Families who expect above average housework

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have been putting these children down for their naps five days a week for six months, part of the sleep training issue is on you.

No, it is not. I do not want my baby crying-it-out and want her held and comforted when she falls asleep. I would fire our nanny in the spot if she thought she could or should go against my direct wishes. I do not believe in sleep training.

That said, I also would NEVER even think to ask my nanny to do one lick of housework! She does the baby's laundry - that is it. And if she cannot get that done, I understand. Her first and only obligation is to my child.

Who said anything about crying? Your nanny seriously has no idea how to put a baby down for a nap without either holding them for the entirety of the nap or letting them cry? What do you do with your baby when you do the housework, pp? Either you must do it with your baby awake, or you are able to put her down to sleep. Why wouldn't you think your nanny is as competent with your child as you are?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have been putting these children down for their naps five days a week for six months, part of the sleep training issue is on you.

No, it is not. I do not want my baby crying-it-out and want her held and comforted when she falls asleep. I would fire our nanny in the spot if she thought she could or should go against my direct wishes. I do not believe in sleep training.

That said, I also would NEVER even think to ask my nanny to do one lick of housework! She does the baby's laundry - that is it. And if she cannot get that done, I understand. Her first and only obligation is to my child.

Who said anything about crying? Your nanny seriously has no idea how to put a baby down for a nap without either holding them for the entirety of the nap or letting them cry? What do you do with your baby when you do the housework, pp? Either you must do it with your baby awake, or you are able to put her down to sleep. Why wouldn't you think your nanny is as competent with your child as you are?

I don't do housework, PP. we have a housekeeper and a personal chef. I want my nanny to do as I request and she does. That is the point. My now toddler goes down to sleep fine after no sleep training. We held him as a baby until he fell asleep until he didn't want to be held anymore. That was exactly what I wanted and what our amazing nanny did.

Don't worry about us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These types of families tend to just rub me the wrong way.

Caring for two young children takes a lot of energy & all of that energy should go toward the child and the child ONLY.

However some families want to maximize their dollar, even if it means that their children get a burned out Nanny in the end.

No chores should be given to someone who has full responsibility for your child.
Besides chores are what kids have to do by parents who assign them.
Chores should not be something an employer delegates to their employee!

Childcare alone includes a lot of cleaning up already.
I would conclude that 50% of caring for any small child includes cleaning up the child AND their messes.

How unfair to add in laundry + other cleaning duties to their list of responsibilities!
Nannies should only be responsible for washing any dishes used during her shift.
As well as picking up any toys, books, etc. that were used during her stay.

You need to talk to your bosses about your plight.
Before you began to burn out & become resentful which would not bode well for a family Nanny.

Good luck!!

Well said. The kids either sit in their cribs or in front of an idiot screen while the housekeeper tidies the mess.

Yet SAHMs find a way to get it all done during nap time...and cook. Huh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These types of families tend to just rub me the wrong way.

Caring for two young children takes a lot of energy & all of that energy should go toward the child and the child ONLY.

However some families want to maximize their dollar, even if it means that their children get a burned out Nanny in the end.

No chores should be given to someone who has full responsibility for your child.
Besides chores are what kids have to do by parents who assign them.
Chores should not be something an employer delegates to their employee!

Childcare alone includes a lot of cleaning up already.
I would conclude that 50% of caring for any small child includes cleaning up the child AND their messes.

How unfair to add in laundry + other cleaning duties to their list of responsibilities!
Nannies should only be responsible for washing any dishes used during her shift.
As well as picking up any toys, books, etc. that were used during her stay.

You need to talk to your bosses about your plight.
Before you began to burn out & become resentful which would not bode well for a family Nanny.

Good luck!!

Well said. The kids either sit in their cribs or in front of an idiot screen while the housekeeper tidies the mess.

Yet SAHMs find a way to get it all done during nap time...and cook. Huh.

First, no SAHMs don't get it all done during naptime. Second, SAHMs have 16 hours to complete their household tasks and generally have a partner to help. Third, a nanny is not a SAHM.

[Anonymous]

Where I live at, SoCal specifically none of my Nanny buddies have to do any chores.
Not even laundry.

We just clean up after ourselves and the kiddos before we go home.

Childcare should not include any cleaning or laundry or shopping duties since none of that has any thing to do w/the actual care of a child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where I live at, SoCal specifically none of my Nanny buddies have to do any chores.
Not even laundry.

We just clean up after ourselves and the kiddos before we go home.

Childcare should not include any cleaning or laundry or shopping duties since none of that has any thing to do w/the actual care of a child.

Agreed. I will, however, consider certain tasks which I feel would benefit the child. The parents need to be on board and do their part when I'm gone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where I live at, SoCal specifically none of my Nanny buddies have to do any chores.
Not even laundry.

We just clean up after ourselves and the kiddos before we go home.

Childcare should not include any cleaning or laundry or shopping duties since none of that has any thing to do w/the actual care of a child.

I live in the Midwest, and it is the opposite. Here, a nanny caring for one child is generally expected to leave the house clean, prep dinner for the family a couple of days a week, and do small tasks to keep the house neat, like emptying the dishwasher or taking out the trash. Even our high school babysitters will do the dishes and pick up the playroom after the kids go to bed. I haven't found that these are really explicitly stated, but generally expected.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where I live at, SoCal specifically none of my Nanny buddies have to do any chores.
Not even laundry.

We just clean up after ourselves and the kiddos before we go home.

Childcare should not include any cleaning or laundry or shopping duties since none of that has any thing to do w/the actual care of a child.

I live in the Midwest, and it is the opposite. Here, a nanny caring for one child is generally expected to leave the house clean, prep dinner for the family a couple of days a week, and do small tasks to keep the house neat, like emptying the dishwasher or taking out the trash. Even our high school babysitters will do the dishes and pick up the playroom after the kids go to bed. I haven't found that these are really explicitly stated, but generally expected.

I was going to say that all is negotiable depending on the local norm, the age and number of kids, compensation, and number of hours when children are at school or napping. But...folks from the Midwest are often sought after factory and office employees (not talking nannies here) because they are believed to have a strong work ethic. Perhaps that is ingrained in the nannies there as well. Not a bad thing when so many nannies on this forum seem to object to relatively petty chores like emptying the dishwasher.

[Anonymous]

^^^^ Why should a Nanny empty out a dishwasher that has family dishes that were dirtied prior to her shift??!

That has NOTHING to do w/caring for someone’s child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^^^ Why should a Nanny empty out a dishwasher that has family dishes that were dirtied prior to her shift??!

That has NOTHING to do w/caring for someone’s child.

Just to be kind and helpful. People are nice in the Midwest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where I live at, SoCal specifically none of my Nanny buddies have to do any chores.
Not even laundry.

We just clean up after ourselves and the kiddos before we go home.

Childcare should not include any cleaning or laundry or shopping duties since none of that has any thing to do w/the actual care of a child.

I agree in terms of general housekeeping but all the Los Angeles nannies I know, myself included, do the child's laundry as well.