Nannies marrying their DBs ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any woman who cheats with a married man, especially someone who is employed in their home, is pure filth. No way do I want to know any of them.

But the married man is blameless, right?

The man is the one in a committed relationship who is cheating on his wife with someone he has control over (the nanny).

It’s a power imbalance and while both parties are 100% at fault, the married man is where most blame should lie. We need to stop babying men and acting like they can’t control themselves.

Do you know how many nannies I know who slept with their DB? None. Do you know how many nannies I know who quit because their DB was crossing a professional line? A solid handful.

This culture where the “other woman” is at fault and the POS cheater can walk away blame free is BS.

It has nothing to do with fault, but yes, both parties are at fault. It had to do with pp saying it was “ easy for lines to get crossed”. As a professional, you do not let it ever cross that line. Even if he refuses to remain professional, you still do out of respect for his wife, the kids, and yourself.

Are you always this dramatic? She's right. Being a nanny is very different than any other job. It's very easy for the lines to get crossed. Lots of dad bosses flirt with their nannies. I've had to quit several jobs because of this.

[Anonymous]

I would think it would be harder for lines to be crossed when you know a man's wife and children, aren't naturally alone together working or eating, and don't travel together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would think it would be harder for lines to be crossed when you know a man's wife and children, aren't naturally alone together working or eating, and don't travel together.

Lots of dads work from home now. I've been a nanny for many years and there are TONS of creepy dads.

[Anonymous]

I know this lady who worked as a live in for a widower and his seven children. He was engaged to someone else, but he broke it off and married her. I guess they were all really good singers and ended up forming a family singing group.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would think it would be harder for lines to be crossed when you know a man's wife and children, aren't naturally alone together working or eating, and don't travel together.

Lots of dads work from home now. I've been a nanny for many years and there are TONS of creepy dads.

This is true. One of them wouldn't leave me alone, so I left.

[Anonymous]

I was the part time nanny and married the DB. He was not married when he hired me and had been divorced for a couple of years. His friends wives know I used to be the nanny and always acted like they were better than me. I just chalked it up to them being jealous I was younger than they were.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was the part time nanny and married the DB. He was not married when he hired me and had been divorced for a couple of years. His friends wives know I used to be the nanny and always acted like they were better than me. I just chalked it up to them being jealous I was younger than they were.

Pp here who commented on the clueless nanny thinking it was okay to overstep her boundaries with her DB, this is fine. Both of you we’re single and consenting adults. It is only an issue for me when there is a wife still in the picture and it’s cheating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any woman who cheats with a married man, especially someone who is employed in their home, is pure filth. No way do I want to know any of them.

But the married man is blameless, right?

The man is the one in a committed relationship who is cheating on his wife with someone he has control over (the nanny).

It’s a power imbalance and while both parties are 100% at fault, the married man is where most blame should lie. We need to stop babying men and acting like they can’t control themselves.

Do you know how many nannies I know who slept with their DB? None. Do you know how many nannies I know who quit because their DB was crossing a professional line? A solid handful.

This culture where the “other woman” is at fault and the POS cheater can walk away blame free is BS.

It has nothing to do with fault, but yes, both parties are at fault. It had to do with pp saying it was “ easy for lines to get crossed”. As a professional, you do not let it ever cross that line. Even if he refuses to remain professional, you still do out of respect for his wife, the kids, and yourself.

Are you always this dramatic? She's right. Being a nanny is very different than any other job. It's very easy for the lines to get crossed. Lots of dad bosses flirt with their nannies. I've had to quit several jobs because of this.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know this lady who worked as a live in for a widower and his seven children. He was engaged to someone else, but he broke it off and married her. I guess they were all really good singers and ended up forming a family singing group.

lol this is the story from the sounds of music. I feel like a nanny should be there to do a job and not engage in side things with her boss but love is blind so I will not judge anyone here.

[Anonymous]

I'm a nanny and I would NEVER be with a married man or woman even if they are having problems.
Us nannies we are not sure, or know really the parents intentions, they could be sociopaths, psychos. We have no idea to know, maybe we should do background check on them too. I've met crazy parents, I shoukdve left but i felt bad for the baby. The mom and dad would argue in front of me and thier baby. Say curse words and not be mindful. And plus that dad was making advances at me, I just wanted to vomit. They are good people but not very professional and ethnic much. I hate when dads flirts to nannies. When I was next to the fridge getting my charges milk the dad will come forward next to me and take something from the fridge like trying to touch me close. Disgusting. And he would go running and then come at home all panting. Yuck. I believe there is parents who are very perverted and even worse. You never know thier true intentions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know this lady who worked as a live in for a widower and his seven children. He was engaged to someone else, but he broke it off and married her. I guess they were all really good singers and ended up forming a family singing group.

I think I love you
so what am I so afraid of?
I'm afraid that I'm not sure of
a love there is no cure for