MB pregnant but not telling me
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Anonymous
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OP here. Im not listening all b*** es who just dont know how to answer the question. you all so sad to me.
Yes i am a helper but i am a damn good helper! And dont forget who you are! Anyways, i saw ultrasound pictures, prenatal vit. They are not trying to hide it and thats why im wondering why they are not telling me. |
Anonymous
I hope she did if all you gave her was $1.00 increase for new baby. |
Anonymous
Maybe they lost that baby and are trying for another. Or maybe sense you have seen all that stuff in what I assume is a common area she figures you know and doesn't feel the need to make a big announcement to you. I truly don't know. I don't understand why you are so upset over this. |
Anonymous
| omg if you're that nosey just ask (even though it's inappropriate) |
Anonymous
I think she's waiting until she knows what she wants to do with your job while she's on maternity leave. She may not need as many hours of childcare, but realizes cutting your hours might mean loosing you. So she's probably just weighing her options and will discuss it with you when she's ready to answer the questions you inevitably will have. |
Anonymous
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I don't know whether or not it is "normal," but considering you both have a good relationship going on, I would be curious to know why she hasn't yet shared her good news w/you.
Perhaps she is going to stay home full~time w/this new baby + doesn't yet know how to break it to you. This is the only thing I can think of. This pregnancy must involve something job~related or I am sure she would have told you. Please keep us updated. |
Anonymous
| OP she's only in her fourth month (by your guess). she could still very well be in her first trimester. get off her back!! |
Anonymous
Yes! You need to calm down. This isn't your business. It will be eventually, as it will pertain to your job, but right now it just isn't about you. |
Anonymous
| Op here. You all so very much appreciate. I'm not patient because I don't want to work for them any more but I don't want to quit. I already make $20/h and working 50h a week and I wouldn't accept less than $5 /h extra for the newborn. I wanna use it as an excuse to leave the job and cannot wait till we have that conversation !!! |
Anonymous
Ooooh. So you're rude and immature. Well, that's something else entirely then. Maybe the MB will be glad to use this as a reason to let you go. |
Anonymous
| If you are not interested in staying on then your focus should be exit planning. Her decision to tell you sooner or later will not impact the timing of your leaving - the pregnancy will only be nine months either way. So, you know what you want and you know when you want it. Now start looking for your next position. |
Anonymous
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With my #3, I was diagnosed with a serious condition that made her a miracle baby (I had less than 25% chance carrying to term). We did not tell grandparents until 6 months. Stuff happens.
If you want to leave anyway, just leave. It is not good for the family or the children to have a "checked out" nanny. |
Anonymous
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Dear OP, Sorry about all the nasty posters here.
If I were you, I would ask her since a new baby certainly affects your job. Ask her today. You are right on target with expecting a $5/hr bump up in your rates. New babies are a ton of work. Could they afford that? But you can discuss that later. |
Anonymous
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Ooooh. So you're rude and immature. Well, that's something else entirely then. Maybe the MB will be glad to use this as a reason to let you go. Oh pp explain please words you use (op here) why i am immature?? I already take care of 17 months old and 3 year old (not even 3 years old yet!!!) who is part time in so called preschool. I know that 17 months old will start preschool 9-12 and the 3 year old 9-3 and i will have to pick them up with the baby in tow. She gave me $2 for the second child so i am assuming she will offer me $2 this time as well. Plus she mentioned few weeks ago she will stay home on Wednesdays (from September) so i will be working 4 days a week. Well in this case i will be loosing my overtime which is over $300 a week. Thats the reason why i dont want to work for them. I could handle 3 kids but this is not going to be a good for me anymore. so why i am rude and immature? |
Anonymous
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because, OP, you need to grow up and quit if you want to. "I want her to tell me her private business ASAP so I can use that to quit."
if you are unhappy, quit. we aren't interested in your sob story about your responsibilities - if you feel you are being taken advantage of or this job is too much work for you, quit. it's rude of you to want your MB to tell you about this - something that is likely very exciting for her - just so you can quit. grow up and tell them you would like to move on |