a bubble. She gets taken along to their weekend and evening activities...to soccer games, dance rehearsals, even school events. We've got two dogs so she gets to "see doggies." She's read to every day.

I decided to hire a nanny for three main reasons: keep baby healthy, get her one on one attention, and lower my stress level. The day care grind with the packing up, transporting, and dealing with illness, is really tough. I expect our nanny to engage our baby in various ways and she somehow, miraculously apparently, is able to do this within the walls of my house (and out and about in the stroller and at our neighborhood playground when weather permits). I just can't believe it's so highly unusual for a parent to prefer a caregiver not transport a child in a car if it's not necessary.

It’s usual for suburban parents. City parents are different and my personal preference. They want their children exposed to the outside world and everything the city has to offer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here. Hmm. I have a nine month old and the nanny we hired, who is fabulous, volunteered to take her to library story time and to do some grocery shopping for us. I said I would prefer she keeps the baby home. One of the primary reasons we decided to hire a nanny instead of using day care is to try and keep our baby away from germs during the winter months. We're okay with going for walks to the park (and she's been doing that, but I doubt for much longer as we have very brutal winters where we are), but not with the nanny driving our baby anywhere. Just because I feel like our baby is safest at home, and I trust that our nanny will find ways to have fun with her there.

I don't feel your job offer is unreasonable.

PP, you are doing your baby a huge disservice. He should be out and about seeing other babies, doggies, fire trucks, etc. Library story times are amazing is teaching shared focus and love of books. After the baby’s six month vaccines, it’s good to take her out.


Your child will be behind those her age if you keep this up.

I really don't agree. She has two older siblings who adore her and engage her - and yes, I'm aware they can get her sick, and indeed they have. I'm not trying to have her live in a bubble. She gets taken along to their weekend and evening activities...to soccer games, dance rehearsals, even school events. We've got two dogs so she gets to "see doggies." She's read to every day.

I decided to hire a nanny for three main reasons: keep baby healthy, get her one on one attention, and lower my stress level. The day care grind with the packing up, transporting, and dealing with illness, is really tough. I expect our nanny to engage our baby in various ways and she somehow, miraculously apparently, is able to do this within the walls of my house (and out and about in the stroller and at our neighborhood playground when weather permits). I just can't believe it's so highly unusual for a parent to prefer a caregiver not transport a child in a car if it's not necessary.

I have to agree with the others, PP, in that you aren’t giving your baby the best start. She should see babies her own age. You are being paranoid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here. Hmm. I have a nine month old and the nanny we hired, who is fabulous, volunteered to take her to library story time and to do some grocery shopping for us. I said I would prefer she keeps the baby home. One of the primary reasons we decided to hire a nanny instead of using day care is to try and keep our baby away from germs during the winter months. We're okay with going for walks to the park (and she's been doing that, but I doubt for much longer as we have very brutal winters where we are), but not with the nanny driving our baby anywhere. Just because I feel like our baby is safest at home, and I trust that our nanny will find ways to have fun with her there.

I don't feel your job offer is unreasonable.

PP, you are doing your baby a huge disservice. He should be out and about seeing other babies, doggies, fire trucks, etc. Library story times are amazing is teaching shared focus and love of books. After the baby’s six month vaccines, it’s good to take her out.


Your child will be behind those her age if you keep this up.

BAHAHAHA, you are literally just making stuff up to scare OP. Babies don't need to see other babies! Where's your arbitrary 6 month rule from?

The nannies here are just ridiculous. If this was actually a reflection of nannies in the real world, no one would every hire one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here. Hmm. I have a nine month old and the nanny we hired, who is fabulous, volunteered to take her to library story time and to do some grocery shopping for us. I said I would prefer she keeps the baby home. One of the primary reasons we decided to hire a nanny instead of using day care is to try and keep our baby away from germs during the winter months. We're okay with going for walks to the park (and she's been doing that, but I doubt for much longer as we have very brutal winters where we are), but not with the nanny driving our baby anywhere. Just because I feel like our baby is safest at home, and I trust that our nanny will find ways to have fun with her there.

I don't feel your job offer is unreasonable.

You are unreasonable and delusional, hence why you side with the OP family. Unless you work in the house and never interact with the public guess what, you are bringing home germs and introducing them to your baby.

What a peach you are PP.
She didn't say the baby couldn't "interact with the public" just that she prefer the baby not be driven around. Why is this such an affront to you all? I was with a family for a full year before I was allowed to drive the kids. And guess what? We survived inside during the winter, they even thrived! And when it was nice out, we walked. It requires a little bit of creativity and actually engaging with kids, but (contrary to DCUM nanny opinion) it's not a requirement for healthy development to be take to story time at the library.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here. Hmm. I have a nine month old and the nanny we hired, who is fabulous, volunteered to take her to library story time and to do some grocery shopping for us. I said I would prefer she keeps the baby home. One of the primary reasons we decided to hire a nanny instead of using day care is to try and keep our baby away from germs during the winter months. We're okay with going for walks to the park (and she's been doing that, but I doubt for much longer as we have very brutal winters where we are), but not with the nanny driving our baby anywhere. Just because I feel like our baby is safest at home, and I trust that our nanny will find ways to have fun with her there.

I don't feel your job offer is unreasonable.

You are unreasonable and delusional, hence why you side with the OP family. Unless you work in the house and never interact with the public guess what, you are bringing home germs and introducing them to your baby.

What a peach you are PP.
She didn't say the baby couldn't "interact with the public" just that she prefer the baby not be driven around. Why is this such an affront to you all? I was with a family for a full year before I was allowed to drive the kids. And guess what? We survived inside during the winter, they even thrived! And when it was nice out, we walked. It requires a little bit of creativity and actually engaging with kids, but (contrary to DCUM nanny opinion) it's not a requirement for healthy development to be take to story time at the library.

If only you could read and comprehend what you read. If you want to stay in the house more power to you. Someone needs to take the jobs with the peculiar families and you sound perfect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here. Hmm. I have a nine month old and the nanny we hired, who is fabulous, volunteered to take her to library story time and to do some grocery shopping for us. I said I would prefer she keeps the baby home. One of the primary reasons we decided to hire a nanny instead of using day care is to try and keep our baby away from germs during the winter months. We're okay with going for walks to the park (and she's been doing that, but I doubt for much longer as we have very brutal winters where we are), but not with the nanny driving our baby anywhere. Just because I feel like our baby is safest at home, and I trust that our nanny will find ways to have fun with her there.

I don't feel your job offer is unreasonable.

PP, you are doing your baby a huge disservice. He should be out and about seeing other babies, doggies, fire trucks, etc. Library story times are amazing is teaching shared focus and love of books. After the baby’s six month vaccines, it’s good to take her out.


Your child will be behind those her age if you keep this up.

BAHAHAHA, you are literally just making stuff up to scare OP. Babies don't need to see other babies! Where's your arbitrary 6 month rule from?

The nannies here are just ridiculous. If this was actually a reflection of nannies in the real world, no one would every hire one.

You clearly know nothing about babies and actual childcare. If you are a reflection of an actual nanny I know exactly the jobs you take.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here. Hmm. I have a nine month old and the nanny we hired, who is fabulous, volunteered to take her to library story time and to do some grocery shopping for us. I said I would prefer she keeps the baby home. One of the primary reasons we decided to hire a nanny instead of using day care is to try and keep our baby away from germs during the winter months. We're okay with going for walks to the park (and she's been doing that, but I doubt for much longer as we have very brutal winters where we are), but not with the nanny driving our baby anywhere. Just because I feel like our baby is safest at home, and I trust that our nanny will find ways to have fun with her there.

I don't feel your job offer is unreasonable.

PP, you are doing your baby a huge disservice. He should be out and about seeing other babies, doggies, fire trucks, etc. Library story times are amazing is teaching shared focus and love of books. After the baby’s six month vaccines, it’s good to take her out.


Your child will be behind those her age if you keep this up.

BAHAHAHA, you are literally just making stuff up to scare OP. Babies don't need to see other babies! Where's your arbitrary 6 month rule from?

The nannies here are just ridiculous. If this was actually a reflection of nannies in the real world, no one would every hire one.

I am a mother who employs a nanny and I stand by my assessment.

Why would you assume the comments are made by nannies?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here. Hmm. I have a nine month old and the nanny we hired, who is fabulous, volunteered to take her to library story time and to do some grocery shopping for us. I said I would prefer she keeps the baby home. One of the primary reasons we decided to hire a nanny instead of using day care is to try and keep our baby away from germs during the winter months. We're okay with going for walks to the park (and she's been doing that, but I doubt for much longer as we have very brutal winters where we are), but not with the nanny driving our baby anywhere. Just because I feel like our baby is safest at home, and I trust that our nanny will find ways to have fun with her there.

I don't feel your job offer is unreasonable.

You are unreasonable and delusional, hence why you side with the OP family. Unless you work in the house and never interact with the public guess what, you are bringing home germs and introducing them to your baby.

What a peach you are PP.
She didn't say the baby couldn't "interact with the public" just that she prefer the baby not be driven around. Why is this such an affront to you all? I was with a family for a full year before I was allowed to drive the kids. And guess what? We survived inside during the winter, they even thrived! And when it was nice out, we walked. It requires a little bit of creativity and actually engaging with kids, but (contrary to DCUM nanny opinion) it's not a requirement for healthy development to be take to story time at the library.

Could you please explain how the baby will interact with the public when she is going to see all time just three persons.
Parents and nanny. How the baby will be social?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:11:25 here. I hear you. But you asked for thoughts so I gave mine to you. Sounds like you only want thoughts that agree with yours hence your SHOUTING. Maybe they need more time to trust you before they allow you to drive their child around. Our nanny has been with us for 6 weeks now. We think she's great. We still said no to driving our kids. It's true; we don't trust her to do that right now and it isn't necessary. Over time, we may. Our priority is our child's safety and health, not the entertainment of our nanny. We don't worry a lot about whether she is bored. We do care about her happiness, and that's why we treat and pay her well. But yeah, sounds like this is a job offer you should decline since you feel so strongly about not staying at home with your charge.

Op here ,
I appreciate your response and I am very thankful for my luck that I never worked with someone like you in my last ten years career.
Btw , I respect my employer and I wanted to drive their child once they will trust me. I used to drive my last charge after I was working with family for three months .
The mom was keep saying they don’t want nanny to drive . At one point she start lie that the 15 month vomit in the car .
Anyway I appreciate all positive and negative feedback
I didn’t accept the position.