Accidentally forwarded email from MB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here- I already contacted the weekend family and they have put together a better package that my current family is offering. In two months I would have been with my job 5 years. I just feel kind of numb. I would understand the email if I had done something wrong, but I haven't done anything except go above and beyond. I don't call in sick, I'm always on time, don't use my phone, work overtime anytime, always come in on weekends, and help maintain the home when the housekeep isn't there just to be nice. I'm well paid, but more important that money I want to feel valued and appreciated. After I talk to weekend family, I'm going to speak to my current employers. I cried the whole drive home from work. I'm going to really miss the kids and this job I thought I loved. I am just devastated but I can't forget what they said.

These are not examples of going above and beyond. If you get paid for overtime and weekends, then that's a business decision.

[Anonymous]

OP here- Grandma was actually saying nice things about me. That I was a good role model, she was happy I was in their lives, the kids were so lucky etc. It was my MB who basically acted like I had done zero to help the kids, it was nature vs nature and if anyone was a good role model it was her, I was just a warm body in the house (for 60-70 hours a week but whatever) etc. I can't forget that. I was worried at first about posting details, but I've already decided to leave.

[Anonymous]

Guveca MAXIMUM of two weeks notice. That is all. No explanation, no regrets. Just leave. To help with them.

[Anonymous]

^^give a maximum

[Anonymous]

This is why nannies as a group are so underpaid. Who cares if your employer doesn't gosh about you being the most incredible thing that ever happened to their family? Do they pay you well? Do they treat you with respect? Do they provide good working conditions? They support you and give you the things that you need to do your job well? Do they provide benefits you need to live your life well outside of work?

If they are doing all of that, and they are doing their job as employers and you can decide to quit because you got a better offer or you can decide to stay because this is the best job you can get in terms of benefits pay and working conditions. But quitting a job that you claim to have loved until yesterday because your boss hurt your feelings is a flat out stupid decision. Either you already didn't like this job and we're staying for emotional reasons, which is a bad business decision, or this is a great job and you are quitting for emotional reasons, which is a bad business decision. Quit because you got a better offer, not because somebody made you sad.

[Anonymous]

^^ Or quit because you no longer respect your MB. Fixed that for you, know it all PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^ Or quit because you no longer respect your MB. Fixed that for you, know it all PP.

Another example of a pitiful parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: This is why nannies as a group are so underpaid. Who cares if your employer doesn't gosh about you being the most incredible thing that ever happened to their family? Do they pay you well? Do they treat you with respect? Do they provide good working conditions? They support you and give you the things that you need to do your job well? Do they provide benefits you need to live your life well outside of work?

If they are doing all of that, and they are doing their job as employers and you can decide to quit because you got a better offer or you can decide to stay because this is the best job you can get in terms of benefits pay and working conditions. But quitting a job that you claim to have loved until yesterday because your boss hurt your feelings is a flat out stupid decision. Either you already didn't like this job and we're staying for emotional reasons, which is a bad business decision, or this is a great job and you are quitting for emotional reasons, which is a bad business decision. Quit because you got a better offer, not because somebody made you sad.

Jesus. Thank you! Former nanny here...again we see the paradoxical DCUM Nanny argument that one wants to be treated like a professional but they get butt hurt and quit the second they are not the most cherished person in their employer's life. Guess what, you do a JOB, regardless of what it is. There are plenty of occupations that are just as meaningful, intimate, and (frankly more) important than nannying. You aren't a special group deserving of a place in the family photo album AND bonuss marking every birthday, holiday, and "nannyversary". If you want to be treated as professionals, as a group, grow the F up and act like one. Until that happens, it will continue to be a profession that is looked down upon as a whole and you will continue to be under-appreciated and under-compensated.

[Anonymous]

OP is sharing a LOT of details for someone afraid her MB is on here...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is sharing a LOT of details for someone afraid her MB is on here...

Now that she's accepted a much better job offer, who cares? You? Are you that ruthless parent?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^ Or quit because you no longer respect your MB. Fixed that for you, know it all PP.

If you are quitting a job because you don't respect your boss, then that is a stupid reason. It is fine to weigh that in as a factor, but if you love everything else about your job and don't respect your boss, then there is absolutely no reason why you should quit. Professionals don't need to have respect for their boss because they can deal with their own feelings rather than meeting there employer to provide emotional stability for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is sharing a LOT of details for someone afraid her MB is on here...

Now that she's accepted a much better job offer, who cares? You? Are you that ruthless parent?

Again, the problem is that she is being unprofessional and foolhardy. If she worked for this family for five years, she has a reference. Even if she has other good references, it is going to hurt her career to have a family that she worked for for five years unwilling to provide a solid reference. Bad mouthing her employer online puts her in the position of potentially missing out on other great job down the road because she has a spotty employment record. If she could keep her shit together and quit this job gracefully, she could have both a new job that she feels is better and an excellent reference from the family who has employed her for the last five years. Be a grown-up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here- it was pretty obvious it was accidental. They were talking about me. It wasn't awful, but it was just very obvious that my role in the kids life wasn't important to them. I didn't think of myself as part of the family, I just thought they values me. The email was basically meh, they could take it of leave it about me. Don't want to get into specifics in case MB is on here.

How many other MBs are going to send their nanny a negative email about her accidentally. If she's on here she already knows it's you...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here- it was pretty obvious it was accidental. They were talking about me. It wasn't awful, but it was just very obvious that my role in the kids life wasn't important to them. I didn't think of myself as part of the family, I just thought they values me. The email was basically meh, they could take it of leave it about me. Don't want to get into specifics in case MB is on here.

How many other MBs are going to send their nanny a negative email about her accidentally. If she's on here she already knows it's you...

Good. Hope the ungrateful parent learns her lesson and won't repeat it with the next nanny.

[Anonymous]

Op here- Weekend family agreed to wait 4 weeks, so I gave a months notice today. Did not specify why I am leaving. MB was angry, DB was sad and said he will write me a glowing reference. I've been babysitting for weekend family for several years, so I know them already and it will be a good fit. Pay increase, more benefits and vacation. Sorry to disappoint the angry nannies on here that called me unprofessional, but I quit very professionally. I can't work for someone who doesn't respect me as a person or value my contribution. Maybe you can, but you'd probably be miserable in your job (hence the reason you come on this board regularly to spew venom and awful comments).