Nanny was rude to my child.

[Anonymous]

Wow, the posts here are ridiculous.

OP, I would be frustrated too because the nanny totally waded into something that isn't her job - helping your DD transition into life as an older sibling. I'm not sure if I would call it rude, but it was overstepping.

You know whether your DD needs to work on manners/not interrupting - if so, fine, and you can work on it. Don't listen to the mean people here who act like its a crime for an excited 5 year old to want to talk to her mom when she gets home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, the posts here are ridiculous.

OP, I would be frustrated too because the nanny totally waded into something that isn't her job - helping your DD transition into life as an older sibling. I'm not sure if I would call it rude, but it was overstepping.

You know whether your DD needs to work on manners/not interrupting - if so, fine, and you can work on it. Don't listen to the mean people here who act like its a crime for an excited 5 year old to want to talk to her mom when she gets home.

OP said her child ALWAYS interrupts. It was one of the first sentences of her post.

And yes, a nanny's job is absolutely to help the child transition into any change in his/her life!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, the posts here are ridiculous.

OP, I would be frustrated too because the nanny totally waded into something that isn't her job - helping your DD transition into life as an older sibling. I'm not sure if I would call it rude, but it was overstepping.

You know whether your DD needs to work on manners/not interrupting - if so, fine, and you can work on it. Don't listen to the mean people here who act like its a crime for an excited 5 year old to want to talk to her mom when she gets home.

OP said her child ALWAYS interrupts. It was one of the first sentences of her post.

And yes, a nanny's job is absolutely to help the child transition into any change in his/her life!

+1

1) If you don't want or trust your nanny to help your child through life transitions, you don't want a nanny. The child's safety and physical and emotional development are our primary responsibilities. Preparing a spoiled older sibling for the notion of sharing attention is very much related to their emotional development!

2) OP says her child ALWAYS interrupts. Nanny tries to tell her MB about the day but child keeps interrupting, and mom doesn't correct her so nanny is forced to. The child needs to learn boundaries, and nanny is subtly trying to convey that to the clueless mother. An excited string of babble and a hug, followed by "now mommy is going to talk with ms. Poppins before we make dinner/look at your drawing/read stories" is normal. Constantly interjecting during an adult conversation at age 5 is too much.

[Anonymous]

Do people really think that annoyed, sarcastic comments really help children transition to being an older sibling or learn not to interrupt?
Maybe this nanny could have said, "annie, put your hand on your mom's shoulder while we finish our conversation, that way she will know that you want to talk to her when we are done." Or even, "Annie, the grown-ups are talking for 5 minutes, and then it will be your turn to talk to mom." Telling a 5 year old that she is going to be a crap older sister seems unnecessary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do people really think that annoyed, sarcastic comments really help children transition to being an older sibling or learn not to interrupt?
Maybe this nanny could have said, "annie, put your hand on your mom's shoulder while we finish our conversation, that way she will know that you want to talk to her when we are done." Or even, "Annie, the grown-ups are talking for 5 minutes, and then it will be your turn to talk to mom." Telling a 5 year old that she is going to be a crap older sister seems unnecessary.

The child IS annoying as even the mother admitted and I certainly don;t see where the nanny was being sarcastic! The child will not be the center of attention when the baby comes and will have to share her mother's time with the new baby. No one said anything about the child being a crap older sister?!!!

Seriously, PP, you are reading way more into this than was posted!!!

Yes, the nanny could have phrased it better but she was NOT rude and the child needs to be taught manners or she is going to have a horrible time at school and in life in general.

[Anonymous]

You shouldnt let your nanny talk like this to your child, what kind of person talks like this to a child? thats not right, I wouldnt want to have a nanny that would talk like this to my child, of course when a new baby arrives there are many changes in the family but tell your nanny to say the opposite to tell your child your mommy is having a new baby that you are going to love, its your baby also,we need to teach our children positive things not feelings of competitionfor attention and jealousy,, but of love, yes all children at some point will feel the shift of attention but saying this mean things will only make it worse

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter is five, teach her some manners. She shouldn't be interrupting.

+1000 Your child needs to learn not to interrupt your conversation with another adult whether it is on the phone or in person unless it is an emergency. Your nanny spoke out of frustration. If you don't want another adult to correct your child again, you'd best start taking care of this behavior now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You shouldnt let your nanny talk like this to your child, what kind of person talks like this to a child? thats not right, I wouldnt want to have a nanny that would talk like this to my child, of course when a new baby arrives there are many changes in the family but tell your nanny to say the opposite to tell your child your mommy is having a new baby that you are going to love, its your baby also,we need to teach our children positive things not feelings of competitionfor attention and jealousy,, but of love, yes all children at some point will feel the shift of attention but saying this mean things will only make it worse

Oh for God's sake - work on your English and punctuation, PP!

[Anonymous]

yes I will wok on my English troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:yes I will wok on my English troll

And stop drinking so early in the day, PP.

You already had your entire thread taken down - do you want to be banned from this site?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You shouldnt let your nanny talk like this to your child, what kind of person talks like this to a child? thats not right, I wouldnt want to have a nanny that would talk like this to my child, of course when a new baby arrives there are many changes in the family but tell your nanny to say the opposite to tell your child your mommy is having a new baby that you are going to love, its your baby also,we need to teach our children positive things not feelings of competitionfor attention and jealousy,, but of love, yes all children at some point will feel the shift of attention but saying this mean things will only make it worse

You are an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Nanny is probably fed up with wanting to go home on time but you insist on talking to your kids or letting them interrupt instead of listening to her then giving your kids attention once she is gone. You and your children are the rude ones and I'm dealing with the same thing. My charge is also 6 and constantly interrupts EVERYONE. She also constantly ignores people and always has to be prompted to say please, thank you, and excuse me. I'm glad I read the responses in here and know that not overreacting by telling her mother how rude her kids are and this has inspired me to look for another position.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you should get home 5-10 minutes before nanny's end time. Take 5 minutes to interact with your daughter, give her your full attention since she's most likely excited that you are home and then set up an activity like coloring or a puzzle and be very clear that she cannot interrupt you and the nanny while you are talking, unless it's an emergency. This way your daughter can interact with you immediately, nanny gets to leave on time, your child learns how to wait her turn, and you will actually get to hear everything nanny says.
If you're unable to get home early then ask nanny to write everything she wants to tell you in a notebook and you can go over it when you have a moment. Leave questions or comments in there and then nanny can answer them the next day

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She told my daughter that since I'm pregnant, she won't be the center of attention anymore. Usually when I come in, in the evening nanny tries to talk to me about the day but dd is always interrupting. She does this any time I try to talk to another adult. I guess nanny was annoyed because she said "you know Annie, you won't be the center of attention after the baby comes, you'll have to share your mommy". I have tried very hard to keep my dd from feeling replaced. She is five and very high needs but nanny thinks she is spoiled. How should I address this with nanny.

You don't have to talk to your nanny about that,but you have to talk to your child about everything about the new baby.

[Anonymous]

Oh boy. I don't think she was rude but I do think five is too old to be interrupting constantly. I catch myself correcting my charge in front of his parents constantly because they just let him do it. It's frustrating.