My employers travel too much

[Anonymous]

To the sanctimommy poster:

Theae HNW families are not typically traveling constantly just for fun. My NF has one parent who travels 2-3 times a month for 2-3 days each time. The othwr travels one week at a time about once a month. All of it is work-related and mandatory for their jobs. Their options are to leave the kids home with the nanny and their spouse (who also works long and unpredicatble hours), or to take the kids along and explore the world with their kids in the evenings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the sanctimommy poster:

Theae HNW families are not typically traveling constantly just for fun. My NF has one parent who travels 2-3 times a month for 2-3 days each time. The othwr travels one week at a time about once a month. All of it is work-related and mandatory for their jobs. Their options are to leave the kids home with the nanny and their spouse (who also works long and unpredicatble hours), or to take the kids along and explore the world with their kids in the evenings.

Although we are not wealthy, high profile people... Our lovely nanny works four days a week and our child is with me and DH the rest of the days and of course all nights. I nursed for 1.5 years and pumped. I am a very hands-on mother and am very close to my child. On vacations, our child shares a room with nanny and DH and I get night-time couple time and a chance to sleep in while nanny takes our child to do something fun. And then we all have lunch together and DH and I take our child for the afternoon.

I love my husband and honor our marriage - and that takes stress-free holidays and alone time. Thank God for our nanny.

I know this is not a vacation for nanny and we pay her accordingly. She does is a huge service.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah that must suck to get to travel around and not have to pay for the ticket/room and board/meals.

How awful

Actually it does suck. Being with a toddler day and night is not conducive to sight-seeing or relaxing. I am working harder than I do at home and it is NOT my vacation - it is my employers. She is out of her element and routine. Last month when we were in London, she insisted on sleeping in bed with me - which meant that I had to go to bed at her bedtime so she wouldn't fall out of bed. Then, because she was scared of the shadows in the room, she had to sleep on top of me every time she woke up. When we were in Costa Rica in March, the baby got a raging ear infection.

It is not fun. Trust me.

As a mom, this is so sad to me. I'm the first name my boys call out when scared. Im the person they come to when they think monsters are in their room and Id never dream of bringing our nanny on vacation because i look forward to being alone and connecting with my family. To me that's thr actual POINT of travel.

Without a nanny, the time away is a trip and not a vacation. With a nanny, DH and I get a true vacation (sleeping late, going out at night - couple time) while spending the time with our DD. DD is so comfortable and secure with nanny, that she would be comforted by nanny holding her if she woke up. Chasing monsters out of her room is my job every night we are home - nanny handles it when we are on vacation.

I bet your kid when given the choice (like on vacation) turns to the nanny first for comfort. Not unusual for people who outsource their parenting, just an observation.

Oh, stop. You are being so ridiculous and jealous. My kids do not turn to the nanny first and we are not "outsourcing" parenting by taking her on vacation with us! I don't know if you are a troll or just in a miserable marriage and don't want alone time with your husband. Regardless, your post is laughable.

[Anonymous]

I remember this thread and pulled it back up because I am now in the same position - my new employers travel too much. Right now we are in Hawaii - which sound like heaven but I have a 3 yr old and a 1 year old in my bed and haven't been away from them for the last 72 hours - not for a second. They sit and watch me when I shower and use the toilet!

It's beautiful - I don't have to cook for the kids since we have every meal in the resort dining room; they have a nice playroom here and of course a pool and a magnificent beach. But honestly I would rather be home with our usual routine and me going home alone at night!!

Now I have been informed that we are going to Santa Barbara, California for New Year's week. Ugh...

[Anonymous]

Traveling around the holidays as a nanny is tough. We leave for London on Tuesday and I really don't want to go. But it is part of my job.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I am leaving for Honolulu tomorrow morning. I really don't want to go either - it is so much work without a real break from my charge (who is adorable but exhausting). Can't wait to be home again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah that must suck to get to travel around and not have to pay for the ticket/room and board/meals.

How awful

You could be in a high end resort but if you're stuck in a hotel room and working the whole time it totally sucks. Might as well be sitting at home.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah that must suck to get to travel around and not have to pay for the ticket/room and board/meals.

How awful

You could be in a high end resort but if you're stuck in a hotel room and working the whole time it totally sucks. Might as well be sitting at home.

At home is better for nanny and kids if they aren't allowed to be away from the hotel room for meals and naps. I'd rather be on with kids at home for 7 days and nights while parents travel. At least I know what activities work with the nap, meal and bedtime schedule, and the kids have the familiarity of home, with no tantrums because they know parents are there but not visible.

[Anonymous]

I dislike traveling as a nanny, too. I am well paid for travel days but still would rather be home or traveling on my own! Even "paradise" is 4x the work with a toddler charge.