Have to let nanny go

[Anonymous]

OP, what you're planning to do is fine. Especially if you're willing to let her start another job earlier, will give her a great reference, etc...

Severance is not at all required in your situation. If you want to give her a parting gift of some kind (including cash if you wish) I'm sure that would be appreciated but severance is not needed when you are giving more than double the contractual notice obligated.

The snide remarks about daycare or preschool have no place here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, what you're planning to do is fine. Especially if you're willing to let her start another job earlier, will give her a great reference, etc...

Severance is not at all required in your situation. If you want to give her a parting gift of some kind (including cash if you wish) I'm sure that would be appreciated but severance is not needed when you are giving more than double the contractual notice obligated.

The snide remarks about daycare or preschool have no place here.

There is nothing “snide” about posters honest opinions about daycare. This is an opinion forum. Everyone has a right to their opinion.

And I am a nanny who would not accept a position if I knew daycare was a possibility. My charge is now 3, I have been with her since birth, and she is in half day preschool. I still work full time for the family but added house management chores to my time (ordering, grocery shopping, errands, payments for housekeeper and Gardner, etc). My employers assure me that nothing will change and they will need coverage until their DD is able to drive.

So daycare of aftercare is not always inevitable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did your nanny know you were waiting for a spot in daycare?

This.

Families, if you are planning on putting your kids in daycare please tell potential hires.

Twice I’ve been told a family wanted long term care only to find out a few months in they just needed me until a daycare spot opened. It’s a waste of my time.

Since most daycare/preschool lists can be years long you never know when you will get a spot. It took me two years to get a spot for my oldest and 6 months to get a spot for my youngest. Nannies must assume that kids are going to go to school at some point (typically sometime when they are between 2 and 4 years old).

There’s a huge difference between daycare and preschool or kindergarten. Nannies plan on the slow transition to a few hours of preschool 1-2 days per week starting around 2, then increasing every year until kinder.

This depends largely on where you live. Where we are, I do not personally know of anyone who has kept a nanny after the start of school (somewhere between age 2 and 3) unless there was a new baby involved. Kids are typically in nannyshares from 4-6 months until the fall after the second birthday, and then they go to preschool. Occasionally parents wait a year and start school after the third birthday, but nobody transitions into school unless they have a SAHP--it's far too expensive in our area. I'm sure there are other areas (probably higher income communities) where this is more common, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did your nanny know you were waiting for a spot in daycare?

This.

Families, if you are planning on putting your kids in daycare please tell potential hires.

Twice I’ve been told a family wanted long term care only to find out a few months in they just needed me until a daycare spot opened. It’s a waste of my time.

Since most daycare/preschool lists can be years long you never know when you will get a spot. It took me two years to get a spot for my oldest and 6 months to get a spot for my youngest. Nannies must assume that kids are going to go to school at some point (typically sometime when they are between 2 and 4 years old).

There’s a huge difference between daycare and preschool or kindergarten. Nannies plan on the slow transition to a few hours of preschool 1-2 days per week starting around 2, then increasing every year until kinder.

This depends largely on where you live. Where we are, I do not personally know of anyone who has kept a nanny after the start of school (somewhere between age 2 and 3) unless there was a new baby involved. Kids are typically in nannyshares from 4-6 months until the fall after the second birthday, and then they go to preschool. Occasionally parents wait a year and start school after the third birthday, but nobody transitions into school unless they have a SAHP--it's far too expensive in our area. I'm sure there are other areas (probably higher income communities) where this is more common, though.

Our neighborhood has nannies for over a decade. Sports and after school activities as well as the countless school holidays.

[Anonymous]

Many of the nannies on this forum are employed my high-income families. Those families generally keep a nanny or nannies until well into middle school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did your nanny know you were waiting for a spot in daycare?

This.

Families, if you are planning on putting your kids in daycare please tell potential hires.

Twice I’ve been told a family wanted long term care only to find out a few months in they just needed me until a daycare spot opened. It’s a waste of my time.

Which is why they didn’t tell you. They wouldn’t be able to find anyone willing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did your nanny know you were waiting for a spot in daycare?

This.

Families, if you are planning on putting your kids in daycare please tell potential hires.

Twice I’ve been told a family wanted long term care only to find out a few months in they just needed me until a daycare spot opened. It’s a waste of my time.

Which is why they didn’t tell you. They wouldn’t be able to find anyone willing.

This is why I only work for wealthy couples.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did your nanny know you were waiting for a spot in daycare?

This.

Families, if you are planning on putting your kids in daycare please tell potential hires.

Twice I’ve been told a family wanted long term care only to find out a few months in they just needed me until a daycare spot opened. It’s a waste of my time.

Which is why they didn’t tell you. They wouldn’t be able to find anyone willing.

This is why I only work for wealthy couples.

How would you know how well off a couple is? Even if they’re filthy rich they will let you go if they feel they don’t need you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My youngest just got off a daycare wait list, so we've decided to send her there in September. Our current nanny has been with us not quite a year and has only watched our youngest, not the older two (much older). We are giving her 5 weeks notice instead of the 2 weeks that is in our contract. What, if any, severance should I pay? I'm planning to pay her for unused vacation days, but not sure if I should do something else since we are giving so much notice. There is no mention of severance in our contract.

Thanks!

Did you tell her you were on waiting list? If not, I hope karma gets you soon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny had been with us a year and we recently gave her a months notice ( instead of the 2 weeks in our contract like you). No serverence but will give her a small parting gift. For most it’s either adequate notice OR severance not both.

My, my, aren't you just so fn wonderful that you're just to wonderful to fk!

[Anonymous]

OP, you avoided answering the question a previous poster asked you earlier.
Someone asked you directly if you ever had given your Nanny a hint that daycare was a possibility in the future.

Did your Nanny know it was??

[Anonymous]

Good lord who on earth needs a nanny for a middle schooler? I was babysitting as a middle schooler, not being baby sat!

Why do nannies feel so self entitled that parents aren’t allowed to change their care decisions? Kids grow up and need more social interaction - not just a nanny!

OP - you are fine!! Plenty of notice, more than most people get in a job!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did your nanny know you were waiting for a spot in daycare?

This.

Families, if you are planning on putting your kids in daycare please tell potential hires.

Twice I’ve been told a family wanted long term care only to find out a few months in they just needed me until a daycare spot opened. It’s a waste of my time.

Which is why they didn’t tell you. They wouldn’t be able to find anyone willing.

This is why I only work for wealthy couples.

How would you know how well off a couple is? Even if they’re filthy rich they will let you go if they feel they don’t need you

Truly wealthy people never consider daycare or afterschool extended care. They just don’t. If you, as a nanny, like long term assignments, working for a wealthy couple is the only way to go. Otherwise you end up like OP’s nanny and end up working with a child for a year at a time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good lord who on earth needs a nanny for a middle schooler? I was babysitting as a middle schooler, not being baby sat!

Why do nannies feel so self entitled that parents aren’t allowed to change their care decisions? Kids grow up and need more social interaction - not just a nanny!

OP - you are fine!! Plenty of notice, more than most people get in a job!

Lots of people keep a nanny through middle school for afterschool activities, school holidays and sick days, and for the continuity of care. The nanny still handles the child’s laundry, errands and often the cooking for the child as well as keeping closets up to date and clothes organized. My brother has had the same nanny since his oldest was born and she is now 13 (younger child is 10). The nanny also steps in when my brother and his wife have to travel as well as date nights. He has said he will never let her go!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good lord who on earth needs a nanny for a middle schooler? I was babysitting as a middle schooler, not being baby sat!

Why do nannies feel so self entitled that parents aren’t allowed to change their care decisions? Kids grow up and need more social interaction - not just a nanny!

OP - you are fine!! Plenty of notice, more than most people get in a job!

+1000. What is wrong with these people, in corporate jobs you often get canned and are lucky to get one weeks severance or notice. Especially in contracting around here if the contract is cut etc. who would complain about a months notice?? And regarding wealthy families it totally depends on the family, if they decide they don’t need you they can let you go. The wealthy don’t get/stay wealthy by throwing money away usually.