VENT: "I know how hard your job is because we do it on weekends"

[Anonymous]

Why do you nannies have such contempt for your bosses?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't you all love it when the parents pretend they know what they're doing? Yet every Monday I get frazzled, overtired children, and a house that looks like a war-zone. Quitting day is coming soon. What else can you do? I'm done.

12.08 here. This is exactly what I get, but at least I have employers who apologize and/or give me a heads up.

Well, I guess that's something. My employers seem to think I'm their cleaning lady, even though I never signed up for that. While I generally try to be helpful, it's now become an expectation. The children are getting neglected, just so I can keep up with their mess everywhere. Enough is enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you nannies have such contempt for your bosses?

Because a lot of them are clueless and rude? Because employers don’t even see us a people half the time?

Just look at the post in this thread implying nannies aren’t adults or homeowners.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you nannies have such contempt for your bosses?

Because a lot of them are clueless and rude? Because employers don’t even see us a people half the time?

Just look at the post in this thread implying nannies aren’t adults or homeowners.

But presumably you use your weekends to take care of those types of issues, just like the parents do... but they have kids with them on the weekends, whereas (perhaps, I don't know about OP/in many cases) the nanny does not. Also, many (professional) parents also have to do carryover work from their jobs on the weekends that nannies do not. It's cute that nanny thinks every family has 2 parents and a billion family members taking care of the kids every weekend, but I think that's not remotely the case in most families that can afford a nanny and particularly in the DC area.

But there are also lots of things that parents do/challenges that parents have with their kids that nannies do not with their charges. They may be different challenges, but they are still there. I don't think it's universally true that nannies have a "harder" "job" vis-a-vis their charges during the week than parents do vis-a-vis their kids on the weekend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you nannies have such contempt for your bosses?

Because a lot of them are clueless and rude? Because employers don’t even see us a people half the time?

Just look at the post in this thread implying nannies aren’t adults or homeowners.

But presumably you use your weekends to take care of those types of issues, just like the parents do... but they have kids with them on the weekends, whereas (perhaps, I don't know about OP/in many cases) the nanny does not. Also, many (professional) parents also have to do carryover work from their jobs on the weekends that nannies do not. It's cute that nanny thinks every family has 2 parents and a billion family members taking care of the kids every weekend, but I think that's not remotely the case in most families that can afford a nanny and particularly in the DC area.

But there are also lots of things that parents do/challenges that parents have with their kids that nannies do not with their charges. They may be different challenges, but they are still there. I don't think it's universally true that nannies have a "harder" "job" vis-a-vis their charges during the week than parents do vis-a-vis their kids on the weekend.

While nothing is "universal", you clearly don't have a clue. People like you don't deserve a good nanny, so just stick with your babysitters. I seriously doubt you'd know the difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you nannies have such contempt for your bosses?

Because a lot of them are clueless and rude? Because employers don’t even see us a people half the time?

Just look at the post in this thread implying nannies aren’t adults or homeowners.

But presumably you use your weekends to take care of those types of issues, just like the parents do... but they have kids with them on the weekends, whereas (perhaps, I don't know about OP/in many cases) the nanny does not. Also, many (professional) parents also have to do carryover work from their jobs on the weekends that nannies do not. It's cute that nanny thinks every family has 2 parents and a billion family members taking care of the kids every weekend, but I think that's not remotely the case in most families that can afford a nanny and particularly in the DC area.

But there are also lots of things that parents do/challenges that parents have with their kids that nannies do not with their charges. They may be different challenges, but they are still there. I don't think it's universally true that nannies have a "harder" "job" vis-a-vis their charges during the week than parents do vis-a-vis their kids on the weekend.

I wasn’t arguing who has it harder (hint: both nannies and parents, but for different reasons)

The contempt comes from the assumptions about what our lives are like when we’re not working. And the obnoxious habit some parents have of thinking they’re more important than anyone else

[Anonymous]

Just out of curiosity, what kinds of work do your employers do that they can afford a nanny and still both have every weekend completely off?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just out of curiosity, what kinds of work do your employers do that they can afford a nanny and still both have every weekend completely off?

If they love their work, why would they want to be "completely off" for two days?

[Anonymous]

Those parents are disgusting. OP pleass leave that job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you like me to list all the things adult homeowners and parents who are only home on the weekends do all day while watching children who are out of their regular routine?

They are right; the job is different on the weekends, but it is still hard. Take the compliment.

Wow. Just wow. So you think that nannies are not adults, homeowners or parents?!

I have no words for your particular type of stupidity.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I don't think the comment you are venting about was meant in anything but a complimentary way. Sometimes people just don't know the right way to say things, but unless they said this with some sort of attitude, I think you mistook it.

And, sure, weekends are the time working people, including nannies, get to do their other "job," taking care of their own homes and families. Except for people with with super flexible employers, weekends are packed for just about everyone!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Employers said this to me. I don't know why it bugged me but it did.

First, there are TWO of you on weekends - there is just one of me during the week.
Second, you do not do the child's laundry, clean toys, clean her playroom, or shop for her food - I do all that during the week. You do not take her to daily classes on weekends.
Third, you do not do all the ordering and shopping for the house. You are never out of toilet paper, laundry detergent, etc.
Fourth, you do not have to juggle your schedule around deliveries and service people or keep track of the petty cash to make sure I can pay them. You have no play-dates or play-groups on weekends.
Fifth, you have in-laws and parents to help on weekends - I keep your child engaged, occupied and learning by myself all day.

I am happy in my job and love being a nanny but for some reason this really bugged me yesterday. I won't say anything and there is no resolve - just a vent.

Thanks!

They really don't have a clue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would you like me to list all the things adult homeowners and parents who are only home on the weekends do all day while watching children who are out of their regular routine?

They are right; the job is different on the weekends, but it is still hard. Take the compliment.

Wow. Just wow. So you think that nannies are not adults, homeowners or parents?!

I have no words for your particular type of stupidity.

+ 1.

[Anonymous]

I hope your MB sees this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you nannies have such contempt for your bosses?

Apparently because the employers think nannies are not adults, homeowners or parents.