Nanny was rude to my child.

[Anonymous]

She told my daughter that since I'm pregnant, she won't be the center of attention anymore. Usually when I come in, in the evening nanny tries to talk to me about the day but dd is always interrupting. She does this any time I try to talk to another adult. I guess nanny was annoyed because she said "you know Annie, you won't be the center of attention after the baby comes, you'll have to share your mommy". I have tried very hard to keep my dd from feeling replaced. She is five and very high needs but nanny thinks she is spoiled. How should I address this with nanny.

[Anonymous]

Just talk to your nanny about how you want to handle situations like this. But seriously, OP, your daughter does sound spoiled. You, DH and nanny have to come up with a unified way to deal with the interruptions when you are talking and other discipline issues.

[Anonymous]

Interrupting isn't OK and your daughter needs to learn this. Nanny was right. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Your daughter is five, teach her some manners. She shouldn't be interrupting.

[Anonymous]

MB here. Does your daughter have any diagnosed conditions?

If not then I think the nanny was foolish to say that in front of you but she's probably right.

Sounds like you don't particularly respect your nanny.

[Anonymous]

I think your five year old was rude, not your nanny. Your daughter WILL have to learn to share, and to wait. The nanny was right. Maybe your daughter is rude and interrupts because you don't discipline her enough?

[Anonymous]

Nanny wasn't rude to your child, your child was rude to the nanny who just wanted to finish her work day and go home. Teach her to wait her turn and not to interrupt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nanny wasn't rude to your child, your child was rude to the nanny who just wanted to finish her work day and go home. Teach her to wait her turn and not to interrupt.

+1 High needs is not special needs, and your daughter isn't 2 anymore. Teach her now or you'll regret not doing it when the baby comes.

[Anonymous]

No five-year-old should still be interrupting. As stated, high needs is NOT special needs. A high needs child actually needs more rules and restrictions than a normal child.

Your nanny was not rude, OP. If you do not like the nanny's approach to talking about the new baby that is a different thing entirely and needs to be discussed openly. But under no rules of etiquette was your nanny "rude".

[Anonymous]

I believe that at your daughter's age, it is very important to teach her good manners. It is very rude to interrupt you when you are having an important conversation w/your night nanny. Period.

Who is the adult here + who is the child....??! Your daughter should know by now who the authority figure is in the family.

By your own admission, it sounds to me as if your daughter has been regularly interrupting your talks w/your nanny and I think you have been letting her get away w/it for a long time. That is why your nanny thinks your child is spoiled & that could also be why she finally put her foot down and said what she did to your child.

I understand fully how important it is to you to try to erode any feelings of being replaced by the new sibling. Yet, I think you missed the boat on this one.

Teaching a young child life manners does not equate making your child feel 2nd best.

That is like comparing apples to oranges.

I commend your nanny for teaching a huge life lesson to your daughter.

[Anonymous]

If you think your nanny was rude, I'm not at all surprised that your kid has no understanding of etiquette. You both need to be educated on proper behavior. Interrupting is rude. Correcting a child that is being rude is not rude. Stating a fact is not rude. Your daughter is not the center of the universe, she will have to share you, and it is best that she learn now that butting in to other people's conversations is unacceptable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She told my daughter that since I'm pregnant, she won't be the center of attention anymore. Usually when I come in, in the evening nanny tries to talk to me about the day but dd is always interrupting. She does this any time I try to talk to another adult. I guess nanny was annoyed because she said "you know Annie, you won't be the center of attention after the baby comes, you'll have to share your mommy". I have tried very hard to keep my dd from feeling replaced. She is five and very high needs but nanny thinks she is spoiled. How should I address this with nanny.

Your daughter is spoiled, OP. Five is way too old not to have some manners. And while DD will not be replaced by the new baby, she will have to share your and nanny's time and attention so the nanny told the absolute truth. Your nanny was NOT RUDE in what she said.

[Anonymous]

1. Your daughterb is an effong rude brat.
2. Nanny is correct.
3. You are the reason your DD is an effing rude brat.
4. Give nanny a raise.

[Anonymous]

I don't think the nanny was rude to your child. She simply stated a fact.

[Anonymous]

Your nanny was not rude to your child, OP. Your child is spoiled and too old for that crap. Period. And if you think you will be able to give her your 100% undivided attention when the new baby is here you are in for a rude awakening.

- MB of two.