Nanny playdates

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP w/all due respect, I find it a little odd(ish) that part of your Nanny's responsibilities is for her to meet other Nannies & schedule play dates.

I would think that this duty would be entirely yours since you are the parent in this situation.

I am a Nanny and have NEVER been asked to do this. Ever.

Do you live in a place with lots of walkable parks? When we did, my nanny did this all the time. They'd meet at the park, and then start setting up times to meet at each other's NF houses.

Now that we don't, it's not as easy, because the playdates would be all spread out all over town.

Different poster. My nanny has done this, but I'd never *require* her to do it. Like, it's her fault if she doesn't find your kid friends? Even though you can't find your kid friends? That's weird.

I agree w/this completely.
It is kind of odd to expect your Nanny or even require her to meet other people in the area,
create friendships, then actually ask strangers if they would be willing & able to coordinate a future
play date w/her.

This is a weird job requirement.
Will you be paying her a commission for each successful play date
appointment?

[Anonymous]

Maybe no one likes your daughter because she is a brat. Your nanny called not force anyone to have a playdate!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP w/all due respect, I find it a little odd(ish) that part of your Nanny's responsibilities is for her to meet other Nannies & schedule play dates.

I would think that this duty would be entirely yours since you are the parent in this situation.

I am a Nanny and have NEVER been asked to do this. Ever.

Do you live in a place with lots of walkable parks? When we did, my nanny did this all the time. They'd meet at the park, and then start setting up times to meet at each other's NF houses.

Now that we don't, it's not as easy, because the playdates would be all spread out all over town.

Different poster. My nanny has done this, but I'd never *require* her to do it. Like, it's her fault if she doesn't find your kid friends? Even though you can't find your kid friends? That's weird.

I agree w/this completely.
It is kind of odd to expect your Nanny or even require her to meet other people in the area,
create friendships, then actually ask strangers if they would be willing & able to coordinate a future
play date w/her.

This is a weird job requirement.
Will you be paying her a commission for each successful play date
appointment?

No it isn't. Not in communities with lots of parks where people meet naturally, and where there are lots of nannies and similar-aged children. However, you need to pick a nanny who likes to be social in the first place.

[Anonymous]

This is OP. I guess it depends on where you live, but where we live, it is totally normal for a nanny to find her own playdates. But like a PP said, you have to find a nanny who is social. Our last nanny was lovely, but not very social (which I didn't realize until after she'd been with us for a while) so I didn't ask her to find playdates. One thing I looked for in our next (current) nanny was that she was outgoing for this reason, which our nanny is. I asked DD's nanny today about playdates and she said now that the weather is nice, she will try to find more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I guess it depends on where you live, but where we live, it is totally normal for a nanny to find her own playdates. But like a PP said, you have to find a nanny who is social. Our last nanny was lovely, but not very social (which I didn't realize until after she'd been with us for a while) so I didn't ask her to find playdates. One thing I looked for in our next (current) nanny was that she was outgoing for this reason, which our nanny is. I asked DD's nanny today about playdates and she said now that the weather is nice, she will try to find more.

I just fundamentally disagree. We live on the Hill. It's exactly the sort of place you describe. It would still be incredibly weird for me to require our nanny to find playdates. I guarantee you that most nannies don't have "finding playdates" in their required job descriptions. At most, it's something mentioned as a "it would be great if..." If it was SO easy to find playdates, you'd find them yourself. You yourself mentioned that you work PT.