Families who expect above average housework

[Anonymous]

“When babies nap”

But they have twins who they’ve rocked to sleep and at 9 months cannot sleep without being rocked.

I cannot do family laundry, dishes, sweeping, organizing during nap if the children are on me when I nap. I’m fine if they don’t wish to sleep train but then they must change their expectations of what I can get done.

[Anonymous]

People in Hell want I've water. You tell them, "no ice water.". What you really say is, "Sorry. Not interested.,"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“When babies nap”

But they have twins who they’ve rocked to sleep and at 9 months cannot sleep without being rocked.

I cannot do family laundry, dishes, sweeping, organizing during nap if the children are on me when I nap. I’m fine if they don’t wish to sleep train but then they must change their expectations of what I can get done.

That's what you need to communicate to them in a professional way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People in Hell want I've water. You tell them, "no ice water.". What you really say is, "Sorry. Not interested.,"

Are you drunk?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People in Hell want I've water. You tell them, "no ice water.". What you really say is, "Sorry. Not interested.,"

Are you drunk?

No. Are you?

[Anonymous]

These types of families tend to just rub me the wrong way.

Caring for two young children takes a lot of energy & all of that energy should go toward the child and the child ONLY.

However some families want to maximize their dollar, even if it means that their children get a burned out Nanny in the end.

No chores should be given to someone who has full responsibility for your child.
Besides chores are what kids have to do by parents who assign them.
Chores should not be something an employer delegates to their employee!

Childcare alone includes a lot of cleaning up already.
I would conclude that 50% of caring for any small child includes cleaning up the child AND their messes.

How unfair to add in laundry + other cleaning duties to their list of responsibilities!
Nannies should only be responsible for washing any dishes used during her shift.
As well as picking up any toys, books, etc. that were used during her stay.

You need to talk to your bosses about your plight.
Before you began to burn out & become resentful which would not bode well for a family Nanny.

Good luck!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“When babies nap”

But they have twins who they’ve rocked to sleep and at 9 months cannot sleep without being rocked.

I cannot do family laundry, dishes, sweeping, organizing during nap if the children are on me when I nap. I’m fine if they don’t wish to sleep train but then they must change their expectations of what I can get done.

Specify no housework. Period. Getting twins laundry and meals done is more than enough - no general housekeeping.

[Anonymous]

If you have been putting these children down for their naps five days a week for six months, part of the sleep training issue is on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These types of families tend to just rub me the wrong way.

Caring for two young children takes a lot of energy & all of that energy should go toward the child and the child ONLY.

However some families want to maximize their dollar, even if it means that their children get a burned out Nanny in the end.

No chores should be given to someone who has full responsibility for your child.
Besides chores are what kids have to do by parents who assign them.
Chores should not be something an employer delegates to their employee!

Childcare alone includes a lot of cleaning up already.
I would conclude that 50% of caring for any small child includes cleaning up the child AND their messes.

How unfair to add in laundry + other cleaning duties to their list of responsibilities!
Nannies should only be responsible for washing any dishes used during her shift.
As well as picking up any toys, books, etc. that were used during her stay.

You need to talk to your bosses about your plight.
Before you began to burn out & become resentful which would not bode well for a family Nanny.

Good luck!!

Well said. The kids either sit in their cribs or in front of an idiot screen while the housekeeper tidies the mess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you have been putting these children down for their naps five days a week for six months, part of the sleep training issue is on you.

No, it is not. I do not want my baby crying-it-out and want her held and comforted when she falls asleep. I would fire our nanny in the spot if she thought she could or should go against my direct wishes. I do not believe in sleep training.

That said, I also would NEVER even think to ask my nanny to do one lick of housework! She does the baby's laundry - that is it. And if she cannot get that done, I understand. Her first and only obligation is to my child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have been putting these children down for their naps five days a week for six months, part of the sleep training issue is on you.

No, it is not. I do not want my baby crying-it-out and want her held and comforted when she falls asleep. I would fire our nanny in the spot if she thought she could or should go against my direct wishes. I do not believe in sleep training.

That said, I also would NEVER even think to ask my nanny to do one lick of housework! She does the baby's laundry - that is it. And if she cannot get that done, I understand. Her first and only obligation is to my child.

Thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you have been putting these children down for their naps five days a week for six months, part of the sleep training issue is on you.

Nope.

Because my employers are very anti-CIO and tell me to rock them to sleep and transfer to crib. Transfers don’t happen.

There are cameras and I won’t do CIO without parental support.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have been putting these children down for their naps five days a week for six months, part of the sleep training issue is on you.

No, it is not. I do not want my baby crying-it-out and want her held and comforted when she falls asleep. I would fire our nanny in the spot if she thought she could or should go against my direct wishes. I do not believe in sleep training.

That said, I also would NEVER even think to ask my nanny to do one lick of housework! She does the baby's laundry - that is it. And if she cannot get that done, I understand. Her first and only obligation is to my child.

Well said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have been putting these children down for their naps five days a week for six months, part of the sleep training issue is on you.

No, it is not. I do not want my baby crying-it-out and want her held and comforted when she falls asleep. I would fire our nanny in the spot if she thought she could or should go against my direct wishes. I do not believe in sleep training.

That said, I also would NEVER even think to ask my nanny to do one lick of housework! She does the baby's laundry - that is it. And if she cannot get that done, I understand. Her first and only obligation is to my child.

Well said.

+1 OP, you need to have a conversation with your employers about this and have the general housework taken off your list of duties. Honestly, you never should have agreed to this in the first place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have been putting these children down for their naps five days a week for six months, part of the sleep training issue is on you.

No, it is not. I do not want my baby crying-it-out and want her held and comforted when she falls asleep. I would fire our nanny in the spot if she thought she could or should go against my direct wishes. I do not believe in sleep training.

That said, I also would NEVER even think to ask my nanny to do one lick of housework! She does the baby's laundry - that is it. And if she cannot get that done, I understand. Her first and only obligation is to my child.

Well said.

+1