Overweight Au Pair - Pros and Cons

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We had a very large AP but rematched for other reasons. We thought she was probably a bit chubby but when she arrived she looked about 50 lbs heavier than we thought. So, know that she might appear 200 lbs but really be much higher than that.

Our large AP had some unusual but not horrible habits. She would take out slices of bread, crush them into a ball, and eat them from her hands like little dumplings. 4-5 at a time before meals. About a loaf per day. She also frequently lectured us about nutrition (we are fit and relatively healthy eaters, so I wasn't sure how to react or what to say in response to the lecture).

If I went down this path again I would ask a lot more about attitudes toward food, snacking, other people eating, etc.

This made me chuckle.

[Anonymous]

Our super fit gym every night AP last year could barely keep up with my three yr old and would always complain about how tired she was. She ate healthy, but also had bad habits regarding the way she looked down on others. All this to say that it’s important to look at the bigger picture.

[Anonymous]

I will say that our overweight AP is not particularly active with our daughter, but goes to the gym every day. I think it's not possible to extrapolate any one experience to another though. It's going to be case by case. I think you need to be totally honest with her that your kids are active and you expect your AP to be active and ask her to think about whether thats really what she's looking for.

[Anonymous]

Agree with previous posters about asking her about her activities and what foods she likes to make. We had a similar question when interviewing a larger AP and when we asked she said she liked reading, baking, and watching movies. When we asked her about what outdoor activities she enjoyed. She said she liked going for walks. Basically we got a low energy vibe from her so we passed. This time around we talked to a bigger Au Pair who you could tell was full of energy, played soccer, swam, went skiing, pictures of her on hikes and bike rides. We didn't match for other reasons, but I wasn't worried about her being able to keep up with my kids due to her weight.

[Anonymous]

I’m a nanny who is 5’7 and 220 pounds. I wear an Apple Watch and walk at least 10,000 steps a day. On weekends I walk 15-25k steps. My problem isn’t exercise, I’m very active. My problem is a binge eating disorder and I like to eat in secret.

I used to be anorexic and bulimic. Back then I was 120 pounds but had no energy because I was always starving myself or throwing up or needed to be by the toilet for al the laxatives

You can never tell with thin. Overweight it’s easy to place a label and say they’re lazy.

[Anonymous]

Not all weight problems are caused by overeating.

[Anonymous]

It would definitely be a negative to me for the OP to be so overweight, especially at such a young age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not all weight problems are caused by overeating.

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Mine are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have been interviewing several au pair candidates for weeks, and we have narrowed it down to two au pairs who want to match. The one we like the best, however, is overweight, and I am wondering if anyone has had experience having an au pair who is oveweight? She weighs slightly over 200 pounds and is 5'4". She has worked as a camp counselor, and has a great personality, but our two boys are very active and energetic (ages 7 and 11) and strong willed, and I wonder whether she could keep up with them. She seems up for the challenge. I have had several experienced AP host moms say not to match with an overweight au pair beacuse they have less energy, don't model healthy eating habits, etc. Wondering if that is the case? the other au pair is normal weight, but doesn't seem to have as much charisma.

Anonymous wrote:We have been interviewing several au pair candidates for weeks, and we have narrowed it down to two au pairs who want to match. The one we like the best, however, is overweight, and I am wondering if anyone has had experience having an au pair who is oveweight? She weighs slightly over 200 pounds and is 5'4". She has worked as a camp counselor, and has a great personality, but our two boys are very active and energetic (ages 7 and 11) and strong willed, and I wonder whether she could keep up with them. She seems up for the challenge. I have had several experienced AP host moms say not to match with an overweight au pair beacuse they have less energy, don't model healthy eating habits, etc. Wondering if that is the case? the other au pair is normal weight, but doesn't seem to have as much charisma.

Nanny here.

I’m 5’4”, 250ish pounds. I’m physically capable of chasing kids (2-teen) around the park as tickle monster when they don’t want to move and get their energy out in appropriate ways. I’m also strong enough (and padded enough!) to wade into a pile of boys whose roughhousing turned into hurting each other, then I’m capable of carrying a child of up to 100 pounds up two flights of stairs while they struggle.

I model healthier food choices than their very slim parents. I also model fitness by going and working out with a physical trainer multiple times per week.

If your AP makes healthy choices, weight should not matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have been interviewing several au pair candidates for weeks, and we have narrowed it down to two au pairs who want to match. The one we like the best, however, is overweight, and I am wondering if anyone has had experience having an au pair who is oveweight? She weighs slightly over 200 pounds and is 5'4". She has worked as a camp counselor, and has a great personality, but our two boys are very active and energetic (ages 7 and 11) and strong willed, and I wonder whether she could keep up with them. She seems up for the challenge. I have had several experienced AP host moms say not to match with an overweight au pair beacuse they have less energy, don't model healthy eating habits, etc. Wondering if that is the case? the other au pair is normal weight, but doesn't seem to have as much charisma.

Anonymous wrote:We have been interviewing several au pair candidates for weeks, and we have narrowed it down to two au pairs who want to match. The one we like the best, however, is overweight, and I am wondering if anyone has had experience having an au pair who is oveweight? She weighs slightly over 200 pounds and is 5'4". She has worked as a camp counselor, and has a great personality, but our two boys are very active and energetic (ages 7 and 11) and strong willed, and I wonder whether she could keep up with them. She seems up for the challenge. I have had several experienced AP host moms say not to match with an overweight au pair beacuse they have less energy, don't model healthy eating habits, etc. Wondering if that is the case? the other au pair is normal weight, but doesn't seem to have as much charisma.

Nanny here.

I’m 5’4”, 250ish pounds. I’m physically capable of chasing kids (2-teen) around the park as tickle monster when they don’t want to move and get their energy out in appropriate ways. I’m also strong enough (and padded enough!) to wade into a pile of boys whose roughhousing turned into hurting each other, then I’m capable of carrying a child of up to 100 pounds up two flights of stairs while they struggle.

I model healthier food choices than their very slim parents. I also model fitness by going and working out with a physical trainer multiple times per week.

If your AP makes healthy choices, weight should not matter.

Total BS. If you are 250 lbs at 5'4" there is no way you eat as health as you claim and are as active as you claim. Per BMI (not perfect I know) you are morbidly obese.

[Anonymous]

I am fat OP and used to be a Nanny. I may not want to physically run around with your kids but I loved swimming and bike riding, and would also happily take your kids to a playground where I can sit while they run around. If you like her for other qualities I think you should get her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have been interviewing several au pair candidates for weeks, and we have narrowed it down to two au pairs who want to match. The one we like the best, however, is overweight, and I am wondering if anyone has had experience having an au pair who is oveweight? She weighs slightly over 200 pounds and is 5'4". She has worked as a camp counselor, and has a great personality, but our two boys are very active and energetic (ages 7 and 11) and strong willed, and I wonder whether she could keep up with them. She seems up for the challenge. I have had several experienced AP host moms say not to match with an overweight au pair beacuse they have less energy, don't model healthy eating habits, etc. Wondering if that is the case? the other au pair is normal weight, but doesn't seem to have as much charisma.

Anonymous wrote:We have been interviewing several au pair candidates for weeks, and we have narrowed it down to two au pairs who want to match. The one we like the best, however, is overweight, and I am wondering if anyone has had experience having an au pair who is oveweight? She weighs slightly over 200 pounds and is 5'4". She has worked as a camp counselor, and has a great personality, but our two boys are very active and energetic (ages 7 and 11) and strong willed, and I wonder whether she could keep up with them. She seems up for the challenge. I have had several experienced AP host moms say not to match with an overweight au pair beacuse they have less energy, don't model healthy eating habits, etc. Wondering if that is the case? the other au pair is normal weight, but doesn't seem to have as much charisma.

Nanny here.

I’m 5’4”, 250ish pounds. I’m physically capable of chasing kids (2-teen) around the park as tickle monster when they don’t want to move and get their energy out in appropriate ways. I’m also strong enough (and padded enough!) to wade into a pile of boys whose roughhousing turned into hurting each other, then I’m capable of carrying a child of up to 100 pounds up two flights of stairs while they struggle.

I model healthier food choices than their very slim parents. I also model fitness by going and working out with a physical trainer multiple times per week.

If your AP makes healthy choices, weight should not matter.

Total BS. If you are 250 lbs at 5'4" there is no way you eat as health as you claim and are as active as you claim. Per BMI (not perfect I know) you are morbidly obese.

Who are you to say this?! Ppl think they know what a certain weight looks like and what someone is capable of. Newsflash...they don’t and you don’t! If this nanny is claiming she can do all of these activities then you don’t get to sit behind a screen and tell her she can’t. You have no idea what she actually looks like and how her weight is distributed. Maybe you can’t do these things and you’re pissed bc someone else can but that’s on you.

[Anonymous]

We had one au pair who was overweight who was SUPER slow. She totally could not keep up with the kids. Luckily my children were not the type to run out in the road, because she definitely could not stop them. She tried to go on a walk with all of us one time and just could not keep up (with the 3 year old). We did rematch after a few months for several reasons.

We had one au pair who was overweight who was super active and ran around with the kids all day and they could not keep up with her.

So - it really just depends. I would check her profile pictures and see what kind of activities she posts pictures of? Active outdoors? Or indoors sitting around? Our active au pairs have had a lot of interests and activities that they are eager to talk about. Our slow/non-active au pair really didn't have that much in the way of interests/activities. Its easy to see that now...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have been interviewing several au pair candidates for weeks, and we have narrowed it down to two au pairs who want to match. The one we like the best, however, is overweight, and I am wondering if anyone has had experience having an au pair who is oveweight? She weighs slightly over 200 pounds and is 5'4". She has worked as a camp counselor, and has a great personality, but our two boys are very active and energetic (ages 7 and 11) and strong willed, and I wonder whether she could keep up with them. She seems up for the challenge. I have had several experienced AP host moms say not to match with an overweight au pair beacuse they have less energy, don't model healthy eating habits, etc. Wondering if that is the case? the other au pair is normal weight, but doesn't seem to have as much charisma.

Anonymous wrote:We have been interviewing several au pair candidates for weeks, and we have narrowed it down to two au pairs who want to match. The one we like the best, however, is overweight, and I am wondering if anyone has had experience having an au pair who is oveweight? She weighs slightly over 200 pounds and is 5'4". She has worked as a camp counselor, and has a great personality, but our two boys are very active and energetic (ages 7 and 11) and strong willed, and I wonder whether she could keep up with them. She seems up for the challenge. I have had several experienced AP host moms say not to match with an overweight au pair beacuse they have less energy, don't model healthy eating habits, etc. Wondering if that is the case? the other au pair is normal weight, but doesn't seem to have as much charisma.

Nanny here.

I’m 5’4”, 250ish pounds. I’m physically capable of chasing kids (2-teen) around the park as tickle monster when they don’t want to move and get their energy out in appropriate ways. I’m also strong enough (and padded enough!) to wade into a pile of boys whose roughhousing turned into hurting each other, then I’m capable of carrying a child of up to 100 pounds up two flights of stairs while they struggle.

I model healthier food choices than their very slim parents. I also model fitness by going and working out with a physical trainer multiple times per week.

If your AP makes healthy choices, weight should not matter.

Total BS. If you are 250 lbs at 5'4" there is no way you eat as health as you claim and are as active as you claim. Per BMI (not perfect I know) you are morbidly obese.

I’m well aware of my BMI, weight classification, and my caliper measurements (more accurate than BMI, when you have a decent amount of muscle!), thanks. My weight is the result of a health condition, not overeating or poor diet, and I love strength training. Most people can tell I’m overweight, but because I have so much hidden muscle, i do not look morbidly obese. My point was that appearances can be deceiving, so thank you for helping to prove that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have been interviewing several au pair candidates for weeks, and we have narrowed it down to two au pairs who want to match. The one we like the best, however, is overweight, and I am wondering if anyone has had experience having an au pair who is oveweight? She weighs slightly over 200 pounds and is 5'4". She has worked as a camp counselor, and has a great personality, but our two boys are very active and energetic (ages 7 and 11) and strong willed, and I wonder whether she could keep up with them. She seems up for the challenge. I have had several experienced AP host moms say not to match with an overweight au pair beacuse they have less energy, don't model healthy eating habits, etc. Wondering if that is the case? the other au pair is normal weight, but doesn't seem to have as much charisma.

Anonymous wrote:We have been interviewing several au pair candidates for weeks, and we have narrowed it down to two au pairs who want to match. The one we like the best, however, is overweight, and I am wondering if anyone has had experience having an au pair who is oveweight? She weighs slightly over 200 pounds and is 5'4". She has worked as a camp counselor, and has a great personality, but our two boys are very active and energetic (ages 7 and 11) and strong willed, and I wonder whether she could keep up with them. She seems up for the challenge. I have had several experienced AP host moms say not to match with an overweight au pair beacuse they have less energy, don't model healthy eating habits, etc. Wondering if that is the case? the other au pair is normal weight, but doesn't seem to have as much charisma.

Nanny here.

I’m 5’4”, 250ish pounds. I’m physically capable of chasing kids (2-teen) around the park as tickle monster when they don’t want to move and get their energy out in appropriate ways. I’m also strong enough (and padded enough!) to wade into a pile of boys whose roughhousing turned into hurting each other, then I’m capable of carrying a child of up to 100 pounds up two flights of stairs while they struggle.

I model healthier food choices than their very slim parents. I also model fitness by going and working out with a physical trainer multiple times per week.

If your AP makes healthy choices, weight should not matter.

Total BS. If you are 250 lbs at 5'4" there is no way you eat as health as you claim and are as active as you claim. Per BMI (not perfect I know) you are morbidly obese.

Maybe your idea of what this looks like is wrong.

go here and look at 5'4'' and 250.
Not that "HUGE" as you say...

https://www.mybodygallery.com/search.html?gender=female&height=163&age=any&weight=113&pantSize=any&shirtSize=any&bodytype=