MB complains about how hard it is for her on weekends...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:... when she and DB take care of their toddler. There are two of them.


And yet MB never once says that my job of caring for her child alone for 11 hours a day, five days a week, is hard or even challenging/tiring. And she doesn't do any of her child's laundry, cook for him, or clean his room like I I do.

I love my charge and I love being a nanny but I am really getting tired of MB's whining every Monday about how exhausting her weekend with her child was.

Why are you working 11 hours a day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In all honesty, for people who are good with kids naturally, it is MUCH easier. I have little moments of panic at being alone with my kids, because it's not natural for me. I'm not a maternal person and don't think all kids are adorable. It IS mentally exhausting to me.

This is something that comes easier to you.

Then why did you have children?

[Anonymous]

Oh, dear me, 17:26 et al, poor, poor little weekend moms. So much to do, so little time. So you have to do things f o r your house and kids? NEWS FLASH: This is life. Stop whining.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a mom and can tell you that when I have a day to focus solely on my kids it feels entirely different than when I have to focus on my kids, plus errands, plus other household management, plus being a decent spouse, plus thinking about which bills to pay...you get the idea. I think you're underestimating the value of being able to focus on one job at a time. When I'm home with my kids on the weekend my attention is divided by many more jobs other than just my kids. I don't sit down during the weekends. My nanny sits down for a couple of hours each day.

Not OP but another nanny and I don't sit down all day either.

Don't you have a husband to help you on weekends? I am alone with my charges all day long and do have their laundry and cooking to attend to as well as their errands. I nanny for a newborn and a 3.5 year old - I don't generally get a lot of time to focus on one thing at a time either. So I am doing basically what you are doing but without the help of my husband or any second adult.

Plus they are YOUR KIDS.

OP wasn't even complaining about her work - just her MBs whining as if she, the MB, has is so hard.

I have a husband. On weekends, we are home with four kids. Nanny has only two kids all day. On weekends, we still do laundry; we sort clothes. Shop for shoes. Plan meals for the week and grocery shop. Go to the hardware store. Run around to sports, activities, etc. Plan birthday parties. Fix the toilet that keeps running. Replace light bulbs. Check and respond to work emails. Our kids are only one of many responsibilities. There is a HUGE difference if I decide to focus only on kids or kid tasks and leave aside the other vast pile of work - mental and physical - that is a part of my usual weekend. Weekdays with just my two younger kids at home feels like vacation.

Yes, I am sure your nanny has it so easy (her life is a vacation) and your life is so, so hard! Poor you, PP. How awful things must be for you!! Maybe you could get your husband to do something so it doesn't all fall on you! You do everything!

You poor, poor thing - forced to have four children! And how lucky for your nanny to never have to ever see your two older kids even when they are sick or on vacation or when they come home from school.

Your life truly is hell, PP. You are absolutely right in never acknowledging what your nanny does for your younger kids - her life is a vacation caring for your children five days a week (Your weekend is just two days, right PP? -- never mind it doesn't matter -- your two days are much harder than her five days with your children).

[Anonymous]

I am a nanny and I go home at night and on weekends to two kids, a husband and a house, too. I have groceries to buy, dinners to make, light bulbs to change and toilets to fix.

I love these women who think that their lives are so much harder than their nanny's life!

I love being a nanny. I love caring for and teaching little ones all day. And the job would truly be perfect if it weren't for the "long-suffering" MBs I have had to deal with over the years.

Would a simple "thank you" choke them to death?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:... when she and DB take care of their toddler. There are two of them.


And yet MB never once says that my job of caring for her child alone for 11 hours a day, five days a week, is hard or even challenging/tiring. And she doesn't do any of her child's laundry, cook for him, or clean his room like I I do.

I love my charge and I love being a nanny but I am really getting tired of MB's whining every Monday about how exhausting her weekend with her child was.

Why are you working 11 hours a day?

That is what the job entails - 7AM to 6PM Monday thru Friday.

[Anonymous]

I have never thought that a day with my (4) kids was harder than my weekday job. I still manage to thank my nanny for all that she does. It isn't that hard.

What are these people doing that taking care of kids and going grocery shopping is harder than a job that affords a nanny and UMC lifestyle? I want that job!

[Anonymous]

^^ it isn't that hard to say "thank you." It is hard to take care of kids, even just the younger two.

[Anonymous]

How annoying!

Next time she does this (and for all the next times afterward) I would just interrupt her + change the subject right away.

Discuss your plans for the day, etc....Anything to get her to zip her lip.

Hopefully she will realize how petty she sounds and will stop venting to you every week.

Let's see how it goes.

[Anonymous]

She might mean how hard it is to do household admin, errands, yard work, bills, etc in the weekend WHILE caring for the toddler.
There is a big difference working in someone else's house with only one focus versus working in your own house where you see things that need to get done everywhere you look (not just cooking, playing and cleaning up toys).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a nanny and I go home at night and on weekends to two kids, a husband and a house, too. I have groceries to buy, dinners to make, light bulbs to change and toilets to fix.

I love these women who think that their lives are so much harder than their nanny's life!

I love being a nanny. I love caring for and teaching little ones all day. And the job would truly be perfect if it weren't for the "long-suffering" MBs I have had to deal with over the years.

Would a simple "thank you" choke them to death?

So OP is looking for a thank you or what? So far all she said is MB mentioned how busy or tiring her weekend was. Big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a nanny and I go home at night and on weekends to two kids, a husband and a house, too. I have groceries to buy, dinners to make, light bulbs to change and toilets to fix.

I love these women who think that their lives are so much harder than their nanny's life!

I love being a nanny. I love caring for and teaching little ones all day. And the job would truly be perfect if it weren't for the "long-suffering" MBs I have had to deal with over the years.

Would a simple "thank you" choke them to death?

So OP is looking for a thank you or what? So far all she said is MB mentioned how busy or tiring her weekend was. Big deal.

How tiring her weekend was WITH the help of her husband when OP does it every day, five days a week, all alone.

I am an MB and this would irk me as well if I were a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She might mean how hard it is to do household admin, errands, yard work, bills, etc in the weekend WHILE caring for the toddler.
There is a big difference working in someone else's house with only one focus versus working in your own house where you see things that need to get done everywhere you look (not just cooking, playing and cleaning up toys).

You are right, it IS much different working is someone else's house because after I spend 10 hour making sure theirs is clean, running smoothly, stocked with food, etc. I STILL have my own to go home to and do the same thing. And I didn't get to spend the day at work socializing with peers, taking an hour lunch break, and going to the bathroom in peace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She might mean how hard it is to do household admin, errands, yard work, bills, etc in the weekend WHILE caring for the toddler.
There is a big difference working in someone else's house with only one focus versus working in your own house where you see things that need to get done everywhere you look (not just cooking, playing and cleaning up toys).

Come on - she has another adult there to help her. I do household admin, yard work, bills, etc while caring for my toddler and have a husband there to help me. My weekends are much easier than our nanny's weekdays because there is a second adult present.

I get it, OP, and a lot of MB's get it (many of us have bosses in our jobs who pull similar crap).

[Anonymous]

People complain. That's what they do. Most of the posters on this thread are complaining.

Just ignore it, OP. Or agree with her about how hard it is caring for her children during the week. Starting a whiny thread about how unappreciated you think you are is not a productive way to solve your problem. It just brings out the nanny trolls who have contempt for their MBs. No wonder they aren't thanked.