How to end nanny share but keep the nanny?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think I would claim you need more flexibility with a full time nanny so are dropping out - she likely won't want a full time nanny so she'll let go of nanny - and you can grab her. Dropping out is one thing - but trying to take nanny is going to be ugly unless she concedes her to you. (Yes I realize nanny doesn't like them so may quit).
I don't have an issue with a mom calling her ped about an illness exposure. It happens all.the.time in preschool. Larla has hand food mouth and came back with lesions can marlo catch it?? Maybe you need the same illness provisions in contract they schools have - no vomiting and no fever for 24 hours and that's it

Do you have a provision for a single child rate, though? If so, the nanny could be stuck per the contract with the lower rate for family B.

It sounds like OP wants to start a different share with the same nanny, so the nanny should only have a few months, maybe a month or two, before she's back at the share rate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think I would claim you need more flexibility with a full time nanny so are dropping out - she likely won't want a full time nanny so she'll let go of nanny - and you can grab her. Dropping out is one thing - but trying to take nanny is going to be ugly unless she concedes her to you. (Yes I realize nanny doesn't like them so may quit).
I don't have an issue with a mom calling her ped about an illness exposure. It happens all.the.time in preschool. Larla has hand food mouth and came back with lesions can marlo catch it?? Maybe you need the same illness provisions in contract they schools have - no vomiting and no fever for 24 hours and that's it

Do you have a provision for a single child rate, though? If so, the nanny could be stuck per the contract with the lower rate for family B.

It sounds like OP wants to start a different share with the same nanny, so the nanny should only have a few months, maybe a month or two, before she's back at the share rate.

My point was that if she takes the PP's suggestion of bowing out of the share in the hopes the other family won't want to pay the nanny's full time rate, that may backfire on her. They need to be honest, in the least disruptive, kindest way possible.

[Anonymous]

I've had individual families offer me the same rate if I agreed to care for just their child.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Our nanny would be fine going back to our single child rate that we paid previously and even said she'd work at the rate we currently pay her as she'd rather make less money and be happy at work. I wouldn't feel comfortable paying her the current rate, I'd want to go back to the original single child rate, as I don't want to take advantage of her. I do not want to do another nanny share. As mentioned in an earlier response, I want the flexibility afforded by having our own nanny. For us, the cost savings isn't worth it if I'm forced to spend my vacation days staying home when my daughter isn't sick. Thanks for all the responses and advice.