Abusive child

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old is the child, OP? What happened when you talked to the parents?

Irrelevant. She needs to get out.

So, you assume that a 1 year old doing this and a 10 year old doing this are the same thing? By saying that the age irrelevant, that's exactly what you are saying.

[Anonymous]

The child is 4 and the parents do not believe in any discipline. There are no punishment and the dad laughed. I have a bruise on my face two days later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The child is 4 and the parents do not believe in any discipline. There are no punishment and the dad laughed. I have a bruise on my face two days later.

That the child is old enough to be taught makes a huge difference. If the family doesn't believe in discipline, there's nothing you can do for the child, but you have to protect yourself. Document, line up another position, then quit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old is the child, OP? What happened when you talked to the parents?

Irrelevant. She needs to get out.

So, you assume that a 1 year old doing this and a 10 year old doing this are the same thing? By saying that the age irrelevant, that's exactly what you are saying.

How many one year olds do you know who hit you in the face and kick you in the head?

I stand by my statement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The child is 4 and the parents do not believe in any discipline. There are no punishment and the dad laughed. I have a bruise on my face two days later.

Can you afford to quit now while you look for another job? Laughing as the parent's response is almost more worrying than the child's actions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old is the child, OP? What happened when you talked to the parents?

Irrelevant. She needs to get out.

So, you assume that a 1 year old doing this and a 10 year old doing this are the same thing? By saying that the age irrelevant, that's exactly what you are saying.

How many one year olds do you know who hit you in the face and kick you in the head?

I stand by my statement.

I play on the floor with kids everyday, so it's happened frequently. The difference is that when toddlers are climbing all over me and using me as part of the obstacle course, they don't intend to hurt me, and a gentle reminder that my face is not a step usually works.

A 10 year old would not be playing in the same way, nor would I accept the same behavior as age-appropriate (although not acceptable).

[Anonymous]

Playing on the floor with children is completely different. A 4 year old should not be punching or kicking anyone. And a dad laughing at the nanny sounds awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you do when the child you nanny for hits you in the face and kicks you in the head? The parents don't seem to be taking it serious.

You document, then quit for cause, apply/collect unemployment whikebyiu look for new job with kid(s) who are not sociopaths.

How would this work? If you document it..?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you do when the child you nanny for hits you in the face and kicks you in the head? The parents don't seem to be taking it serious.

You document, then quit for cause, apply/collect unemployment whikebyiu look for new job with kid(s) who are not sociopaths.

How would this work? If you document it..?

Pictures of any redness or bruising, documentation from a doctor's visit that occurs after the child acts out, etc. Personally, I would also email the parent about the issue, so that there is written documentation, and I would make sure to raise that I would need to know how to proceed with the child.

But as we've said, line up another position, document in the meantime, then quit. No notice.

[Anonymous]

Did you quit yet?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Playing on the floor with children is completely different. A 4 year old should not be punching or kicking anyone. And a dad laughing at the nanny sounds awful.

I've had a 4 year old accidentally kick me in the face. But the key was that it was an accident, which is why I asked about the child's age and the situation. No matter what, the parent laughing is unacceptable.

[Anonymous]

I have not left yet. I'm trying to have something line up so I do not get screwed. Although he did punch me again yesterday. It's very frustrating not being able to even take a toy away or sending him to his room.