How To Resign. What qualifies as cause?

[Anonymous]

Since the grandparents are there for childcare already I would quit today after your off work .

[Anonymous]

Honestly I don't think it's going to matter if you give 6 weeks or not; either MB will give you a good rec or not. Either way you are making life tough for her. Give her 1 week's notice and get out.

[Anonymous]

This is one of the silliest nanny complaints I have ever seen such consensus around; dealing with annoying co-workers, challenging boss/co-worker dynamics, etc, is part of any job. Be happy it is only six weeks.

[Anonymous]

Can't you wait out the 4 more weeks? MBs maternity leave with #2 was absolute hell. But I lasted the 8 months and glad I did because once she went back to work everything went back to normal. It's been 4 years since, so glad I didn't quit.

[Anonymous]

I got in a huge fight with the grandma and Mb backed me up. Grandma hasn't been back for 2 years. Now she has to stay in a hotel and only sees the kids on weekends with the parents. Grandma was totally in the wrong, but really appreciated my boss standing up for me. I've been with the family long term so maybe that was the difference, but I feel very respected and valued.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is one of the silliest nanny complaints I have ever seen such consensus around; dealing with annoying co-workers, challenging boss/co-worker dynamics, etc, is part of any job. Be happy it is only six weeks.

Nannies don't have coworkers. If we wanted coworkers, we'd work an office job like you. Nanny jobs are by nature are temporary and your situation can change any day. I see no reason to deal with unnecessary crap when they could very well let you go tomorrow so Grandma can watch the kids, and finding another nanny job isn't hard. Life is too short to spend your days miserable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would send her an email or text confirming what she told you, e.g., that grandmother's rules are now in place not the rules you and MB agreed to in your contract. She has breached contract and this is valid reason for quitting.

Changing your mind about how you want your children raised is not a breach of contract.

However, I am a nanny and would never put up with the crap OPs has been forced to take from a third party.

My advice is to simply resign without reason and fulfill your contract.

Are you confused? The contract never said nanny will obey grandma.

Are you confused, Angel? OP's MB is siding with Grandma. Read the post again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is one of the silliest nanny complaints I have ever seen such consensus around; dealing with annoying co-workers, challenging boss/co-worker dynamics, etc, is part of any job. Be happy it is only six weeks.

So you would put up with this from a co-workers mother who was visiting?! LOL Get real, Lady. Visiting Grandma is NOT a co-worker.

[Anonymous]

I don't know about other nannies, but my contracts always specify who my charges are and who my employers are. All employers sign the contract, and we agree that only the parties who sign are to be giving instructions. We also agree that schedules, methods and other minutiae of raising children will be discussed and agreed to in writing. If grandparents aren't going to agree to the contract and sign, then no, I am not going to stick around if the parents decide that grandparents are going to change everything.

[Anonymous]

Considering the circumstances, I would need to re-sign as well.

You did the right thing here, you approached your bosses & discussed the issue w/them while asking for their assistance in rectifying the problem.

They in return did nothing to help you out.

So yes, the only other option that exists is for you to leave.

While the contract states you are obligated to give them a six-week notice, I find that problematic.

Basically you will need to endure this Grandmother for another month + 1/2. That is unfair.

I would give 2-3 weeks notice, it's not like they can sue you in a court of law over this.

However as in many cases, don't be caught off guard if they let you go immediately. Just make sure you are paid in full before you leave.

If you think you will need them as a reference, you most likely won't get one from them, esp. if you leave sooner rather than later. Even if you DID wait another six weeks, I highly doubt you would get one even then.

I would tell them diplomatically that having the Grandmother around daily just ended up making your job tougher to do. Let them know you harbor no hard feelings toward her, it's just that you prefer to work w/complete autonomy since that is how you work best.

Good luck w/everything.