Nannies marrying their DBs ...

[Anonymous]

oes anyone know of a nanny who married their DB?

I actually went on an interview years ago, was a short term one to be a mother's helper of sorts to this woman. She was going through medical issues, and needed extra set of hands for the kids,
turns out she was the kids' nanny before becoming MRS./MB.
I do not know the details behind how it happened.
But I suspect an affair took place.
The kids were under 8. SHE was their stepmom. I only know this, because during the trail I interacted with the kids and one of them let it slip she use to be their nanny and asked me if I was a stepmom too.
I was offered the position but since it was not LT I turned it down. I needed PT, but LT security as I was taking a gap year in school.
BUT I always wondered what became of them or how it all went down.

The other person who's story is related, her and the DB had an affair and now she is the MRS. They have a nanny for the kids, and this woman does not tell anyone she use to be their PT nanny. She treats the nanny coldly, like she's better and
seems to have no remorse about the affair, by her demeanor, she got what she wanted. life. man and money.

A nanny I'm acquainted with use to have play dates with this woman, so she knew her as their nanny not MRS. She said it's bizarre bumping into them at outings.

Anyone know of someone like this?

[Anonymous]

You seems like you like gossip. I don't know anyone who married their boss. However, I've heard of those young girls who comes to America to see the country, study while working for a year or two.....you know whom I am referring to?

Men aren't to be trusted and as soon as women understand that the easier their lives would be.

Nonetheless, all the nanny who married their bosses they better be careful not to bring any women at their home. Because if these husbands cheated on their first wife they will do the same to them as well. What goes around comes back around.

I prefer the men bosses over the women, but I wouldn't do that to another woman.....something about respecting myself.

However, if one was divorce and he and I had ran into each other and we began talking and we had relationship so be it....but breaking up a home isn't my cup of tea. We women need to watch out for our sisters, because the men aren't watching out for us.

[Anonymous]

We have several of these in our school

[Anonymous]

No but I can see how it could happen. I used to feel something for my db a long time ago. A lot of marriages go through problems and dbs could open up to the nanny looking for support. It happens. Being a nanny is a very personal job.

[Anonymous]

Any woman who cheats with a married man, especially someone who is employed in their home, is pure filth. No way do I want to know any of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No but I can see how it could happen. I used to feel something for my db a long time ago. A lot of marriages go through problems and dbs could open up to the nanny looking for support. It happens. Being a nanny is a very personal job.

You sound like a terrible employee. Marriages have issues but that is not your place as an employee to talk with the DB. You should have quit the moment you started feeling anything for an employer. Is a personal job but be a professional. A nanny should never be hitting on or booking up with a DB. You’re sick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No but I can see how it could happen. I used to feel something for my db a long time ago. A lot of marriages go through problems and dbs could open up to the nanny looking for support. It happens. Being a nanny is a very personal job.

You sound like a terrible employee. Marriages have issues but that is not your place as an employee to talk with the DB. You should have quit the moment you started feeling anything for an employer. Is a personal job but be a professional. A nanny should never be hitting on or booking up with a DB. You’re sick.

Are you always this dramatic? I was simply explaining how I can see how it happens. My db came to me looking for support. Working in someones home is very different than most jobs. Boundaries can be crossed easily.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No but I can see how it could happen. I used to feel something for my db a long time ago. A lot of marriages go through problems and dbs could open up to the nanny looking for support. It happens. Being a nanny is a very personal job.

You sound like a terrible employee. Marriages have issues but that is not your place as an employee to talk with the DB. You should have quit the moment you started feeling anything for an employer. Is a personal job but be a professional. A nanny should never be hitting on or booking up with a DB. You’re sick.

Are you always this dramatic? I was simply explaining how I can see how it happens. My db came to me looking for support. Working in someones home is very different than most jobs. Boundaries can be crossed easily.

As a professional you don’t cross his grounds. Would you be okay if the roles were reversed and your husband was getting “support” from your nanny? It’s a personal job involving the children, not what goes on your employers marriage. You’re an employee, know your role. I’m not dramatic, just pissed off sucky ass nannies like you give us all a bad name. Not all of us are tramps out to get our DB’s. Find your own man and leave your Mb’s man alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any woman who cheats with a married man, especially someone who is employed in their home, is pure filth. No way do I want to know any of them.

Seriously. If a DB ever hit on me I'd tell on him so fast his head would spin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any woman who cheats with a married man, especially someone who is employed in their home, is pure filth. No way do I want to know any of them.

Seriously. If a DB ever hit on me I'd tell on him so fast his head would spin.

+1. The pp calling people “dramatic” sounds like a desperate girl craving male attention that she has to seek out attention from a married man. Any nanny that sleeps with a DB is gross and has a low moral compass. Yes, this is a personal job, but your DB doesn’t need you for “ emotional support”. He has how wife, friends, and family for that. Don’t excuse your poor behavior with a lame excuse. Pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any woman who cheats with a married man, especially someone who is employed in their home, is pure filth. No way do I want to know any of them.

But the married man is blameless, right?

The man is the one in a committed relationship who is cheating on his wife with someone he has control over (the nanny).

It’s a power imbalance and while both parties are 100% at fault, the married man is where most blame should lie. We need to stop babying men and acting like they can’t control themselves.

Do you know how many nannies I know who slept with their DB? None. Do you know how many nannies I know who quit because their DB was crossing a professional line? A solid handful.

This culture where the “other woman” is at fault and the POS cheater can walk away blame free is BS.

[Anonymous]

Wow. You would think people would move to a different neighborhood where no one knew their past.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any woman who cheats with a married man, especially someone who is employed in their home, is pure filth. No way do I want to know any of them.

Seriously. If a DB ever hit on me I'd tell on him so fast his head would spin.

+1. The pp calling people “dramatic” sounds like a desperate girl craving male attention that she has to seek out attention from a married man. Any nanny that sleeps with a DB is gross and has a low moral compass. Yes, this is a personal job, but your DB doesn’t need you for “ emotional support”. He has how wife, friends, and family for that. Don’t excuse your poor behavior with a lame excuse. Pathetic.

I'm happily married now. There are way more creepy middle aged dads out there than desperate nannies. We do not want to sleep with your husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any woman who cheats with a married man, especially someone who is employed in their home, is pure filth. No way do I want to know any of them.

But the married man is blameless, right?

The man is the one in a committed relationship who is cheating on his wife with someone he has control over (the nanny).

It’s a power imbalance and while both parties are 100% at fault, the married man is where most blame should lie. We need to stop babying men and acting like they can’t control themselves.

Do you know how many nannies I know who slept with their DB? None. Do you know how many nannies I know who quit because their DB was crossing a professional line? A solid handful.

This culture where the “other woman” is at fault and the POS cheater can walk away blame free is BS.

It’s both people’s fault if there’s an affair. This should be obvious. It’s just extra gross when it’s the nanny because the kids are involved in a confusing way. Yuck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any woman who cheats with a married man, especially someone who is employed in their home, is pure filth. No way do I want to know any of them.

But the married man is blameless, right?

The man is the one in a committed relationship who is cheating on his wife with someone he has control over (the nanny).

It’s a power imbalance and while both parties are 100% at fault, the married man is where most blame should lie. We need to stop babying men and acting like they can’t control themselves.

Do you know how many nannies I know who slept with their DB? None. Do you know how many nannies I know who quit because their DB was crossing a professional line? A solid handful.

This culture where the “other woman” is at fault and the POS cheater can walk away blame free is BS.

It has nothing to do with fault, but yes, both parties are at fault. It had to do with pp saying it was “ easy for lines to get crossed”. As a professional, you do not let it ever cross that line. Even if he refuses to remain professional, you still do out of respect for his wife, the kids, and yourself.