~ Am Feeling Very Sad/Disappointed/Disillusioned With Being A Nanny Today~

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No, my employers never micro-manage me. I never have had to clear a play date with them. I am sorry, OP. Maybe she was just in a bad mood.

Stop making excuses to justify her MB'S inexcusable behavior. She has been their nanny for five years and is still not trusted. She should have moved on so time ago.

Wrong. Human Beings have bad days from time to time and lash out. This is called human nature. If you have never encountered this before, you must live in Avery limited bubble.

Nanny here and I give the rare periods of unreasonable behavior a pass. You would be happier if you did too, PP.

Mature people do not take their frustrations out on other people, particularly, their employees. We all have bad days but we do not lash out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, my employers never micro-manage me. I never have had to clear a play date with them. I am sorry, OP. Maybe she was just in a bad mood.

Stop making excuses to justify her MB'S inexcusable behavior. She has been their nanny for five years and is still not trusted. She should have moved on so time ago.

Wrong. Human Beings have bad days from time to time and lash out. This is called human nature. If you have never encountered this before, you must live in Avery limited bubble.

Nanny here and I give the rare periods of unreasonable behavior a pass. You would be happier if you did too, PP.

Mature people do not take their frustrations out on other people, particularly, their employees. We all have bad days but we do not lash out.

Things happen in life. People cannot always be perfect. Learn to forgive and you’ll be happier - I promise you.

[Anonymous]

As a former nanny, I would trust wholeheartedly that my nanny would be able to ensure my child's safety when out with them. This is why you hire the right person in the first place plus the nanny has been there for 5 years. Just a next time let me know before could have been enough.

[Anonymous]

I think there are two possibilities here
1) MB overreacted, just had a a bad day, feeling sad that kids have a life that she can’t be a part of; OR
2) MB actually doesn’t trust the nanny or nanny’s judgement.

I kind of think it might be the latter:
A) MB doesn’t allow nanny to drive kids (why? is there no reliable car available? Did MB never check nanny’s driving ability? Presumably, the nanny drove every single day to MBs house for the last five years);
B) MB still insist that the nanny goes out every day. I like when kids are out of the house! But not in 100+ heat with the heat advisory! And if still out, then MB needs to have a discussion prior to “where would the nanny take the kids”. That just really doesn’t make any sense.
C) The guns and sex offender reasons are totally lame. The house that they went to had to be with walking distance and presumably MB who cares so much about safety screened all sex offender locations within walking distance, and instructed the nanny to avoid certain areas. Re Guns: the 2.5 and 5 yo will only play with what they see in plain sight. They are not going to run into closets in the unknown house. So the nanny will see those hypothetical dangers too and presumably handle that. The only question here is if the two nannies can be trusted to watch the kids instead of just socializing?

OP, you might want to seriously think if your MB really trusts you, and whether the trust is important for your continued job satisfaction.

[Anonymous]

Pp, you’ve never had 4/5/6 year olds spontaneously decide to play hide and seek? A 2.5 year old will hide in an open closet, but a5 year old May open a closet and start playing with things if seeking takes too long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think there are two possibilities here
1) MB overreacted, just had a a bad day, feeling sad that kids have a life that she can’t be a part of; OR
2) MB actually doesn’t trust the nanny or nanny’s judgement.

I kind of think it might be the latter:
A) MB doesn’t allow nanny to drive kids (why? is there no reliable car available? Did MB never check nanny’s driving ability? Presumably, the nanny drove every single day to MBs house for the last five years);
B) MB still insist that the nanny goes out every day. I like when kids are out of the house! But not in 100+ heat with the heat advisory! And if still out, then MB needs to have a discussion prior to “where would the nanny take the kids”. That just really doesn’t make any sense.
C) The guns and sex offender reasons are totally lame. The house that they went to had to be with walking distance and presumably MB who cares so much about safety screened all sex offender locations within walking distance, and instructed the nanny to avoid certain areas. Re Guns: the 2.5 and 5 yo will only play with what they see in plain sight. They are not going to run into closets in the unknown house. So the nanny will see those hypothetical dangers too and presumably handle that. The only question here is if the two nannies can be trusted to watch the kids instead of just socializing?

OP, you might want to seriously think if your MB really trusts you, and whether the trust is important for your continued job satisfaction.

OP Here:
Excellent points brought up here.

My Nanny Family does not like anyone other than family members drive their children around.
Even though I have a perfect driving record (no infractions/points, etc.), a current, valid DL + my car is fully insured, registered & I have records that I keep up the maintenance on time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pp, you’ve never had 4/5/6 year olds spontaneously decide to play hide and seek? A 2.5 year old will hide in an open closet, but a5 year old May open a closet and start playing with things if seeking takes too long.

+1000

What an ignorant and dangerous position to take! That is literally how accidental gun deaths happen!

[Anonymous]

You are judging MB too harshly. I am a mom and would never send my kid to another family's house without talking to the parents first to ask precisely the questions your MB did. This is the parent's decision to make.

[Anonymous]

Op, did your MB ever address your email?

[Anonymous]

I’d send her overly verbose texts detailing my exact plans until she finds it invasive and annoying.