Not Bonding with New Nanny

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No nanny in her right mind wants to work weekends and especially not when the mom is a sahm. There's your problem op. Good luck.

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This is not a SAHM. She works, just odd hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I run a nonprofit charity and weekends are always busy with events. I am home with my child five days a week and we pay our weekend nanny very well ($28 plus overtime).

Thanks to the two posters who actually answered my question.

Why did you say you're a sahm? Troll.

Oh, stop! I am A SAHM Monday thru Friday but have to be gone a lot on weekends for my nonprofit. I am sorry I confused you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I run a nonprofit charity and weekends are always busy with events. I am home with my child five days a week and we pay our weekend nanny very well ($28 plus overtime).

Thanks to the two posters who actually answered my question.

Why did you say you're a sahm? Troll.

Oh, stop! I am A SAHM Monday thru Friday but have to be gone a lot on weekends for my nonprofit. I am sorry I confused you.

And your husband has to golf all weekend? Why did you even have kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I run a nonprofit charity and weekends are always busy with events. I am home with my child five days a week and we pay our weekend nanny very well ($28 plus overtime).

Thanks to the two posters who actually answered my question.

Why did you say you're a sahm? Troll.

Oh, stop! I am A SAHM Monday thru Friday but have to be gone a lot on weekends for my nonprofit. I am sorry I confused you.

And your husband has to golf all weekend? Why did you even have kids?

OP here. DH works with me and has to attend functions with me.

Your bitter mommies are tiresome at best.

[Anonymous]

New poster and mom here. If your current nanny is doing a good job, and your child seems generally fine with her, I would not worry about his attachment to the former nanny.

Your child can be attached to multiple caregivers and as far as I'm concerned the more love in a child's life the better.

I don't really see any need for concern in what you describe. Also, it's only been a short time and your child is young.

My kids have had 3 nannies in their 6+ years. The first one, who was with them since birth for almost 3 years, is still the one to whom they are the most attached. Their relationship w/ her is unique from the relationships they had with their other nannies - but they love and enjoy all three of them still.

If you don't have concerns about the quality of the care, or your child's overall comfort level, don't worry about different levels/types of relationships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I run a nonprofit charity and weekends are always busy with events. I am home with my child five days a week and we pay our weekend nanny very well ($28 plus overtime).

Thanks to the two posters who actually answered my question.

Why did you say you're a sahm? Troll.

Oh, stop! I am A SAHM Monday thru Friday but have to be gone a lot on weekends for my nonprofit. I am sorry I confused you.

And your husband has to golf all weekend? Why did you even have kids?

OP here. DH works with me and has to attend functions with me.

Your bitter mommies are tiresome at best.

You're neglecting your children. This is really sad. Again why did you have children?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I run a nonprofit charity and weekends are always busy with events. I am home with my child five days a week and we pay our weekend nanny very well ($28 plus overtime).

Thanks to the two posters who actually answered my question.

Why did you say you're a sahm? Troll.

Oh, stop! I am A SAHM Monday thru Friday but have to be gone a lot on weekends for my nonprofit. I am sorry I confused you.

And your husband has to golf all weekend? Why did you even have kids?

OP here. DH works with me and has to attend functions with me.

Your bitter mommies are tiresome at best.

Your dh doesn't 'have' to do anything. He should be spending more time with your children if he's not around Monday-Friday. I feel sorry for your children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I run a nonprofit charity and weekends are always busy with events. I am home with my child five days a week and we pay our weekend nanny very well ($28 plus overtime).

Thanks to the two posters who actually answered my question.

Why did you say you're a sahm? Troll.

Oh, stop! I am A SAHM Monday thru Friday but have to be gone a lot on weekends for my nonprofit. I am sorry I confused you.

And your husband has to golf all weekend? Why did you even have kids?

OP here. DH works with me and has to attend functions with me.

Your bitter mommies are tiresome at best.

You're neglecting your children. This is really sad. Again why did you have children?

She's clearly selfish. Don't engage pp. Parents like this will never understand

[Anonymous]

OP is so clueless.

[Anonymous]

Smh at some of these vicious posters who actually believe they are helping.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is so clueless.

You are insane! OP is home with her child ALL WEEK LONG and runs a CHARITY on weekends and needs a nanny for three days a week!

What is wrong with you people? This is a NANNY FORUM. Is there now something suddenly wrong with having a nanny while your work for three days out of seven?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I run a nonprofit charity and weekends are always busy with events. I am home with my child five days a week and we pay our weekend nanny very well ($28 plus overtime).

Thanks to the two posters who actually answered my question.

Why did you say you're a sahm? Troll.

Oh, stop! I am A SAHM Monday thru Friday but have to be gone a lot on weekends for my nonprofit. I am sorry I confused you.

And your husband has to golf all weekend? Why did you even have kids?

OP here. DH works with me and has to attend functions with me.

Your bitter mommies are tiresome at best.

You're neglecting your children. This is really sad. Again why did you have children?

Such bull crap! She is home with her kid all week and works on weekends. You are a bitter, stupid woman, PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS is just 3. I am a SAHM but needed sleepover nanny coverage on Friday, Saturday and Sundays. DS had a nanny from the time he was six months old until almost four months ago when we transitioned to a new nanny - a lovely, younger woman who is very sweet and gentle. He has seen his former nanny only a few times in the last three months and never for care - just to visit.

DS likes his new nanny but the bond just isn't there. He talks about his old nanny every single day and always includes her in everything we talk about (eg my mother bought a house nearby and he saw it last week - my mother showed him his room and he asked if his old nanny could have a room, too).

After nearly four months, should DS have bonded with his new nanny by now. Is it just never going to happen?

It may still happen, OP, give it time. Your former nanny just meant a great deal to him - it is wonderful that she still visits him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is so clueless.

You are insane! OP is home with her child ALL WEEK LONG and runs a CHARITY on weekends and needs a nanny for three days a week!

What is wrong with you people? This is a NANNY FORUM. Is there now something suddenly wrong with having a nanny while your work for three days out of seven?

Yes because the dh doesn't seem involved. Very sad. And what sort of non profit has events all weekend long every weekend. Bs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is so clueless.

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I feel sorry for the children. They're hurting the most.