Nanny obsessed with phone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much is she actually being paid?

Why would this matter ?

Because at times you do get what you pay for. If I were well compensated and happy in my position I wouldn't be on the phone all day.

This is extremely unprofessional behavior. Most of us have jobs which we weren't happy and/or well-compensated, but we did our jobs well anyway.

[Anonymous]

I think you need to simply address the phone issue & let her know how unhappy you are with the amount of time she uses it.

By trying to encourage a schedule for her + your child, you somehow skirted around the real issue vs. dealing with it head-on.

In her mind she thinks you and your husband are okay with her on-the-job phone usage.

If she refuses to limit her phone usage, then yes....Begin looking for a new Nanny.

Your child deserves only the best, nothing short of that.

I strongly recommend next time that you seek an older Nanny.
Mature nannies do not engage on their phones/social media as much as their younger counterparts.

GL.

[Anonymous]

I strongly discourage you putting a child that age in a daycare situation since he will get LESS individual attention.

Daycare is usually where a young child goes when a Nanny is out of the family's budget.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I strongly discourage you putting a child that age in a daycare situation since he will get LESS individual attention.

Daycare is usually where a young child goes when a Nanny is out of the family's budget.

Maybe, but he'll get a lot more human interaction since at least the kids won't be on the phone!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I strongly discourage you putting a child that age in a daycare situation since he will get LESS individual attention.

Daycare is usually where a young child goes when a Nanny is out of the family's budget.

Maybe, but he'll get a lot more human interaction since at least the kids won't be on the phone!

Who cares about interaction at ten months....???!

They need one-on-one personalized individual care at that age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I strongly discourage you putting a child that age in a daycare situation since he will get LESS individual attention.

Daycare is usually where a young child goes when a Nanny is out of the family's budget.

Maybe, but he'll get a lot more human interaction since at least the kids won't be on the phone!

Who cares about interaction at ten months....???!

They need one-on-one personalized individual care at that age.

He is crawling, pulling up, probably cruising, learning to talk ... If his nanny is not engaging him at all, he needs another caregiver. And my younger children loved the interaction with their older siblings from the beginning. The younger ones were so much more social than my oldest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you need to simply address the phone issue & let her know how unhappy you are with the amount of time she uses it.

By trying to encourage a schedule for her + your child, you somehow skirted around the real issue vs. dealing with it head-on.

In her mind she thinks you and your husband are okay with her on-the-job phone usage.

If she refuses to limit her phone usage, then yes....Begin looking for a new Nanny.

Your child deserves only the best, nothing short of that.

I strongly recommend next time that you seek an older Nanny.
Mature nannies do not engage on their phones/social media as much as their younger counterparts.

GL.

Thanks. She is an older nanny. She's in her 60's and completely social media savy as well. I thought she'd be the opposite but that's certainly not the case.
My husband is hesitant to address this because she came highly recommended from a family member and she will be leaving soon and he doesn't want this to end badly. I don't really care about that I'm more concerned about my sons safety. We have begun looking for another nanny. I do not like daycare at this age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I strongly discourage you putting a child that age in a daycare situation since he will get LESS individual attention.

Daycare is usually where a young child goes when a Nanny is out of the family's budget.

Maybe, but he'll get a lot more human interaction since at least the kids won't be on the phone!

Who cares about interaction at ten months....???!

They need one-on-one personalized individual care at that age.

He is crawling, pulling up, probably cruising, learning to talk ... If his nanny is not engaging him at all, he needs another caregiver. And my younger children loved the interaction with their older siblings from the beginning. The younger ones were so much more social than my oldest.

Yes this is my point exactly. He needs the attention at this critical stage.

[Anonymous]

I would be concerned with safety. This is too much distraction. Does she drive your child? I would absolutely not trust her to drive. What are you doing in January for childcare? Do that sooner.. Find a temp person through an agency... Do something before the distractions turn into an accident.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much is she actually being paid?

Why would this matter ?

Because at times you do get what you pay for. If I were well compensated and happy in my position I wouldn't be on the phone all day.

This is extremely unprofessional behavior. Most of us have jobs which we weren't happy and/or well-compensated, but we did our jobs well anyway.

It is a valid point. Many people enter the childcare profession because they think it is an easy job. They are not qualified nor do hey act professional. But you can hire them far cheaper than you can hire someone well qualified and experienced.

[Anonymous]

Don't be gentle, that isn't working.

Tell her that she can only use her phone while baby is napping. If she continues to use it at other times she will be terminated with two weeks' severance. Have back up care lined up.

I would be okay with the odd text even when baby isn't napping. But not all day.

[Anonymous]

Always hire older nannies. They are drama-free and are not attached to their phone. Trust me on this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Always hire older nannies. They are drama-free and are not attached to their phone. Trust me on this.

Uh.... Older than 60? I am 25 and not attached to my phone, nor was I at 25.

[Anonymous]

I always wonder how the nannies at the park have so many friends and family members with time to talk to them. All my friend and family are working and don't have time to chit chat, even the ones in home country.
You shouldn't have to address it. Get a new nanny.

[Anonymous]

Change your wifi password? I am guessing she is using that for the chats to keep her bill in check.