VENT: "I know how hard your job is because we do it on weekends"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No employer should make fun like that to a caregiver. Its not respectful.
Its like letting a man harass sexually to a woman and she just needs to take it? Nope.

You’re... um, special.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Part of the issue is that many nannies also help to manage the home. So the groceries have been bought, the laundry has been done, the kids needs have been provided for, and yes, the parents do have weekend things to do, but they have less on their plate, thanks to their nannies, than the nannies themselves have on their to-do lists every weekend.

tl:dr? Parents have very little child related grunt work to do on the weekends because nanny has done that work already. Therefore, tolerance for parental complaints is low.

Here's the problem - not all nannies are the same. There was a whole thread about nannies who would refuse to do laundry for the child they were nannying. Obviously OP is different, but to group all parents or all nannies into a single category is ridiculous.

For what it's worth, my nanny has sometimes said things that have rubbed me the wrong way. I'm sure I've done the same to her. Sometimes someone will mention it, sometimes we let it go. OP, you are fine to vent, but I think you are taking the comment the wrong way. And I'd watch yourself before continuing to complain about your bosses. If I found out my nanny had that kind of contempt for me I'd find someone else. I don't need her to think I walk on water, because I'm human, but there better be respect going both ways.

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Anonymous wrote:So many angry and embittered nannies. You resent your employees who work though of course their paycheck ensures you get paid.

Yes, being a nanny is a tough job, but you’re not a hero and presumably you’re in the job by choice. And you also presumably realize that people hire nannies because they work and yet you insult working parents as somehow less equipped than you are. Who is watching your kids while you work? Are you a lesser parent?

If you despise the job so much - do something else.

Oh, stop, Drama Queen! OP made it clear that she loved her job but was venting about one irritating comment.

Untwist your panties.

- an MB

An entire thread devoted to a nanny who has her panties in a twist because her MB made an innocent comment acknowledging her hard work and you’re suggesting the PP untwists her panties? You and your sanctimony.

Sanctimony?! You are such a DCUM parrot. You don't even know what the word means. And look up "vent" while you're at it.

I do know what sanctimony means and if you knew what it meant you’d recognize your own. As for venting - there’s venting and and there’s whining and being unnecessarily judgemental all for the sake of some victimhood that the OP and some others are trying to achieve. If you’re so damn talented find another job rather than “putting up with” your boss innocently acknowledging your job is tough. They work outside the home and that gets you you’re paycheck. Be supportive instead of nasty and undermining.

Wow. I feel sorry for anyone near you today.

More high drama from you and your sockpuppet. Tiresome at best. I made it clear that I am an employer of a nanny and not a nanny. Not surprised at all that you missed that.

The nanny has a right to vent. That was a thoughtless (in the true sense of the word) comment given OP's responsibilities as a nanny.

It wasn't thoughtless and if the nanny is so sensitive, maybe she should find another career. Or find another employer. The contempt for employers on this forum is pretty spectacular. No wonder all these stories of nannies abusing their charges - you can see how vicious and entitled so many are from this forum.

Oh shut up! You lost this argument so now you want to accuse nannies of abusing children? You are truly pathetic, PP. Stop embarrassing yourself and get off the internet for awhile.

Shut up? Is that the best you can do in response to the assertion that some
posters exemplify viciousness and entitlement ... and in your case immaturity. Hope you’re able to contain your hostility around your kids. Kids really pick up on that as you likely know.

Yes, PP, shut up. You have humiliated yourself enough. I understand you are embarrassed but confusing this is making you look more pathetic. Go outside and get some air.

You’re hysterics and 5th grade comebacks keep getting better and better. I do hope you don’t have children in your care ....

Well at least we know which posts are yours. You're = you are. Your = belongs to you. You're welcome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No employer should make fun like that to a caregiver. Its not respectful.
Its like letting a man harass sexually to a woman and she just needs to take it? Nope.

GO HOME.

[Anonymous]

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For what it's worth, my nanny has sometimes said things that have rubbed me the wrong way. I'm sure I've done the same to her. Sometimes someone will mention it, sometimes we let it go. OP, you are fine to vent, but I think you are taking the comment the wrong way. And I'd watch yourself before continuing to complain about your bosses. If I found out my nanny had that kind of contempt for me I'd find someone else. I don't need her to think I walk on water, because I'm human, but there better be respect going both ways.

I try to assume that my bosses mean things in a nicer way than sometimes my mood filters in through and I'm sure I've said things that came out wrong as well.

I think only once in my decade long nanny career did I feel insulted and horrified by a comment, but my MB said she'd kill herself if she had my job. Yikes.

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I only read OP and I skipped the rest of the responses but I have to say...
I totally know what you are saying but only as MB!
I had this loser nanny who sat on her butt all day. She was at best a babysitter who was there to call 911 if kids got hurt.

She acts like she knows it all. How to raise kids, what my kids need (more chores so she can sit some more on her butt) what it's like being me, having a job and having no personal time.

It drove me mad. She was not young and not at an age where just didn't know better either.

I ordered the toilet paper, organized the kids calendar and did everything on the weekend. She complained the once a week drive to activities was too much (which she got paid extra for gas etc) and wanted a raise.

She's finally gone but still so sick of her I have to vent here.

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For what it's worth, my nanny has sometimes said things that have rubbed me the wrong way. I'm sure I've done the same to her. Sometimes someone will mention it, sometimes we let it go. OP, you are fine to vent, but I think you are taking the comment the wrong way. And I'd watch yourself before continuing to complain about your bosses. If I found out my nanny had that kind of contempt for me I'd find someone else. I don't need her to think I walk on water, because I'm human, but there better be respect going both ways.

I try to assume that my bosses mean things in a nicer way than sometimes my mood filters in through and I'm sure I've said things that came out wrong as well.

I think only once in my decade long nanny career did I feel insulted and horrified by a comment, but my MB said she'd kill herself if she had my job. Yikes.

If it makes you feel any better, she might have actually meant that as a compliment. My best friend is a teacher - she has young kids to deal with all day in her class and tons of parent problems. I would HATE her job. But I'm super impressed that she does it and does it well. I've had people say they would hate my job (very technical and nerdy, involving a lot of research and writing) but they're impressed that I'm good at it (because they would not be). So I don't think she meant it like she would kill herself if she had your life, but she's just acknowledging that you do something she would not be able to do. She said it wrong, but might have still meant it nicely.

[Anonymous]

Most parents are lazy at parenting. Then they complain about thier spoiled brats haha.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isn't that why they pay you?

They don’t pay her to talk down to her and minimize her jobs difficulties.